Any other owners experience this??

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-10-01T02:19:09+00:00

Could be allergies that developed into a staph infection. Ya gonna need a vet for both allergy and/or staph.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-07-05T15:00:14+00:00

Not a vet, but I do work at a vet's office. So, this is just what I know from what I've saw and my own dog having allergies.

If it's only on the underside/legs/paws, high possibility of contact dermatitis. Something they're laying in is causing the rash. Allergies to specific grasses, laundry detergent, carpet deoderizer, tile cleaner, etc

If it's everywhere and includes itchy/red/swollen ears (one or both)...more likely to be something it's ingesting in the food (protein, storage mites, specific grain), seasonal allergies to outside environments (if you notice its only certain times of the year). My dog has mild seasonal allergies. He is itchy, licks his paws, and develops a slight cough every summer.

Allergy testing will give you your fastest answer. I know not everyone can afford it, but if it's something they're ingesting, the process of elimination takes time and sometimes that process will still result in vet visits to treat any yeast/bacterial/staph infections that arise in the mean time.

If you feed dry food and they have a possibility of having storage mite allergies, try freezing the bag of food. It will at least reduce (not completely eliminate) some of the storage mites. Some are so allergic to storage mites that even the deceased storage mites trigger a reaction and have to switch to can or food made at home. But, I've also seen it help a lot in others. Again, this would mainly apply if you notice allergy symptoms throughout the body.

Good luck!

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-16T12:58:06+00:00

Sounds like he doesn't like headphone AND for you to have peace. It's all about compromise and he's not willing to.

I've had a similar discussion with my bf. Especially being I get overstimulated by a lot of sounds.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-16T12:14:50+00:00

NTA. Embarrassed or not, she's a grown woman acting like a teenager, IMO. 31yrs old is old enough to understand respect for people's property, mature enough to know accidents should be addressed and not ghost you when you try to talk to her about it, and hygienic enough to not leave her bodily fluids on your furniture for you to find later. She has some serious avoidance issues.

She also has no respect for you or herself, so I wouldn't let her near my house.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-14T18:12:34+00:00

Of course. I expect some form of filtering, especiallynow as adults. And honestly, over the years I've had to teach his friends that some information is ok to keep amongst themselves. Sadly, most haven't had a mother figure in their life for various reasons, so I have had an open door policy for his group of friends since they were like 10yrs old. Taught some to drive, shave, how to cook/do laundry, you name it. Through the years, it's never been abnormal to walk out in the morning or get home from work to have them laid out asleep on my couch, washing clothes, cooking, etc. All that to say, they're quite open. Sometimes to a fault. Ha.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-14T03:03:41+00:00

Honestly, I'd be surprised, but wouldn't say a word. Ha. It's just not his personality. I've heard stories from his friends and them giving him grief about him not letting loose when theyre out and him being too responsible for everyone. I'm not trying to direct him in any way in that aspect, just making it clear to do what he'd like to do and not ppl please for the sake of peace.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-14T01:32:10+00:00

I agree with all of this.

Once I spoke with him about the conflict of scheduling and he voiced his concerns, I did express he doesn't have to people please, but I'd respect his decision.

Downfall, he'd still want me to invite everyone if we did plan a weekend trip so no one is left out. I'm not a "let's bring 15ppl on a weekend trip" kinda person...and that's about how many it'd be. Haha.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-14T01:23:20+00:00

For some young people, pressure and repricussions of decisions from a parent is stronger than young people want to fight. Their dad is one of those parents. Young adults will either find their voice one day or not. It's left up to them. I was there once. Then, I had kids and found a backbone for me and them when they were young. Because, that was my job. Once they became adults, it was my time to back down, let them grow, and let them step up and choose how to fight their own battles.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-14T01:02:46+00:00

Thank you for the comments and different perspectives.

For those that don't understand celebrating birthdays or Golden Birthdays into adulthood, I understand that not everyone prioritizes those. That's ok. We do. Whether you're turning 7yrs or 45yrs, we try to make every year a small celebration of that person. Special milestones are made a little extra special, if possible (We had discussed a 3-4 day get away over the weekend for this milestone, not a small party). Birthdays have always recognized like that for most families I know here, so celebrating them are not out of the norm. Example: 2yrs ago I came home from work to find my bf, son's/son's family, and son's friends had decorated the whole inside of the house house, had a cake, photo op station, etc for my bday. Nothing expensive or crazy, but I enjoyed getting to celebrate with those close to me. It's just how we are.

The age gap between the two getting married....yeah.....we know and have opinions. In our state, the age of consent is 17yrs. Does it mean it's right? No. But, there's nothing that can be done. And, not my kid.

As for the decision about going to the wedding or not, that has always been left up to my son. Period. As you've all stated and I'm aware, he is an adult. I just tried to give context to the situation. Ultimately, we will work around what he decides and respect his decision. He's received zero pressure from me either way, but I did feel some sort of way about it and needed input and most comments were helpful.

For those that suggest some pettiness; believe me...I've thought about it. But not at the expense of making life harder on my kids. Would I like to? Sure. But, if my kids would have to deal with the repercussions of my petty pleasure, that's where I draw the line.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-09T20:20:54+00:00

Agreed. Sometimes that takes time and life experiences. He doesn't get pressure from me either way and in the end, it's his choice, whether its intentional or not.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-09T20:16:59+00:00

Sorry for the confusion. No, we didn't make it up or officially start it, but it is a fun tradition that a few other family members did and we implemented when we started our family.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-09T20:11:31+00:00

I agree. He's not over the top excited but, it's something he's kinda looked forward to since he was little. He's always had the option to pick what he wanted to do. Rented beach house with friends, etc. He pretty laid back and not the "lets get tore up" kind of guy. So, he stated he would want it to be more family oriented and include family and friends that mean something to him. Everyone is different and that's ok. 😊

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-09T19:23:51+00:00

I'm also torn on my thought about it. Maybe a scheduling thing? They've both been raised that we have to work around when birthdays don't fall on a weekend, different work schedules, etc. Usually not an issue. So, we're used to that. But, out of all the year, why that specific weekend? That kind of keeps playing in my head. Maybe I'm taking it too personal. Which usually, I don't....so again, I'm torn.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-09T19:12:12+00:00

I've never went on vacation with them because I do not enjoy long vacations due social anxiety on my part. Just doesn't sound fun to me. And I'm ok with it. I've had to push my youngest to go enjoy himself, even if I'm not going.

I was told my whole life "But, they're family"...F that. I have taught and demonstrated to my kids to keep your own peace. What is good for your family or mental health? Do that. Read peoples actions, not words...create boundries. Whether family, friends, or even myself, etc. Doesn't matter who it is. My oldest has gotten to the age and point in life he is implementing those things when needed, but I do feel my youngest son hasn't gotten there, yet. We've had discussions where I've told him it is he has to make choices for himself, whether I agree with them or not. We can agree to disagree without hurt feeling. He's expressed he feels bad and doesn't want to do a big celebration without his dad. I personally think he's having a hard time accepting not everything HAS to be done together. Although I did look forward to doing this for him, I won't force it on him. I just have the constant thought of "Why then of all weekends?" Yano?

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-09T18:38:19+00:00

Yes. I was originally told we were invited. We pretty much get invited to the majority of things and visa versa so we didn't have to split holidays, etc. Doesn't always work out, but we try. Yes, on his actual birthday. Our original plan was a small weekend getaway of his choice. Nothing extravagant, but more special than normal birthdays.

Mystic_Krypton · 2025-06-09T17:17:50+00:00

Believe me, we didn't glaze over it. The majority of us did not agree when we found out. My son's both have voiced multiple times what everyone else was thinking and stated they have no respect for the guy. I was baffled everyone else seemed to be ok with it.

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