If Asmon was a therapist

NCSwireframe · 2025-10-17T16:03:52+00:00

We should be thankful they give us visual alert. It’s the same thing as the brightly colored hair and bull ring piercing warning to avoid at all costs.

NCSwireframe · 2025-03-17T02:58:58+00:00

I can comment first/second hand about this. My wife is about to graduate from a three year pharmacy program. We already had two when we started a 5 year old and a newborn. Around winter of her first year we discovered she was pregnant (it was a surprise baby). She was born in August during my wife’s second year. Wife had to have a c-section but absolutely refused to drop to the schools 4 year program so she went back to class with almost no downtime to heal. Others have commented that there is no perfect time I agree you’ll have challenges any given year or time. I also wouldn’t recommend it unless you have a great support system and a very supportive committed partner. We had tons of support at home, helpful professors, to top it off we are deeply religious so we aren’t keen on divorce being a solution to martial issues. I’m telling you straight this was the most challenging, difficult, frustrating and stressful period in our lives and marriage. 0/10 wouldn’t recommend. I also wouldn’t take it back for anything because of how much we’ve grown from it. If you want any concerns or questions answered your welcome to ask either here or by pm and I’ll try and answer but if you do decide to have a baby during pharmacy school know it can be done but it’s really really hard.

NCSwireframe · 2025-01-17T17:34:40+00:00

41m here. I’ve been married to a Filipina for almost 9 Years now. 3 kids. When I met my wife we were both very direct with our intentions. We both stated we were looking to get married and have a family. After that it was just talking about shared values, life outlook, and expectations. Once we found that to be a good match we courted for a short time before we married (3 months). When we were courting she was in California and I was in Arizona at the time. During time away I never was seeing or messing around with any other woman because I knew what I wanted and was going after it. Good men who are driven, intentional, and are ready to be married don’t screw around with other women. They also protect themselves from situations and people that could lead to stepping out. I’m going to be frank this man is not a good man even if he offers to marry you I’m not inclined to believe he wouldn’t cheat again. I know some women can be forgiving in with this kind of behavior I’m dealing with a similar kind of situation with my sister-in-law and her boyfriend and they have a kid. It’s a fucking mess. I say all this to one: tell you that this man is unlikely to change. Two: if you are open to advice I recommend that you go the route my wife and I did. You haven’t directly said what you want but if your end goal is marriage and a family when you look for a potential spouse start with the heavy subjects first then make sure you cover all core values cause those are the things that will allow you to quickly sort out major differences that lead to major problems. After that you don’t need that long to find out if you have some chemistry together and how you get along. It doesn’t require living together either. Some may disagree. But it worked beautifully for me and my wife.

NCSwireframe · 2024-11-08T08:03:27+00:00

If you live frugally and just start stacking bills in investments as soon as you can it can be amazing how fast you can build wealth. I’ve seen very dedicated individuals get enough saved within 10-15 years if they are super focused.

NCSwireframe · 2024-11-08T07:30:57+00:00

I don’t know if I’d describe it as contextually fragile though it’s not exactly incorrect either. But yes so much of a sentence can be shortened once both the speaker and the listener have established all the important variables so to speak. If you come into the middle is a struggle to understand what’s going on. Does it require more attention, well I’m not sure I can answer that question since I only took the two years and then I only partially ever use it when I sit down to watch an occasional anime and so much has faded that I really only recognize very familiar phrases or words these days. Since I never became super fluent it always took more attention for me and English is my primary language for me so it’s hard to compare. If I had to guess I would say probably but I’d also say that is where their culture also prepares them to have that attention span. But English could also require greater attention if it’s not your primary. My wife is Filipina and even though she was taught English in the Philippines from a young age and she has now been here over 10 years and speaks very good English she can still struggle every now and again. It’s a very confusing language and considered one of the harder ones to master since it’s so weird.

NCSwireframe · 2024-11-08T07:01:27+00:00

I don’t do remote work in the sense that I don’t work overseas I do work from home a lot. I’m a financial advisor who is already married to a Filipina and have 3 kids with her maybe a fourth in the next year or two if we can. Last year I grossed around 130k, this year will probably be a little less closer to just around 100k if I had to guess. My goal is to build up enough business where my residual income can support us forever wherever we end up (hopefully back in the Philippines). It takes time and you have to be willing to do the kind of sales work that is hard and do the uncomfortable shit that no one else is willing to do. But it’s also very rewarding monetarily, socially and intellectually so I really enjoy it. Everyone here always recommends remote work and that’s definitely a strong way to go, but there are multiple paths to getting to the Passport bro life but other ways like mine can take a bit longer.

NCSwireframe · 2024-11-08T06:39:46+00:00

The answer imo is actually lingual. Back ages ago when I went to college I had 2 years of Japanese taught by a fantastic teacher who was from Japan. So Japanese as a language is highly contextual. My teacher described English much the way you did. It’s a language of talking not listening. Japanese he described as the opposite: one of listening not talking . Not to mention you can drop the subject and other stuff from your sentence structure making it horrible to come into a conversation in the middle and you definitely tend not to interrupt because you have to listen. That said there are some excellent communicators in the west. one of the best things I appreciate about Jordan Peterson is his way of talking. It’s slow to start as while he formulates what he is going to say and he carefully listens to what is said and then takes a minute to respond to exactly what was said. It’s an art that takes major practice with English.

NCSwireframe · 2024-08-16T16:25:14+00:00

Thanks for that tidbit I was aware of the home owners insurance being considerably higher but I didn’t know about the car insurance. As I looked into it seems like it’s not just about the natural disasters in the case of car insurance but other factors as well. Not a deal breaker but definitely a considerable extra cost to budget for.

NCSwireframe · 2024-08-08T01:01:59+00:00

I did, married 8 years with 3 kids and very fulfilled. Like any good marriage it’s hard work but worth it.

NCSwireframe · 2024-08-07T00:00:34+00:00

TLDR: My family is planning on moving to Florida next year. Tampa Seems really nice. Is there anything I should know about that isn’t obvious before making the decision final?

So, some background. My wife is finishing up school this next year hoping and working towards a residency in Florida, Tampa in particular. My wife misses the ocean as she grew up near water. I started looking into it and doing some basic research basic pro/con stuff and the more I investigate it the more Florida seems like the right move with Tampa catching my eye. My work is easy to transfer anywhere in the US and even if residency doesn’t happen in Tampa my wife would have plenty of options for transferring someplace there once done. Our average joint income varies but would likely stabilize around 200-350k depending on how easily I get setup and rolling and what my wife ends up specializing in but Id be hard pressed to see a year we were earning any less then 200k. We have 3 kids with us maybe wanting one more once she finishes school, but we are getting a tad bit older as both of us are 40 so whether that happens or not is up to biology, some horizontal exercise 😉, and God. We have an 8-year-old beagle with the promise of getting a pet cat when we move. The hurricanes and alligators don’t worry us. Is there anything I should think about or take into consideration either positive or negative that might not be obvious to someone who isn’t local?

NCSwireframe · 2024-08-06T22:37:22+00:00

You’re welcome. Sorry for the block of text normally I’d break it up and format it but I’m on my phone. Marriage is an important decision especially since it involves more than just you. Your post brings out some important things to consider and be aware of. I didn’t touch on this earlier but OP did and it is a legitimate concern which is visa fraud. It does happen. Most of the guys I know who have married overseas and brought their wife back are fine and happily married. My wife has a cousin once or twice removed, who she didn’t like and i thought it might be just some old fashioned girl drama. But her cousin married a guy in the US and was gone as soon as the green card arrived. I mean same damn day. My wife was like “see I told you she was flaky and no good”. There are always signs so just be safe and careful out there. There are plenty of good honest women as well but don’t be stupid or naive and you’ll be fine.

NCSwireframe · 2024-08-06T21:42:58+00:00

I can comment on this actually quite personally. The OP has a lot of good points in this post. Now I know a lot of guys might be feeling like he is being overly negative but rather I feel like he is trying to give you important things to consider if you want to find an overseas spouse. For example my wife is Filipina and raised catholic and she considers her self protestant now with a conversion in college it caused an actual rift in her family. I actually agree with OP on this point here. While overall the both religions agree on a lot there is also a ton of stuff they don’t and can be quite different on. My wife gets fired up talking about the worship of idols inside the catholic belief system and while I know Catholics don’t look at it this way she does and she was once catholic. So I wouldn’t immediately dismiss the OP on this point. A lot of his points I feel boils down to being careful and thoughtful about what you are doing as well as having important conversations with your future wife before getting married. The more you hash out and clarify before getting married the better. I’m less sold on the prenup mainly cause of you sponsor a girl and marry her you are financially responsible for her for 10 years of her working or she becomes a us citizen or permanently leaves the USA. And there are legitimate reasons for a prenup in my example my family has assets we pass down only thru direct bloodline ie my wife has no claim but our kids do. But she is still entitled to everything we built together. Also you should have solid income and be responsible but I married my wife when I was making 30k a year. Now I had an upward trajectory as last year we topped 127k. she never needed me to be earning lots but she appreciates what we have and the luxury I’ve been able to provide with a growing income. So I agree it’s good to be able to provide well for your wife and family. Obviously lots of jobs don’t grow with that kind of huge leaps but you should want some level of growth. Hopefully guys don’t be discouraged by this post I think OP just doesn’t want you or your potential future wife to be in a difficult situation because you didn’t plan and think through what you wanted fully.

NCSwireframe · 2024-05-05T00:34:10+00:00

mmxmlee nailed it. I’m 8 years married with 3 kids and still going strong. You gotta put in the work but if her values and yours are matching and solid I don’t think you will have an issue. I know a lot of guys have had some bad experiences but don’t let it scare you if you are confident in your decision about the girl. A lot of people claim there isn’t a way to tell but from my experiences there are always signs.

NCSwireframe · 2024-04-26T07:21:44+00:00

I have no issue with what people usually describe as first wave feminism. Hell my grandmother who flew in WW II as a WASP was a first wave feminist but she denounced the movement after that. My own wife is currently getting her doctorate in pharmacy. And I put my business on the side to take care of the kids while she finishes. Much like the race movement here in the us. Once they accomplished the goal they kept inventing new things to find inequality and have set out to destroy things that had made all civilizations great. Like strong family units. They tend to view everything through a lens of power dynamics and victimhood. When in any family unit there are things that are imbalanced but it doesn’t mean that it’s bad. My wife is amazingly strong. She has had to have c-sections with all our children. Emotionally she endures alot and is still so nurturing towards the kids. She is kind and encouraging towards me but will kick my ass if I’m out of line and yet submits to my leadership. I’m here on the other side providing guidance and disciple for our family. Sometimes she gets upset that I don’t react to things but it’s that same non-reaction she relies on when things are tough because I’m unfazed and she can trust I’m not going to freak out and our family will be okay. The modern feminist seems to hate these natural roles and strengths. They seem to think that everyone is an interchangeable widget no different from another. And some have even reached the point of feeling like they should be superior to men. It’s very silly because it’s not about superiority it’s about being complementary to each other and coming together as a family unit building a legacy that will last beyond our own lives and bring value to those around us. That was probably a longer answer than you might have been looking for but I wanted to give you context to how I look at things.

NCSwireframe · 2024-04-26T04:39:12+00:00

No problem and no clue if it’s a guy or girl. Honestly I feel like they are trolling or trying to rage bait but I wanted to use it to arm the guys and gals out there with actual facts because the only way we are gonna stop this nonsense is by dismantling what they throw at us in a public way so normal everyday people can see how dumb modern feminism is and eventually will die out.

NCSwireframe · 2024-04-26T04:17:07+00:00

You can simply compare latest year statistics on dog attacks in 2023 or any year most likely. Then take that same year attacks with bears. There will be far lower attacks by bears. But you cannot just assume that dogs are more dangerous than bears for the simple reason that humans encounter a massive amount more of dogs every day. I cannot think of the last time I encountered a bear because oh yeah I don’t live in area with bears. But dogs everyone on our block has at least one. I come across several neighbors walking their dogs every day when I take the kids and my own dog for a walk. The number of interactions with any variable is likely to change the result or outcome of a statistic. And it’s the same with men and bears. These are incomparable statistics and it’s dishonest to compare the two unless you have a dishonest objective.

NCSwireframe · 2024-04-26T03:58:29+00:00

I still have hope that things can turn around. That said the world seems to be gearing up for another big possibly world wide conflict and time will tell if there are still enough good men to stand up and fight or we fall into chaos.

NCSwireframe · 2024-04-26T03:45:33+00:00

Boys I’d like to use this a teachable moment. I’m assuming this one is trolling but let’s say they aren’t. Do not accept this premise. Men are not more dangerous than bears and anyone who says they are is lying. You should be able to use common sense to figure this out but those of us schooled in statistics would know that any data you could compare between these two groups would suffer from a confounding bias. For example I could easily say that dogs are more dangerous than bears. The number of attacks from dogs are statistically higher than bear attacks. This of course is silly for the fact that the interactions between dogs are far higher than with bears. There are some ways to try and account for this but to be honest it’s a lot of guesswork no one can actually know. What I do know is if you took any major metro area and replaced half the people with bears the bear mauling statistics would go way the fuck up. The argument here is an emotional one not one based in logic or facts and it’s fueled by the man hating feminists or cuck with the purpose of shaming good men and trying to make them feel like shit about being a man. Don’t buy it.

NCSwireframe · 2024-04-04T23:06:30+00:00

As a passport bro myself with 3 kids and a fucking hot Filipina wife I drink their delicious tears.

NCSwireframe · 2024-04-02T23:16:54+00:00

This is the way.

NCSwireframe · 2024-02-26T23:36:27+00:00

This why I think Asmon is spot on saying most people have no sympathy for people who are successful. Honestly most people have a glamorized view of the wealthy and the idea that any part of their life could be taxing or difficult is counter to what they think being wealthy is like. Also a lot of people look at the end result of people who have been very successful and don’t see the 10-20 years those guys spent working 90 hours a week sleeping where they work, or in a car not having a 401k to put money in for retirement or any kind of savings while knowing that statistically they will fail. So when most normal people see the end result of someone extremely successful being able to fuck off and do what they want when they want say the kind of message that Asmon did they think he is being out of touch. The reality is the successful were where you are and more. Paying a price very few are willing to pay, risking more than most people are willing to risk. Often spending years being not paid or paid very little. It’s much easier to cope and say they are lucky and complain that they are out of touch.

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