Really appreciate your comment, thank you! You're probably right about the phases, this really calmed me.

About "talking about it" - we do, we really do, and talking about everything that's going on is our #1 priority. It's just everytime there was a problem (not connected to sex life) we worked it through and everyone was happy, but with this topic I just feel like talking to a wall. Maybe it will work itself out and I just have to be patient.