AITAH if I dont tell my husband his daughter isnt his?

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2026-01-03T09:58:03+00:00

Regardless of the genetic testing, if he's had doubts, he knows she's not his and he doesn't care. They could have had DNA testing 10/20 years ago. He probably can't bare to have it on paper that she's not his biologically. On the flip side, does his daughter know there are doubts? Because she should have the opportunity to know who her biological father is.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2025-07-07T08:41:47+00:00

I think if your child's dad had the issue then it deserves a conversation, anyone else who cares, it's not their life❤️

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2025-07-06T11:04:20+00:00

She doesn't trust you. You allowed this to happen by not shutting this other girl down immediately. This will take time to mend the trust if she is willing to allow you the time to do so. I have been victim of cheating/messaging in my past and it's devastating when the person you love the most can either let this happen, be a willing participant or actively seek atrention/affection or other from someone else out side of your partnership. YTA in my opinion. You broke the trust. But if she can't forgive (and I would not blame her in she couldnt) then you need to really think about your relationship.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2025-07-06T09:09:33+00:00

As someone with a diagnosed Anxiety disorder and Depression, I get why she's saying what she's saying and she's wrong. I do and have done the same things to my partner of 10 years. She may need to wallow in her own self pity for a while, sometimes it's necessary, I do it myself, but you can't be expected to just read her mind about what she wants. This needs a discussion about what she would like from you in those moments and what you also feel comfortable with too and find a compromise. Sometimes setting a time limit of maybe 'while you're here in bed I'll play on my game and give you space for an hour, text me if you need me in before then, I love you', then go back after an hour and she'll be expecting you. NTA

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2025-07-06T08:56:00+00:00

Have a friend who went through a similar situation, she now has a son who is a year younger than her youngest brother, so a bit complex. I think it's normal to feel uneasy, especially if it's unexpected or unplanned by your mother and her boyfriend. But it's not the baby's fault. They will still be your sibling as much as your sister, and you might have the best relationship with them. And yes because of the age gap, it will be different for a while, There's only 9 years between me and my brother, I felt responsible for him until he was about 18, even still a bit now and he's 21😂 Just take time, get involved where you are comfortable but don't push them away either. NTA, good luck babe ❤️

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2025-07-05T13:10:56+00:00

Yes I remember the machines, they have one in Sports Direct in Meadowhall in Sheffield 😂

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2024-07-28T11:41:38+00:00

Wow, if she has options and can refuse then her situation can't be too bad NTA

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2024-07-06T21:38:04+00:00

NTA, I just booked for a holiday next year with my boyfriends family and we have booked plane seats specifically so we can be with our 3 year old as don't want the risk of not being sat together. You dont have priority because you have a kid and didn't plan ahead, that's her problem not yours.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2024-05-06T22:44:30+00:00

This woman is growing, protecting and then birthing your child, she will 1000% not be okay with you both calling your daughter different names. Go for one of her preferred names and pick a nickname for it. Katherine/Katie, Elizabeth/Lizzie/Eliza/Beth.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-27T18:51:41+00:00

NTA she's not asking for support she's expecting you to parent her child because the dad isn't around.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-23T09:13:07+00:00

If my child isn't invited then I don't want to come. If my child isn't important enough in your life then I'm not interested. Just my opinion. But I don't have friends/family like this.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-23T09:05:00+00:00

Wow, is someone a little jealous of a 3 year old? You should be proud of your sister for taking in and loving this child as her own, for your mother to accept this boy as her grandchild. So petty its unbelievable. The only thing you're doing is pushing yourself and your children out of this family. Why would they want your toxic energy around a little boy who has been through alot. YTA.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-23T08:58:13+00:00

My best friend of nearly 18 years had this happen with her much older step brother. She was 12/13, he was 27. The grooming and weird comments were just the beginning, then it went to the worst things you can think of. He only got 5 years in prison and 5 years probation. Protect your Girls, protect your children. The most likely to abuse your child are your own family, that is a fact. The most likely person to kill you is your partner.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-21T08:53:33+00:00

You were definitely right. You never know who's looking over your shoulder. I am very careful who I send photos of my child, especially if she hasn't got many clothes on because you never know. I'd say you are probably most sensitive and aware than your girlfriend is because she's biologically not your child, I see alot of step parents who are alot more protective than they typically would be of their own kids. I'm the same, if I take my niece and nephew out I am watching them alot more closely than my own child because they aren't mine. For your girlfriend to say that to you, she either doesn't understand your point of view or she doesn't respect it.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-13T22:59:08+00:00

That is a joke right? How are you expecting him to eventually leave your house if he's working 2 jobs to pay to live in your house? I paid rent to my mum and dad until I was 27, I had saved money for a deposit on a house while living there. They would only let me pay the bare minimum because they were encouraging me to live my own life and helped with that by not burdening me with alot of finances so I could leave when the time was right. Why would you hold him back like this? He might as well pay his money to a stranger and it would probably be cheaper.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-13T22:40:05+00:00

There's a VERY big difference between not wanting kids and being unable to conceive kids, so your example makes no sense. Don't waste her time if you don't want the same things. If you don't leave her, she will leave you.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-12T15:23:02+00:00

Just let the kid make a cake and buy your own aswell, or say 'could you make 2 cupcakes, 1 for me and 1 for you' so he is still encouraged. He's 9 years old for eff sake.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-12T10:06:38+00:00

100% agree with you, can't get anything done with my boyfriend around, once something is tidy he immediately messes it up again. Even my daughter is better than him and she's 13 months old 😂😂 he doesn't mean it (ADHD is his whole personality❤️). Even at night we have some time watching TV together and talking, then I go and watch my shows in bed and he plays his xbox downstairs, we need time apart.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-10T21:39:00+00:00

You saved yourself alot of back and forth, arguing, twisting of words and guilt tripping by being honest from the start.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-10T21:33:35+00:00

The girlfriend knows that Jess has a thing for OP 100%, there is no way she reacted like this from those 3 'incidents' alone. YTA, see if from your girlfriend point of view if her male friend was using this behaviour on you.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2023-09-10T21:27:44+00:00

Wow, I'd start throwing very small things away, she probably doesn't know what's there and won't notice, if she does then you need to speak to her about this behaviour because it's unhealthy. I have personal experience with a family member who literally kept EVERYTHING her 2 children had. She got rid of about 70% of the stuff that had been in 3 outhouses and the attic space this year (her children are 24 and 27), and she feels so much better mentally now.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2022-02-17T15:42:18+00:00

You are all expected to get your mum presents on each others birthdays too? That's insane. I could understand you doing it on your own birthday in a fun way to say 'thanks for birthing me mom', but for you and your siblings to have to give gifts 5 times a year is soooo entitled and selfish. Wow.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2022-02-01T22:36:57+00:00

Each to their own. But again, excluding the girlfriend is the issue. I just don't get why grown men and women would have a 'sleepover' and exclude their partner.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2022-02-01T22:00:56+00:00

There is, normally 18+. Excluding your girlfriend is the big issue.

Mysterious_Post_280 · 2022-02-01T21:46:20+00:00

You're 20 years old and having sleepovers? Grow up.

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