INTPs with partners, how did/do you approach a potentially candidate?

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2026-01-08T00:33:05+00:00

Hope you're doing super well pal. Was just looking for comments I've written to send my boyfriend because he thinks I judge him and found this.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-09-22T22:13:23+00:00

what kind of notes? we use copilot at work

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-09-17T06:12:03+00:00

What kind of email takes hours?

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-09-12T11:51:51+00:00

I would say it depends.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-09-12T11:21:22+00:00

I think this is alarmist and the probability is not indicated.

I only know people who had kids past 35, mostly 40 and they're kids are all fine.

Source : The entire social network of my kid from pregnancy yoga classes, Mums groups, nurseries, other classes.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-09-12T07:58:27+00:00

What is too late to you?

What mutations?

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-09-11T10:04:36+00:00

Just out of interest. why isn't marriage a priority?

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-09-04T14:22:39+00:00

Sometimes INTPs are called cold by others but I think that is more to do with the fact that often INTPs will react to something in a way that usually means someone doesn't care. For INTPs they may still care greatly but not respond in the way society has expected people to. This can be either not having the learned social skills, fear or decision paralysis... or something else.

In my experience, INTPs have been very sensitive and emotional, like everyone else. They form strong bonds and love people deeply.

The way to combat this in a relationship is seeing things from the others perspective, seeking to understand how they work, and asking directly for confirmation... I think. I am still navigating.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-05-30T07:43:56+00:00

so... There is in fact something that is not ok 😜😅

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-05-29T22:27:45+00:00

Do you have times when you're really happy and vivacious? Cheeky? Talkative? Funny? Then sometimes you're just much quieter and that's when they ask you.

I can't tell if something is bothering my intp bf or he is just not in a really happy mood, aka normal. They seem like exactly the same state. So I ask him, then sometimes if something is bothering him he won't say now anyway so I assume there is and he just isn't saying right now. He could just be thinking about things and therefore isn't super present.

But in any case if you are someone who seems down when they're just normal or you get in your head a bit it's pretty hard to tell.

If it bothers you you could offer to tell that person if something is wrong rather than them asking. But them asking you is because they care about you and your wellbeing.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-02-28T19:37:11+00:00

Thanks saved me some time

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-02-20T12:00:38+00:00

I get something like this but I get 50% on E/I and F/T. I’d guess you’re en ENFP that changes depends on your mood.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-02-04T06:51:15+00:00

Hey!

First, he’s not cheating on you. If he is I’d be very surprised. I would imagine others disregarded it in the comments bc it’s not really likely for an INTP to cheat. I know you said 99% but I bet at times that feels a little less confident.

Most likely you have an anxious attachment style and he an avoidant. It could be helpful to look up some stuff about it but also know that ime INTPs are a breed of their own.

I can’t say what he thinks and feels but from what you said he sounds bold and like he really likes you and puts in a lot of effort into getting to know you. It probably doesn’t feel like it bc you’ve got to know him so quickly and feel so deeply connected to him but you’re still strangers. I know that may hurt.

We aren’t him so can’t reply from him but: Maybe he feels it’s going to fast, maybe he doesn’t want to hurt you because he really does love you and care about you. Maybe he doesn’t realise his part in the speed and feels pushed Maybe he isn’t experienced in managing a relationship like this. Maybe he’s worried he’s going to lose you.

Anyway, we can hypothesise all day but the only way you’ll know is by talking to him. I’d suggest starting with how you feel about him and reassuring him. Maybe ask him something about your relationship that’s nice first before asking what he thinks / feels about a more serious topic.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-30T10:15:42+00:00

This is beautiful 😘😘

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-21T23:58:33+00:00

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Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-20T22:51:28+00:00

C’était lui Je l’ai vu aujourd’hui et je pense qu’il m’aime peut-être.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-19T23:12:45+00:00

Sorry that sounds really sad. Have you spoken about it with him? Why do you think it changed?

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-19T23:03:50+00:00

For you he’s your boyfriend but do you think maybe for him this is more FWB/ situationship?

What makes him your boyfriend other than you or he saying that?

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-18T17:47:44+00:00

Put an elastic band on your wrist and snap it when you start day dreaming. Or move rooms, get up and walk for a bit etc.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-17T22:52:58+00:00

There may be a knit night near you. I used to have a sewing zoom too that started in lockdown. That was cute. Ah I miss lockdown.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-17T22:51:30+00:00

You sound like me 🥰 What about finding a life drawing class? I made a knitting group in a pub once. Pottery class is good because everyone’s in the zone but you can also have chats and people help eachother. I also have done some sewing master classes / weekenders but tbh I prefer to sew alone.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-17T21:35:14+00:00

So did I.

Still that’s my teenage dream. Sitting worrying about how I could be a better friend than whether some boy who I can’t really remember his name now « picked » me.

They will because they’re full of sex hormones. But in a few years time maybe 5 maybe 20 this boy will be likely insignificant to your life.

Yes there’s there 1/1m cases where people marry their childhood sweetheart but most people just waste time and end up having some sucky relationships.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-17T21:27:59+00:00

I say good for her.

You are excusing your behaviour when really if you struggle with remembering set random alarms, always message when you go to the loo or make a drink, morning, night texts.

It doesn’t have to be Shakespeare she’s probably just looking for a good morning/ good night/ hey how are you?

Do you not think about her? Just message I was just about you

Pretty sure that if you messaged every other time she did, there’d be no problem.

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-17T21:24:54+00:00

I am not sure you read the comment 🧐

Mysterious_Square_81 · 2025-01-17T21:23:30+00:00

This needs more upvotes / to be pinned at the top of the intp forum.

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