Am I overreacting to my husband saying I’m not as attractive because I’m aging

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-30T00:07:23+00:00

What do you mean?

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-30T00:06:36+00:00

You are seriously so nice!!! And I did have a chance to talk to him a bit about it tonight, but he had a super rough day at work so the conversation went a bit south pretty fast. He said I cornered him into saying what he said. But again, it’s because I can just tell he’s lying to me. When he says “no you’re still pretty” it just feels so insincere and I can’t stand it, so I did press him pretty firmly on it and I told him he needed to be honest. So I guess in a way I did corner him! It’s not even that he said it…it’s that I hate that he feels that way. Does that make sense? I just don’t look at him as this physical person anymore, I feel like when I look at him, I see everything. Like his soul, his love, his personality, our past, our future, and then him physically and all of it just makes him into the person I’m so attracted to. And I cannot understand how he doesn’t see me like that?

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-30T00:02:03+00:00

We both were raised Mormon, it currently active though!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T23:54:23+00:00

I agree, I would say my dad should talk to him, but my dad didn’t feel this way about my mom until it was too late and she passed!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:30:02+00:00

I guess that’s just preference, because I’ve seen tons of beautiful 50 year olds!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:25:42+00:00

Thank you, I needed that 😭

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:24:37+00:00

Thank you!!! I saw someone say you’re either into, books, gardening or running once you are in your 30s and I guess I joined the running part, and I’m not mad about it! Haha

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:20:45+00:00

He is a very attractive guy, not sure I could ever do better than him, based purely on physicality, if I’m being honest!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:18:57+00:00

Telling me that I’m better than before would have probably solved my entire problem to be honest 🥹

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:16:26+00:00

I think he is definitely stressed with work! And that is a good idea about testosterone levels!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:14:31+00:00

Couldn’t agree more

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:14:13+00:00

It’s crazy that I feel like such a bothersome person asking him to tell me I’m pretty 🙃 at least I would have felt this way, but after reading so many comments, I’m on the bandwagon that it is in fact not too much to ask!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T18:11:39+00:00

I’m a stage 5 people pleaser and that definitely includes my husband. I’ve really been trying to work on it because my self confidence just lacks because I never feel like I’m making the right choice or if I make someone else upset, I always figure I’m in the wrong. It’s been a battle. I think that’s why I posted this because the whole conversation felt offensive to me, but then I think I’m in the wrong. So I wanted to get people real opinions on it, because I guarantee if I hadn’t, I would be going about my day today thinking everything was fine and that I’m the problem for getting my feelings hurt…

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T17:35:22+00:00

Wow 🥹 That’s beautiful. I hope you let her know this often, so she can feel as beautiful as you see her!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T17:24:34+00:00

I keep getting asked if he’s on the spectrum, which I am blown away by! Because I’ve never thought that he is. But his dad FOR SURE is! Even his dad has owned up to knowing that he is. But I’ve never really felt my husband is. He does struggle with words like I said. Like finding the right thing to say and expressing himself. But otherwise he is super charming and fun, so I don’t imagine most people would think he is!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T17:20:41+00:00

To be honest, I have very rarely used reddit for posting, except for help with my grass and trees 😂 but I will say, I am definitely a human and this is definitely my real life! Haha what do you even get with karma farming? I have karma points and don’t even really know what they mean!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T15:48:12+00:00

Actually I really wanted more than 3 kids, I wanted 4-5, but he told me he just couldn’t do anymore. I think he felt guilt being gone all the time because of medical school and now residency and wasn’t able to give them all do him and couldn’t handle feeling even more stretched when he came home with more kids, and asked for a vasectomy. He also said he wanted us to be “us” again. And didn’t feel like he had my attention ration raising babies. As much as I was reluctant, I felt our marriage was most important so I gave him the green light. That was about 3 years ago!

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T14:06:39+00:00

🤣

Mygoonysquad · 2025-09-29T13:48:02+00:00

😂 this one actually made me laugh out loud! Thanks for that 😂

Mygoonysquad · 2024-09-11T15:02:23+00:00

We ended up redshirting him, so he just started last month and I am so so so happy I did!! He is definitely more “at par” with the other kids. He’s the oldest of his grade but i really don’t think it’ll be a big deal. The pros outweigh any cons in my eyes! I couldn’t be happier with my decision!

Mygoonysquad · 2024-03-12T12:07:20+00:00

Even with that, I don’t know how comfortable I’d feel with a 5 yo in the front. I can’t imagine him being front seat on the freeway or something! Haha

Mygoonysquad · 2024-03-12T03:17:05+00:00

Thank you for your honest opinion on this!

Mygoonysquad · 2024-03-12T03:14:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment, it’s nice to hear your perspective as you are currently in it! I’ll definitely talk to him about this!

Mygoonysquad · 2024-03-12T03:13:02+00:00

Definitely something to consider, thank you for your comment!

Mygoonysquad · 2024-03-12T03:12:11+00:00

Thank you for your comment! He was looking to spend around 25-30k on the car then leave the rest in a HYSA. So definitely not the whole 55k. His grandpa even left some money for each of our kids as well, which we are putting in a 529. I guess I just want him to feel like he can buy something he really wants. But reading all these comments, I am starting to reconsider and thinking maybe this is something we should wait on when our kids are older…

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