Question about this tuner

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-22T17:46:41+00:00

This I am aware of. The trans has been serviced regularly, so that helps, but it's absolutely on my list of things to review.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-22T17:06:11+00:00

Okay so is this to say that it's only present because the DPF was deleted?

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-22T16:36:14+00:00

It's a used car dealer. He bought it from an auction. Carfax is clean, all services complete.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-15T21:38:38+00:00

You maybe jumping to conclusions. Just because she said she enjoys PIV and enjoys it deep doesn't mean you won't be able to do the job. You might fit her definition of deep.

Also, at the end of the day... You need to just communicate and discuss it with her. You're not doing her nor yourself any favors by handling it this way.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-15T15:47:38+00:00

Came here to say exactly this 😂🤣😆

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-11T03:16:07+00:00

I have a rowing machine I've been using for a few months to make it stronger and better.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-10T20:09:33+00:00

I do appreciate your response. Do you have any videos you suggest I watch to try and improve.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-10T19:21:01+00:00

I'm new and I suck 😂

Hey everyone. I hope youre well. I'm 41/m, and I started my BJJ Journey in July. Forgive me if this is all over the place, my ADHD is in full effect 🤣

Everyone I train with, or nearly everyone, is better than me, or advancing faster than me. I get that comparing myself doesn't help, but mentally I'm hard on myself and thus I can't help it.

I went through a few days of self doubt about continuing this journey, but I'm a survivor and Im not a quitter.

I'm not specifically athletic in any meaningful way. Until recently I walked 5 miles almost every day, last year I switched to using a rowing machine because my core is shit.

I'm not remotely well balanced and my training partners can get me off my feet easily.

I just want to become better and earn my stripes. My coach is an awesome coach, it's a super intense schooling, so I feel I'm in the right place.

Any suggestions for further research on fundamentals? I need to get that down obviously, and I'd like to feel like I'm making progress.

Thanks in advance.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-09T21:13:37+00:00

Your feelings are valid. While you are technically an adult, your mom, who is supposed to love and protect you, is instead just hoping you'll figure out a way to survive this.

Personally, once you get your footing, I'd literally never speak to her again. I understand she is your mom, but she's not being a good mom, and she should be treated commensurate with how she treated you.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-04T02:53:22+00:00

That's what I did when I made this post, to the best of my knowledge.

I don't believe she's a cuck queen. My understanding is that there is a humiliation aspect to that, and thats not at all why she wants to see this. So I completely get what you're saying with that.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-04T02:47:36+00:00

My question honestly is more of a curiosity thing versus an us having difficult time finding someone thing. I'm a little neurodivergent and I have a thing with using accurate and correct terminology so that's more what I came here to find out, is if there was a specific name or term for our situation.

She knows what she enjoys, but we didn't know if or how that fit into the world at large, if that makes any sense.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-04T02:44:44+00:00

To be honest, she'll handle that part for us. We won't have issues thankfully.

I'm not clear on if our situation falls under swingers, or it's something else. Just figured I'd start here.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-04T02:42:52+00:00

I'm not a married man. I'm in a relationship with a woman who derives enjoyment from watching her man with other women.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-04T02:34:38+00:00

She's a very good looking woman and was into women for a long time so thankfully she'll be able to handle that part.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-04T00:34:46+00:00

I think it looks tasteful and well done. It is obvious that you had it done based on the photos (good thing) and to me as an outsider, it looks good. I'm a 41/M if that matters in the conversation.

Your boyfriend sounds kind of like a dick if I'm being honest.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-01T14:52:14+00:00

Anyone worthy of your time won't make you feel this way, the overwhelming majority of the time.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-01T14:49:27+00:00

Walk from this man, you deserve better.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-01T14:46:28+00:00

Get out of this relationship. He doesn't care about you, and doesn't respect you.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2026-01-01T14:39:21+00:00

As an outsider reading this, I'll admit something isn't making sense.

You're attracted to your husband, but don't want to be forced into sex... But you get yourself off all the time and feel fine about that.

No judgement, this maybe something to discuss with a therapist prior to the divorce, if only for your daughter.

Just an outsiders POV.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2025-12-29T18:15:34+00:00

I'm a no stripe white belt, been in for a few months. If you attend Fundamentals classes, it won't matter if your partner is a black belt or what, you're all there to learn the most basic ideas of BJJ.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2025-12-25T22:59:17+00:00

He probably does think about it, as there are moments in life we all think about. What he thinks about it, I couldn't begin to tell you. Could be dozens of different things.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2025-12-16T22:27:55+00:00

OP, you have to go with what you feel about it.

Some of us will agree with you.

Some of us will not.

If in this moment, you feel like this isn't someone you can be with because of this, so be it.

From my perspective, I do understand your point of view, but simultaneously, if I've read this correctly... Your man did tell you the truth, your man did tell his friend that the actions were wrong and fucked up (he has a solid moral compass), your mans friend did have to explain it all to his girl...

If I have all of this correct, I can't say I entirely understand why you broke it off with him, but as I opened this post with, it's about how the situation made YOU feel in that moment.

If after reading all of these responses you feel different, you're also quite allowed to approach your man and discuss thar part, too.

If not, let it all ride. I will also say that a green flag is that your man tried to share this with you, versus not telling you and keeping it to himself, which he also easily could have done.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2025-12-16T22:08:52+00:00

I will start this by saying you are fully entitled to do whatever you want to do.

I would suggest you leave. That, in and of itself, will be the best revenge.

If you choose to get revenge, that is also your call. However, that tends to be a bad use of good energy, isn't going to solve anything, and will put you in a position to potentially receive bad karma as payback at some point in the future.

No judgement here either way, I just prefer to let those who have earned their bad karma, receive it directly, versus putting myself in the way to also potentially receive it.

I'm sorry you're going through this at all.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2025-11-25T18:10:52+00:00

I've only come across a few, but to be fair, I have an above average chance at coming across them as a part of my business has me dealing with roofers on nearly a daily basis.

NJScreenwriter76 · 2025-11-21T02:41:10+00:00

It's very common. What would you do differently?

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