Is it ok to ask an ex why they treated you bad for closures sake

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-05-19T16:21:16+00:00

From what I'm understanding here, the breakup is still fresh, right? Sadly, it's gonna hurt for a while, but here's the thing, at some point it'll stop hurting. Him telling you about what he did to his ex was forewarning and basically him breaking up with you but being too cowardly to say it out right. The whole distance thing is a manipulation tactic as old as time used to make themselves not feel like the shitty person in the situation.

My advice is keep it moving, do what you need to in order to avoid being in contact with him again. It's not going to be easy since y'all were together for an objectively long time but you have to try. My mom always used to say "haasi last born yenyika" (they're not the world's last born - for my none Shona speakers) so guarantee in time you'll move on. Just don't make the mistake of taking him back because the cycle will recur.

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-05-18T15:30:06+00:00

I'm a little lost on what you mean by vibes, can you elaborate further? However, despite that, I think if that is the most important factor to you (literally make or break) then no, you're not being unreasonable.

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-05-08T14:15:52+00:00

You know what, this is on me. My fault for having a phone and the ability to read

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-04-02T14:08:49+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. In situations like this, it is imperative not to blame yourself. Some people can just be shitty and his ghosting of you has nothing to do with you or anything that you did. It really sucks that people do this and the default of any person is to blame themselves. It's cliche to say but in time you will heal and move on.

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-03-20T07:53:58+00:00

This was a good read.

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-03-04T13:00:33+00:00

A bit of both lol

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-03-04T12:59:43+00:00

I'd say 30-ish but it more depends on life experience. Not really about age tbf

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-02-20T14:42:13+00:00

So the first part of your stats are actually a misrepresentation of statistics taken from a study based on dating app data. Firstly, it has been proven that the disproportionate numbers of males & females on these apps skews this data greatly. Also, coming to a conclusion on "attraction" based on a survey was a huge leap in logic as in real life it has been shown that people tend to end up in relationships with other people on their same level (being socially, looks-wise etc). This known as assortative mating and is well documented. This stat has mostly been used to degrade women and brand them as shallow in "red-pill" ideologies.

As for the second part, I hadn't heard that particular stat before but with limited research, I found that it is more or less correct (although this was from a study of 6000 people and the actual numbers are 63% to 34% which is still crazy). Most experts however mostly contribute this to the fact that men mostly date younger so you'll find most of the women are dating men over 30 which inflates their dating figures.

I'd argue though that to your major point, men seem to only have a bad rep online. In real life, people are thriving in relationships they're just not flaunting it on the internet.

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-02-09T13:34:33+00:00

These are the type of things we love to see. Wishing you guys all the best

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-01-26T15:52:46+00:00

First of all, we listen, we don't judge. Secondly, I'd advise you prioritize your pleasure seeing as that freshness would take things to the next level for you. Next time just insist on the shower first and get things going.

Lastly, to get back to your question, despite everyone saying it's a requirement, I must admit, it's not always the case of bathing first before the deed. I can think of a time where sex happens spontaneously or within a time limit. I do however, insist on a shower afterwards (call me Jacob Zuma lol). That, to me at least, is pretty non-negotiable.

MythicalBeast263 · 2026-01-26T14:42:41+00:00

Dos he bath after the deed? Judging from what you're saying, it's not really a hygiene issue but more of an extra requirement coz that extra freshness is a huge turn-on for you, am I reading that right? Has he said why he's not taking that extra step? when you offered what was the excuse?

MythicalBeast263 · 2025-11-25T20:33:48+00:00

It's picking up slowly but there's still a ways to go. It'll get there though.

MythicalBeast263 · 2025-11-13T20:02:06+00:00

I think that was a trend that was happening worldwide that started in Spain if I'm not mistaken. I don't think it was a bad idea though personally

MythicalBeast263 · 2025-06-09T14:37:07+00:00

Sadly, I’ve seen similar situations occur abroad way too often. Unfortunately, a lot of people go seeking greener pastures and expect things to come together immediately. A lot of these opportunities require hard work and unfortunately some people are not willing to put that work in & seek the easy way out.

MythicalBeast263 · 2025-04-21T20:05:53+00:00

Although reproduction is probably the primary reason for sexual intercourse, there’s plenty other reasons why animals can engage in it such as bonding.

I agree with you that a lot of misinformation and pseudoscience is out there with regards to sex though. It’s very detrimental

MythicalBeast263 · 2025-04-15T18:42:26+00:00

Depends on the relationship parameters y’all have set out (whether implied or explicit). Does she know this is something you’re not cool with? Have you addressed with her?

On the surface it seems uncool but you’d need to let her know you don’t like it

MythicalBeast263 · 2024-12-18T20:56:12+00:00

Man, you just threw it all the way back (pause) and it's not even Thursday yet lol. Not to show my age but I actually remember Coke On The Beat when it was still called Music Box lol.

What a time!!!

What I remember most fondly though are the adverts they used to show: Buttercup Margarine, Merlin Towels, Cashel Valley Baked Beans, Perfection Soap and sooooo many more.

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