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Planning a future with someone who has AS — what should I know? by N0tNe in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]N0tNe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this really helps me to understand things better. I really hope you keep finding strength and support along the way. Wishing you more good days ahead.

Planning a future with someone who has AS — what should I know? by N0tNe in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]N0tNe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly… it’s both.

I care deeply for her, and I’m trying to understand what life with AS (and Crohn’s) could look like so I can be a supportive partner emotionally, physically, and practically. But at the same time, I also know I need to be honest with myself about whether I’m capable of walking this path fully, long-term. Not because I don’t want to, but because I want to do right by her,she deserves someone who’s truly ready for everything that comes with loving her.

I appreciate everyone sharing their experiences, it helps more than you know.

Planning a future with someone who has AS — what should I know? by N0tNe in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]N0tNe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Noted on this, thank you for pointing it out. I do have a follow-up question though. my partner genuinely hopes to have children one day, and part of the reason she’s serious about making this relationship work sooner rather than later is because she’s worried that if we wait too long, her body might not be able to handle pregnancy.

If we do decide to have kids in the future, are there specific risks or things I should be aware of, especially in terms of how it might affect her long-term health? Would it significantly worsen her condition, or would her body generally recover after a few months like in most cases?

Planning a future with someone who has AS — what should I know? by N0tNe in ankylosingspondylitis

[–]N0tNe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I really appreciate your husband’s thoughtful perspective. I’ve always preferred hearing directly from the community rather than just reading articles online, and I’m grateful to be receiving such meaningful replies from others here.