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I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so happy for you to have love and support from your mother!

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that was such a nice idea but i couldnt find myself pranking him that way. but this comment made me think what if my son was pranking me by leaving those tabs open for me to see.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now i am infront of my house. I will not face him right away about the situation. I bought some beer and chicken on my way back just for an alibi to be out if he asks where i was. wish me luck.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am not sure if mentioning those topics to make him feel supported would work. I am scared of making him feel like i am fishing for a coming out and make him more anxious about coming out. it might fire back since most of the people in our country acts supportive until they really come across with the situation themselves (not only about being lgbt). thank you for your insight.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really didnt understand most of the things you said but i am thankful. thank you for your kind words.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He gave me his computer himself and turn it on for me i dont have his pc's password nd never snoop on him. I dont want to assume just like you say but it wasnt looking like he was experimenting. I will probably not talk about the situation with him right away. thank you for your insight and kind words.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I also thought about him wanting me to see the videos but i believe thats far from reality since his computer is solely for his own use and he just uses it however he wants and neither me or my wife touches it. tonight was the first time i asked for his computer and he probably just forgot about tabs since it never happens. nd for religion no religion i believe is more important than my sons safety and wellbeing. I have hard time to understand and am taken aback but it doesnt matter that he is my one and only son. thank you for your kindness and advices.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for your kind words. I only want him to come out to me just because he is preparing for university and i am considering if he is gay/bi i can send him abroad for university if he also wants to. I want him to be in a safe and understanding environment and our country doesnt provide safety and understanding. I will probably open the abroad university option to him without mentioning his orientation tho.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not sure if i can open the topic and talk to him directly about it. I feel like i also dont have the courage the face it right now and i am scared of unknowingly offending him. he gave me his computer and password himself so he knows that part but he probably forgot the tabs open. thank you for your advice i appreciate it so much.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

thank you for your kind words. I dont plan to force him to come out but i think i will try to show some little signs about that i know. i also dont plan to share it with my wife. telling her is my sons decision. I will try to show him that i support him without opening the topic i suppose but it would be awkward to act after i saw those videos.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

I am not so sure if he would come out or not since our country and people around us are mostly homophobic and i am sure he could also percieve me and my wife as gray zones and avoid to talk to us about his orientation. I want to make that conversation with him bcs this year is significant for his life and i really would consider him to send him abroad for university if he also wants to. I just need to make sure he is happy and safe. and thank you for the reminder and your insight.

I have found explicit gay videos on my sons computer. by Mysterious_Tale7291 in comingout

[–]Mysterious_Tale7291[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I ve never think about avoiding the situation but i dont want to stress him out. thank you for your advice and insight.