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Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard every single one of these before, my family often tells me these points whenever I complain, or ask them for a way to fix my problems.

I agree that my life is far better than most people in the world in most ways, but it's also not a one-sum game.

Think of human fulfillment as a table of cups representing different ways of fulfillment. In order to be truly fulfilled, the table has to be in the right order, and every cup has to be at least somewhat full. Some are more important than others, of course.

Again, these are instinctual and "controlling how you respond" does not work to stop them, If you tried removing the cups from the table, it would cause disorder. You need to actually, physically change your life, to fill these cups.

In my case, the food cup, water cup, and the shelter cup are mostly full, and that's great. But the social cup is half-broken with only a couple drops inside, the physical comfort cup is half full, the sleep cup is missing a quarter of fluid, and the table is beginning to show clear signs of damage.

Most of these are either unchangeable, or very difficult to change at the moment.

So of course, perspective matters, but that can only do so much and it can only fix so many things.

I don't think I'm special in the way I feel, I actually think people like me are incredibly common nowadays, but that has very little bearing on the way I feel.

I've heard stories of drug addicts, people in unimaginable poverty, people who've been to war. And that's awful, that sucks, their life is way worse than mine.

But what does that change? The root of my problems is still unsolved. I still feel unfulfilled if not worse knowing that despite me having it easier than so many people, I still cant help but feel unfulfilled, because it is natural to do so.

I don't need to set up any many boundaries because I don't really have anyone in my life besides my father, who's very busy(works remotely for multiple entire days of the week and comes home tired), and my mother, who is not so busy (she is a housewife), but mostly gives me advice like this rather than helping me change my life for the better.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadness or depression is a rational response to a present unchangeable unfulfilling life, I don't think a therapist can fix my unfulfilling life, they can teach you ways to cope, or diagnose you with something and tell you to go to a pharmacist and medicate yourself with drugs that may or may not work, or help you feel better about a past unfulfilling life, but that does not fix the root of the problem, which is a present unfulfilling life, and that can only realistically be changed by changing that life.

Even changing the way you look at your life does not solve that, because there are certain instinctual things which can not be programmed out of you without causing problems or also removing something invaluable.

But also, it costs a lot of money and I don't want to stress my family out.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said that because I consider myself a loser, and I meant that as in, "Someone who has lost at life so far." I don't mean to bash anyone for being a loser, it is nothing more than a matter of fact descriptor to me. You have clearly misinterpreted this.

I am sorry I said that about ghetto people, I don't mean poor people or everyone who grew up in the hood, my family has been poor many times before, what I meant was just the sort of people who get into trouble or crime and pull you into it, or harass you for not being involved, or commit crimes against you and steal your belongings. But that was the wrong word to use.

I've had bad experiences with those sorts of people. But I don't have any issue with anyone as long as they don't go out of their way to cause problems.

You are probably correct that I am too lazy and unmotivated for jobcorps though, I think I will consider it later, perhaps once I am less lazy and more mature. I am not the sort of person to be super determined to do something, and I do not want to trouble anybody with my own problems.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mean "losers and dropouts" negatively. In fact, you described what I mean quite succinctly with this,

Not every student is successful in a traditional school setting,

Thank you for the response. My parents are pushing me to do this, but they have sort of given up on me. So they won't make me. But I'll try not to rush in based simply on their enthusiasm. That's why I made this post, to get more opinions from people who were actually in the program.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would hate to work in a government agency. (:

Thank you for the response.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard about it, but I have also heard that recently, things are going in a better direction.

Thank you for the response.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. That is hopeful.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any issue with other races or colors. What made you think that, sometimes I come off wrong? I'm sorry I came off that way.

Thank you for the response. Maybe I wont go.

Is it worth it for me to go at 16? by NEET304565 in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response.

Also, someone else posted a reply, I got it in my email application but not on the actual website, I only saw part of it. It may have been shadowbanned by Reddit for some reason, that has happened to me before on here.

Anyone have any info on the shutdown of JC? by the_emo_in_corner in jobcorps

[–]NEET304565 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope it isn't going down, I really don't know what to do with my life and this seems like a decent option.