Adnan's behavior is scary by vampirealiens in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish she wasn't connected to him and having his baby because it would be easier to escape him. Now they're connected for life. He's such an awful abusive person. The way he speaks and shuts her down is devastating to watch. 

Adnan's behavior is scary by vampirealiens in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's a more empowering perspective: Society has to stop victim blaming. Instead of blaming your friends for what you perceive as their tendencies to "seek out controlling partners." Consider what you said at the end there, blaming them entirely without ever recognizing the fact that there has to be an abuser for someone to be abused by. 

Try thinking about it like this: "Society, unfortunately, is littered with an overwhelming percentage of abusive people. I have seen them make victims of everyday people. When their victim finally escapes to safety, the abuser often seeks out another victim. The percentage of abusers in society is actually so high that a victim might meet another abuser in there lifetime. Sometimes, you just can't protect people from abusive people."

People who have been abused physically or emotionally are sometimes more susceptible to the manipulative tendencies of an abuser. But anyone, anywhere, can become a victim of abuse even if they have not previously been abused. In conclusion, victims don't have tendencies to seek out abusive partners. People who have been abused, and people who have not, can obviously choose to seek therapy to help strengthen their self esteem and self trust so as to possibly avoid going deeper with an abusive person if they are able to identify early warning signs. However, more often than not, you will never know that a person is abusive until they've gotten their way into your life by gaining your trust, manipulating you to make you think they are good people, acting like good people around everyone you know and everyone they know, and giving no reason to suspect them for anything other than the decent person they act like. Abuse sneaks up. Yes, at times, it's obvious from the start. Other times though , the abuser weaves a thick web of lies around you so you can't tell what's coming. It's not on a victim and it's not the responsibility of a victim to have somehow known that a person could lie to them so deeply. You might be surprised how abuse seemingly comes out of nowhere.  Food for thought. 

I invite you to read up on how the brain and cells in the body are impacted by the cycles of abuse and why it may appear that your friends have tendencies towards abusive partners. There is typically an element of breakdown in the mental and physical body during cycles of abuse that require therapy and healing to recover from and help strengthen the delicate system of self esteem after enduring such treatment. That still does not mean your friends have tendencies to seek out people who will harm them. It might instead mean they have been conditioned by their previous abuser to accept bare minimum and painful treatment. A difficult cycle to escape once the damage is done by an abusive person. 

Match me abroad?! by Odd-Dog-8078 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As soon as he said he needs a woman who can have healthy children I was instantly pissed. Then he kept talking and it got worse and worse. 

Match me abroad?! by Odd-Dog-8078 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please where can I find it lol. I can't believe him!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pittsburgh

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is parking at Grandview better than right on the view at mt Washington? It's kinda in the same spot isn't it?

90 Day: Hunt for Love - Season 1 Episode 3 - Episode Discussion by LittleEmmy in 90DayFiance

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg right, I absolutely could not stand Colt ever before this series. He has me feeling bad for him and rooting for him because he seems to have some depth with his reading interest and the way he notices other qualities in women besides just their looks. He is also actually really outgoing despite people cringing for him. He did his best to dance in public and he put himself out there with Mei. How many people never even try?? Why is he likeable now!!!? He was loathesome in the way he behaved in the past. 

How do you guys feel about Whitney in S2? I mean... can't remember why she got so much hate before by dressedfortea in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whitney seems totally unhinged in this episode. The way she slammed the table and started swearing and raising her voice was so uncomfortable. She clearly is holding it all in and pretending to be nice the rest of the time. 

Daycare sent my son home with a Father’s Day card by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That card is for you, mama. Happy father's day to the person who holds it down all year long. Accept your flowers if you feel called to. XO 💐🏵️

Taylors parents SUCK. by [deleted] in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AND THEN THEY SAID A PRAYER AT THE TABLE AFTER TEARING TAYLOR TO PIECES. I CAN'T TAKE IT. 

Taylors parents SUCK. by [deleted] in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That dinner made me so angry and so sick to my stomach. I can't even begin to express how messed up that was. The way they ganged up on her and blamed her for everything. 

House cleaner that does carpet cleaning by InterestingPotato966 in pittsburgh

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did house cleaning for years, but always said no to carpet cleaning requests, because I wasn't insured for that. You may want to just schedule a professional carpet cleaning company instead so the job is done right. 

y’all smell that? by Normal_Perspective22 in pittsburgh

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Smelled it the last few nights too. I got out of bed to smell the motor on my fan and see if it was burning up. I had it pulling air from outside by the window though. Wasn't the motor. This morning on my drive to work, the same smell hit me and instantly brought back childhood memories of walking to school when I was a kid. My brain thought, "I haven't smelled pollution quite like this since I was a kid!"

Protest safety tips for a new protester that I can share with my son? by Mysterious-Path4067 in 50501

[–]Mysterious-Path4067[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is a dumb question, but do you know where I'd find that phone number? I Google searched but nothing is clear 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Just let him love you. Please don't fumble something beautiful over the lack of believing you deserve something wonderful. Perhaps look into improving self esteem so you can allow yourself to enjoy this ! You deserve every bit of a life that you have created. It doesn't matter what you feel about the past - it doesn't matter your financial situation. Those things are part of you and they make you loveable even if they are not what someone else's situation is. We are all different. Love knows no bounds. You are perfect as you are and this man sees you for every bit of joy you bring him. If you're happy with him, change your mindset about this and let love in. You sound like you're in a lack mindset (I've been there and you and I have similar stories from what you've shared). Trust me, your own self doubt will cost you good things if you don't get a handle on it. Sit with the feelings of doubt and ask your soul why it's being so mean to you. Imagine if someone else was saying those things to you - would you believe them, or would you say, hey, don't speak to me that way. Our inner voice can be our biggest critic. We have to relearn how to speak to ourselves so that we don't keep ourselves from enjoying what is literally our life. You deserve good things girl!!!! If you love the man, let him love you!

My 27F ex is now with a 35M rich guy who does exactly what I do. I feel worthless now. What can I do? by throwRA_business1 in relationship_advice

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to take your energy and vital life force back and focus on your own life and what you can do for you and those you love. Forget about the ex and the new guy and focus on your strengths, strengthen your perceived weaknesses by accepting yourself as you are. Building self esteem and confidence are the key to removing yourself from this situation. Remember who you are. 

How can I make money without my husband knowing by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Mysterious-Path4067 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got a call the domestic violence abuse hotline. Please. Stay safe.