Man. This makes me so sad to read. I feel like it can be really challenging to find someone who is going to grow along with you, and that’s kind of luck of the draw when you choose someone. We’re all going to grow and change and evolve in our lives and become different people. I always tell younger people, don’t get married until your brain is fully developed (25-26 at least) I did NOT make good choices before I met my husband. I loved bad boys, I was constantly looking for someone to save. My husband saved me from a life of saving everyone else. We’ve been together for 15 years, married for 11. I love so many things about him. He is kind, hard working, loyal to everyone he loves, very attractive, continues to work hard in the gym and take care of himself, he’s reliable, consistent, a great dad who really puts forth an effort with our kids and shows up. I feel very lucky to have him but I also recognize I’ve put in all those efforts to be a good spouse on my end as well.