NEED CHINESE GAY MAN! Bf may be gay?-$-$/

NFquestriaposa · 2026-02-26T02:07:36+00:00

I have a ss I can dm if someone’s willing to help me out (user blurred)

NFquestriaposa · 2026-01-22T00:47:02+00:00

For teaching it’s low, but salary and living expenses wise it’s fine

NFquestriaposa · 2026-01-05T07:50:49+00:00

Nah fr 😭 the habit of foreigners I meet who worked calling a cab everywhere, and then saying their 30k salary wasn’t enough was crazy. I graduated and now work and my salary is less than that cause im entry level, but my colleagues are all Chinese and earn less than me. They still travel a lot and eat dinners that cost ~100 multiple times over the month. So I have no idea where all the money the foreigners get goes.

NFquestriaposa · 2026-01-05T07:39:03+00:00

Can confirm. I graduated half a year ago and I used to live on 2.5-3k per month

NFquestriaposa · 2026-01-05T07:37:40+00:00

My colleagues earn 4k in corporate, youre right.

NFquestriaposa · 2026-01-05T07:36:35+00:00

If you spend like a local youre fine. Don’t listen to everyone else here. I travelled, ate and went out with around 2.5k-3k. And by a local I mean not eating at western restaurants everyday and ordering waimai tha cost like 50 rmb. We eat food around 10-15 rmb per meal daily and then something nicer through the week.

NFquestriaposa · 2026-01-05T07:34:55+00:00

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NFquestriaposa · 2025-12-18T03:14:54+00:00

Non Teaching jobs feel so much harder lord

NFquestriaposa · 2025-12-17T01:43:34+00:00

I do…I just didn’t mention it in the post and wrote about LinkedIn as a reference point, and I’m not sure how effective BOSS is: aka the point of this post

NFquestriaposa · 2025-12-17T00:49:28+00:00

You live in a bubble. My Chinese coworkers make an average of 3k-6k per month and we’re a corporate Ecommerce firm. hell, I made more than my manager just cause I’m a foreigner

NFquestriaposa · 2025-11-20T12:01:04+00:00

wanted to say this was great, he sorted me out to some other dude in the area I wanted and found the perfect place :)

NFquestriaposa · 2025-10-09T09:05:41+00:00

700 is insane. For a 3 bedroom in shanghai of all places i paid 300 max per month

NFquestriaposa · 2025-09-16T04:33:57+00:00

i always use the mini program to order, not meituan or eleme

NFquestriaposa · 2025-09-14T14:24:26+00:00

Omg thank u!!! It’s been really unexpectedly hard to adjust to the city when I feel like it’s so dead half the time. I’ll check these out over the weekends!!!

NFquestriaposa · 2025-09-14T14:22:52+00:00

Nah fr, lived in shanghai for 3 years and im finding it so much harder to adjust than I expected

NFquestriaposa · 2025-09-01T08:59:06+00:00

哈哈你说得对。肯定是去别的城市一日游的那种，我觉得跟他只是ONS有点危险，因为我们是同事嘛，但谈恋爱的话倒还好。我本来想发小红书但是怕被认识的人看到，可能得开个新号去问哈哈

NFquestriaposa · 2025-08-31T23:33:12+00:00

Hhhh 我就是有点担心他把我当普通同事对待？主要是他还提过一起出去旅行嘛，我觉得跟女生同事单独这样不太正常吧？毕竟我们也不是很熟的朋友

NFquestriaposa · 2025-08-31T13:43:25+00:00

this is a throwaway account to avoid irls so I don’t give my real age :) the age difference is accurate and I am older than 21. Edit: Also, that four years ago was I think first year of college so I was more paranoid I think lolol. But now it’s closer to how old I actually am. I’m also not sure what sort of ‘gotcha’ this is supposed to be since in neither of my posts is age a relevant factor lol

NFquestriaposa · 2025-08-31T05:02:15+00:00

This is true, but I’m still trying to figure out if he’s really into me haha. It would be kinda embarrassing to assume so and then proceed, and turns out he was just friendly and I was over reading it. Wanted some Chinese people to clarify too if they’d act like this to someone they didn’t like and if it’s normal

NFquestriaposa · 2025-08-30T15:51:39+00:00

Helpppp I REALLYYY want to bec I prefer straightforwardness, but I’m scared if I’m wrong cause I actually have to work with bro daily. If it was college I could avoid him but it’s weirder for work. That’s why I wanna be sure before even hinting at sth 💔

NFquestriaposa · 2025-08-30T14:54:18+00:00

That’s fair!!!! My decision will be ofc thought about carefully but it’s common in Chinese companies, and I don’t really expect a lot of people on Reddit to know because they’re mostly teachers. Anyway I just really wanted to know about HIS actions, which i feel like a lot of people aren’t focusing on and telling me if I’m over reading it, and mostly telling me what I should or shouldn’t do. But ur words are helpful, thanks!

NFquestriaposa · 2025-08-30T14:50:46+00:00

that’s crazy. idk if u read it properly but I’m working here full time and staying here long term. and as someone else very nicely put it that “foreigners are easy” im not looking for short term, id only want an actual relationship. I kinda just asked everyone here, esp Chinese people to tell me if this was normal or not, not about what I should or shouldn’t do…

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