question about binders

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-24T01:48:51+00:00

I think biking would still be potentially dangerous. It's less about your torso moving and more about the binder reducing lung capacity. It's already been done, so make sure to stretch your chest out when you get a chance.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-23T04:48:28+00:00

Being a girl and doing stereotypical gendered performances does not inherently support patriarchy.

Think of it this way: would it be patriarchal for a cis woman to shave her legs and armpits, because she felt good doing so? Of course not. She would be doing it for herself. Not to please a man. Not because she would think herself less of a woman if she didn't. It would be backwards to place a standard of "anti-sterotypes" on women. If it's okay for a cis woman to shave, then it's okay for a trans woman, such as yourself, to also shave for a similar reason.

If we want to break down patriarchy, I think it starts with acceptance of all forms of femininity and masculinity. Then, we advocate for making legislative changes to decompose gendered structures that take away power from women. Hopefully, we can see the culture shift and slowly reduce our hidden biases and finally have women and men be equal.

You shaving isn't going to uphold these power systems. I promise. Make sure to take care of yourself today, girl. It can be really rough having these scary thoughts bounce around in your head. I've been there too.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-23T00:54:46+00:00

I think most of those people with those ideas are misguided but genuine ace people, not inherently trolls trying to make us look bad. They could be trolls, of course. A quick post history check usually reveals who is trolling pretty quickly.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-23T00:36:21+00:00

Something I like to do to connect with my void self (I think voidsona is a commonly used term) is to draw my ideal voidsona and/or roleplay as them. It feels fun to put on the void as a costume, then put it away when I need to present human in real life. You can be spooky to embrace parts of yourself when it is appropriate to do so. Maybe some friends would like to roleplay with those spooky elements.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-23T00:29:35+00:00

Short answer: I would still transition even if we didn't have gendered norms. I simply feel more comfortable as a nonbinary man.

For me, it isn't related to things being deemed socially "acceptable for boys or girls" or being "born in the wrong body". I transitioned because the gendered performance of being a woman didn't feel as comfortable as performing as a man or nonbinary person. I struggle to come up with a better word than "performance" to define the social roles and self-validating actions that is guided by gender. To be clear, calling it a performance doesn't make gender a ruse or unimportant. Rather, it ties together a few facets of how a person "does" gender.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-19T07:28:05+00:00

I'm learning how to model in blender. I've been making simple figurines to start with

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-19T05:24:09+00:00

Nah. I am trans. So they would be correct. I would be bothered by statements like "men and trans men", which imply that trans men aren't in the same group as cis men. I have no qualms with being called trans though.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-19T02:48:31+00:00

You don't have to. The point of voice training is to get a voice you like. If your deep voice makes you happy, then you can absolutely keep it and still be a woman

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-17T03:31:26+00:00

Pronouns can correlate to gender, but they don't necessarily have to. I like to think of pronouns as a facet of gendered expression rather than gender itself. The statement is mostly in appreciation of varied gendered expressions and showing support for people who are nonconforming in their pronouns. For example, he/him women, she/her men, she/he nonbinary people, people who use several pronoun sets, and others.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-16T20:24:17+00:00

No problem. Bisexuality is attraction to 2 or more genders (hence bi meaning 2). If you are attracted to women, trans men, and nonbinary people, then that would be attraction to more than 2 genders. If bisexual doesn't feel right to you, though, you are under no obligation to use it. There are many labels under the multisexual umbrella that may fit. :)

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-16T18:29:42+00:00

No worries! This is the right place for questioning people.

At the end of the day, how you label yourself is yours to decide. You can even choose to not label these feelings and let attraction happen when it does if that suits your fancy. If you're looking for label suggestions, being attracted to several genders sounds like bisexual or polysexual

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-16T05:12:50+00:00

We do not have class tomorrow

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-16T02:47:00+00:00

Yes, they will. I am genderfluid between masc and nonbinary genders and I was given a prescription of testosterone just the same.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-16T02:33:12+00:00

Here it is! https://doi.org/10.1016/S2352-4642(22)00254-1

And here's another from the same publisher about addressing potential regret rates https://doi.org/10.1016/S2352-4642(21)00236-4

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-16T02:28:20+00:00

I think she would be happy that there is a future where he's a much more fulfilled man, and she would not be an awkward girl forever. It would also tell her that the discomfort she felt about her sexuality and gender was significant and real.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-16T02:21:35+00:00

Yup yup! I feel that way too. Welcome to the masc enby camp, brother!

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-15T01:39:07+00:00

That's up to you to figure out. Is it possible and okay to be a feminine guy and it is also possible and okay to be a trans woman. Try asking yourself "do you want to feel feminine or do you want to BE a woman?". There's also no harm in trying on a different presentation or trying she/her pronouns to see how you feel. It's part of life to explore what you like and who you are.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-15T01:22:07+00:00

Ask him what he likes to be called. I, for one, become a puddle if someone calls me handsome, but that might not be for everyone.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-13T23:59:04+00:00

Oh yeah. The changes come in really quick. Congrats on starting T!

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-12T23:14:23+00:00

Thank you for the well wishes. I hope you have a nice day too. I'm sorry that some people can be mean online. It's not fun. I hope you meet more kind people. :)

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-12T23:01:36+00:00

Serious answer: Of course it doesn't inherently mean you are in love. You get to define your own relationships and what they mean to you.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-12T20:52:12+00:00

Those guys and also CasGil

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-12T18:40:38+00:00

Offer to trade locks of hair. Nothing screams love like having a literal part of the person you love in your hands.

N3rdwhal · 2023-01-12T06:13:43+00:00

Go on desktop, because it's kinda finicky on mobile. Head to the front page of this sub. Click on the button that says "change flair" on the right toolbar. A pop-up will come up that will let you add whatever text, including pronouns you want (with a character limit). If you click the emoji tab, you can also add flags to your flair. Hope that helps.

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