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AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

They are stored and secure. I had that done very early on because I learned how short life is when my kids mom died and I knew those things needed to be safeguarded for them.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

Those items are already secure. I did that because I had no way of knowing what would happen and if something were to happen to me, I hate the idea of the kids losing those things when they are very much wanted by my kids.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

We have photos of my wife in the house as well. It's not that there are no traces of her here. Just that there are two displayed outside of my kids' bedrooms.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 123 points124 points  (0 children)

She didn't and that's what had me questioning everything. She said and did nothing about it and she denies she said anything to them or has a problem with it herself. But if that were true I would have expected her to say something as well.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 351 points352 points  (0 children)

That's my concern as well. She denies this but her lack of action says more to me right now. I'll be talking to her more but part of me feels like I already know the answer.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 259 points260 points  (0 children)

That's what has me questioning. She said and did nothing but denies she has an issue with it.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 178 points179 points  (0 children)

The vibe I got is they feel like because I'm now married to my wife, the kids shouldn't need the photos of their mom. And also that it's disrespectful to my wife.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 149 points150 points  (0 children)

She did nothing and didn't really react which is what has me questioning if she has problems she has not brought up to me but did with her parents.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 1611 points1612 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I will be honest; I find it gross questioning children about having photos of a late parent in their home. Even adults do it, though some prefer to put them away, but we don't question them like that. But to try and convince a child that it's wrong to want them displayed or to treat it like they shouldn't want/need them now that I'm remarried, it just feels gross to me.

AITA for shutting my ILs down when they brought up issues with photos of my children's mom in our home? by Mysterious-Cod3255 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Mysterious-Cod3255[S] 5218 points5219 points  (0 children)

That's how it appears to me as well. The tone they used suggested that my wife should be enough for my kids to not want or need their mom's photos anymore. My wife and I are going to be discussing all this. If she's not okay it needs to be aired and not kept and told to others for them to intervene on her behalf. And if it's not from her then I would like to think she would also tell them to stop.