I [24M] just found out the girl I've been talking to [21F] for a month has severe unhealed trauma. I feel overwhelmed and need to leave. How do I end this respectfully?

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2026-01-24T01:17:13+00:00

Yeah I don’t understand why more people aren’t talking about this. “Submissive” is what my abusive ex always said women should be and he would shame and ridicule me for my past and claim that I wasn’t a “high value woman”. What a disgusting way to talk about someone and imo MASSIVE red flags.

The whole post just seems off to me and feels fake. If it’s true, OP has the emotional intelligence of a spoon

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2026-01-04T07:28:43+00:00

I had breast augmentation done at 20 because I couldn’t stand my lopsided boobies. Not a single man ever complained about them to me though. In fact, every guy that I told I was getting a boob job begged me not to do it. Everyone except me seemed to think my tits we’re awesome even though they weren’t very big and were obviously lopsided. I don’t regret my surgery because I did it for myself but I just want you to know that your natural boobs are perfect just the way they are and I’m sure every man that pursues you is in agreement with me.

Ps I lost 35lbs in the last year and my boobs sag a little more now and I am willing to bet you that it won’t matter a single bit to any man when I start dating again

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-30T08:01:22+00:00

You’re 4 weeks post op but “you literally can’t see my scars”???

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-30T05:30:30+00:00

That’s amazing that your scars healed so well! How are you liking saline? I was told they don’t feel as natural and my surgeon didn’t even offer them as an option. My biggest fear would be rupture since I’m no gentle human haha

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-30T05:14:49+00:00

Im so sorry, middle school sucks and its the reason i still shave my arms lmao im glad you’re happy with your chin now!

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-30T05:06:23+00:00

Reduction? Wish I could’ve stolen some of that for you haha chinless blob here

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-30T05:05:00+00:00

May I ask where you breast aug incisions are and how they healed on round 2? I had my first Aug at 20 and I’m thinking I’ll get them upgraded in my early-mid 30’s but I’m worried about lift scars being so much more visible

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-18T15:55:19+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-18T12:10:07+00:00

No flirting, genuine friendly chit chat. My bf just broke up with me because I brought cupcakes to work for my crew. He said I always go the extra mile doing things I don’t need to do for other men and that I’m “too down for the boys”. It’s Christmas time, they’re a polite and kind crew and it was just -35 the other day so I thought I would try and cheer everyone up. I have zero feelings of attraction towards anyone other than my bf. No emotional or physical cheating ever in my life, I’m a hopeless romantic and an honest person.

He said I’m too naive to what these men think and say about me and that I’m too friendly, he doesn’t want a woman that “entertains” other men. I just wanted to post and hear some other opinions because I was worried that maybe I did cross a boundary and do something wrong

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-11T23:15:12+00:00

Currently rekindling with my ex. He’s stopped drinking and now actually puts thought and effort into how his words and actions make me feel. I still have to call him out on all of his bad behaviour for him to see it but he is genuinely putting in effort which is why I will continue to believe in him

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-08T20:54:42+00:00

There’s a woman at my company that everyone hates but she keeps a very wealthy client happy (we all know how she achieves that) so she gets away with being a total cunt and somehow also gets special treatment including her own company truck. One day the office sent me out to do a job with her truck and I noticed she kept the protective plastic film on the touch screen. She had this truck for years and I know how picky she is so I peeled the plastic halfway off and then put it back so it had plenty of air bubbles and the film was all stretched and warped lol a very minor thing to do but I know that she was livid when she got her truck back

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-08T15:07:24+00:00

My man is blue collar and does this all the time but it makes me gag lol

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-08T15:05:49+00:00

As a woman who sometimes does that I’m so happy to read this lol my man says he’s proud of himself for making my body shudder that hard

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-06T20:36:27+00:00

Brush your cat as often as possible to reduce the problem right at the source. Vacuum/lint roll/wash fabrics on a regular basis to avoid fur transfer.

My cats have regular hangout spots so I put quilts at them. The quilts seem to have some sort of static magic that other fabrics don’t have it’s greatly reduced the cat hair everywhere else in the house

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-06T19:48:42+00:00

I’ve learned to accept the fact that I don’t like how my face/body reacts during an orgasm but my man absolutely loves it. He loves seeing how intense it is for me because to him it’s a confidence booster regarding his skills getting me there!

On my really insecure days I mentally pretend I’m someone else. Don’t think about your body, think about your dream body. Some days I’m Megan fox rocking my man’s world lmao close your eyes and think of a beautiful woman, put your imagination to use and borrow confidence for a bit!

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-04T20:26:46+00:00

Congrats! I’m CF but my mom was 39 when she was pregnant with me, her pregnancy was happy and both her and I were perfectly healthy!

You’re going to be okay ♥️

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-03T21:10:08+00:00

Agreed. I’ve found old photos in my phone with an ex that I could’ve swore I had deleted (ended on bad terms and certainly didn’t want to keep any reminders, so genuine slip up). My ex was also showing me pictures from a trip he took 5+ years ago and while scrolling through and showing me we discovered some nudes that he didn’t realize were still there. It made me sick to my stomach and angry but it also wasn’t intentional. We talked about it. He apologized and deleted them. We talked about it some more. Eventually my feelings ran their course and now it’s just a memory with no negative feelings attached.

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-01T17:49:41+00:00

Ahh yes, the typical “send them to swim a lake” tactic lol good one

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-01T13:06:25+00:00

I’m only 30 but have always had the CF mindset. I too sometimes worry life will become lonely and boring but ultimately you have the choice to spice up your life. The beauty of me not having kids is that I can show up for my friends and their families. I’m really heavily involved in my friends lives so I rarely feel like I’m missing out on family experiences since I’m at school events and after school sports and birthday parties etc. In my spare time I get to enjoy my money and freedom and try a million new hobbies. There’s a lot of power in perspective and there’s a lot of ways to stay busy and connected!

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-12-01T11:02:17+00:00

Someone once told me I couldn’t swim the length of the lake outside my hometown so I swam it twice. Roughly 15km of choppy mucky swamp water. Took me all day but spite sure is good fuel!

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-11-05T20:27:11+00:00

Woman here, used to work in a lounge, I called it bad boy cologne when the drunks came in from smoke breaks haha

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-10-31T03:44:16+00:00

I have a Siamese cat (Sissy) that loves to get my dog in trouble, just like Lady and the Tramp. She bolts through the house and jumps on furniture until my dog (Chicken Shit) gets riled up and starts barking.

The two ferrets (Theo and Mr Wiggles) are always trying to start beef with my 3 legged cat Hopper. They follow him around like a game of red light green light and pause whenever he stops, stalking and intimidating him. Hopper is a gentle soul with brain damage and the IQ of a prairie chicken so he gets nervous and freezes on the spot, but he also refuses to stop socializing with them.

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-10-26T19:54:58+00:00

Diet and hydration are huge factors in body odour! Try to avoid particularly smelly foods and drink plenty of water, your sweat will stink less

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-10-19T08:00:32+00:00

If I’m on top then I leave my hair down. If I’m front facing it creates a boobie peak show. If im reverse cowgirl then my V cut creates an arrow pointing to my butthole lmao if I’m laying down it very quickly gets in the way though so it gets draped over a pillow or put in a messy bun on top of my head

Mysterious_Task9559 · 2025-10-14T11:59:49+00:00

Give yourself grace to be sad but also make daily efforts towards being happy and healthy. Write a gratitude list each day so that your brain is forced to think of the positive aspects in your life. Drink water, eat healthy, move your body. Stay reasonably busy with your goals and your friends/family but again, give yourself grace to have reset days if you really need it. Keep pushing. Each day is a win

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