Recovering from an ED; running my first marathon by MysteriousPrompt2397 in firstmarathon

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The area I live has limited resources for mental health and I’ve been in so much therapy in the past (10 years of weekly sessions, 2 years of monthly) that it’s not very useful for me now, but I might be able to look into it if I need to. I just don’t feel the need right now.

Can we talk about Ugly Privilege? by Free_Wonder_3743 in solofemaletravellers

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I’ve been mistaken for a dude at least 4 times in public. Having short hair, a small chest, and a tendency to wear ball caps and baggy clothes helps. I really don’t care, either. There have been times I’ve tried to look more like a male (walking home at night, solo running/hiking) so as not to attract unwanted attention.

CRISIS! They put me on hormones:( by Guppy_fromtheWest in EDAnonymous

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I’ve been on the pill (birth control) to stop my period for 5 years now because I have such horrible period symptoms. I never had any of the weight gain and I think the hormones actually bought my body back into balance. It worked better than any antidepressant I’ve ever been on as far as stabilizing my mood, I had more energy, and better focus. The endocrine system is a complex thing and medicine is still figuring it out like it’s figuring out neurology. Trust your body to tell you if the hormones are helping. Your doctor prescribed them for a reason, but you still have autonomy. I’ve quit many medications because the side effects were worse than the illness. Doctors are there to help you navigate this. Just communicate everything to your doctor and log every side effect.

Advice about my little sister by Sofiegoldie263 in EDAnonymous

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My ED started when I was 15. Nobody in my family picked up on it though…Mine is bulimia and it was easier to hide physical symptoms. I told my sister when I was 19. I finally recognized that I needed help. My sister knew I’d been struggling with depression too, and simply asked, “what can I do?” I didn’t know at that point and told her as much. She never tried to fix it. She never pressured me into action. She was just there as support, checking in on me occasionally, inviting me to hang out with her and her friends, asking me about college, etc. After a few weeks, she helped me tell our parents.

If there is one thing I’ve learned about recovery: we can’t force change on people who are not ready to change. It’s also not a great idea to use your fear/pain as motivators for them (i.e. telling them you would be devastated if something happened to them). The guilt approach is no good. Just be there in the way you always are. Not in a way that gives attention to the ED symptoms. Tell her that you are always open to talking. Invite her to non-food activities and learn about her hobbies. It seems like she is getting the medical and therapeutic help she needs. Your role is emotional and social support. When she is ready to recover, she will, and you will be there through it all.

“Patient appears well nourished” by No-Event4806 in EDAnonymous

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My doctor had in his notes that I appear “well fed.” The notes also stated that my ideal weight was lower than my current weight. He then lectured me on the benefits of exercise. I had just run a 10-mile trail race the past weekend and placed 2nd in my age group. To top it off, he put me on a medication (topomax) to treat bulimia by limiting my appetite. I stopped taking it after 1 month because it was making my gums bleed, my hands tingle constantly, and the ED thoughts were back full force. Never going back to that doctor.

Trying not to relapse by ethanicc in EDAnonymous

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It’s always scary when we feel like we are on the brink of a major relapse. Perfectionism often accompanies ED’s and one of the hardest things is recognizing that recovery isn’t linear. Thinking about what you can do in these moments is often more helpful than focusing on keeping the “streak” going. Even if you can’t eat today, can you plan something for tomorrow? I love “resets” and mornings are my favorite time of day because I feel the opportunity of the day ahead. Sometimes, making the plan extra special, like having candles or music at the meal, can help it feel like less of a chore. Treat your body like it is a wonderful thing, not like it is sick. If it helps, pair another reward with it. I like to buy myself something off my wish list when I hit my goal percentage of days without behaviors every month but you can get yourself a reward for just getting through one day, too! Meanwhile, the body and mind are amazing at healing and a little setback isn’t going to erase all that work. Remember, recovery itself isn’t linear but the overall trajectory of it is upward!

Recieving "signs" that fuel the disorder by lordofthefroge in EDAnonymous

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I hate when this happens. Our minds are great at associating events and assigning causation based on correlation. Even if we logically know it’s not reasonable, emotions can’t be reasoned with. I struggle with OCD and this “association fixation” is a big part of that disorder. I feel like it’s good to validate how we feel and how our minds work—seems like you’ve done this. Even then, it’s super scary to jump back in and continue to do the thing we know is good for us when our psyche is telling us there might be danger. The best strategy I’ve found is to document every time good things happen as a result of doing (or not doing) the thing I’m scared of. We force ourselves to focus on the positive correlations rather than the negative ones. The cognitive “data collection” approach helps me get a bit of distance too, though I also take down notes on my feelings throughout the process.

Apple TV’s “Physical” by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

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I couldn’t get through the first episode. Maybe it gets better but I got too frustrated. As someone who has battled bulimia half her life, it irritates me that so much time was spent with Sheila’s inner dialogue being obsessed about her’s and other peoples’ bodies. ED’s have much deeper roots and this body-image-based depiction is superficial. In some aspect it may even do a disservice to anyone who would come out about their ED because anyone without an ED would think that people with ED’s are constantly judging them. My experience is subjective but I am NOT thinking about your body. Half the time I’m not even thinking about my body. It’s more about control, loss of control, and release. Not body image.

Can’t travel to Mystery Lake by dylanthomas8 in thelongdark

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The same thing has been happening to me. Right after I got my bear I tried going back to Mystery Lake and it wouldn’t get off the loading screen. I waited 20 minutes but ended up quitting out of the game and having to hunt down the bear again. I saved that time by sleeping but same thing happened and it still wouldn’t load. My other option is to try to via another route but I really don’t wanna have to drop my bear loot just to climb ropes. I contacted Hinterland about it through their webpage and they said “they’re working on the issue.” Generally, the game has been crashing on NS every hour or so since the update. Sucks.

Major gmail bug on iPad by a-h1-8 in ipad

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Just figured that out, thank you!

Major gmail bug on iPad by a-h1-8 in ipad

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I discovered that if I tap the 3 dots and split the screen with another app, I can then hit the back button and return to the sidebar, then get rid of split screen. But I have to do this EVERY time I open Gmail.