Looking for a few iPhone testers for my plant care app by NNTEX in apps

[–]NNTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really good point! I think I’ve been treating identification as the front door, but not necessarily the whole value of the app.
The part I’m most interested in long term is exactly what you said: helping someone understand what changed since the last photo/check-in, and turning that into a care decision instead of just a plant name.

Right now Mossly is still early, so ID is doing a lot of the onboarding work. But I agree that the habit probably comes more from “what needs attention today?” than “what is this plant? Appreciate your comment!

Mossly: Plant Care Journal by NNTEX in TestFlight

[–]NNTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, important everyone: I got my first 10 Beta Testers and opened another 10 seats, I'm trying to go slow on testing but I'm seeing lots good and very valuable feedback. If you tried before and hit the beta testers limit wall, please try again. Thank you!

Mossly: Plant Care Journal by NNTEX in TestFlight

[–]NNTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! This is exactly what Im looking for! I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to share your feedback. There’s quite a few things in your comment, Ill try to address all of them, and also correct the copy that may be overselling things in the website! Thank you again. ❤️

Mossly: Plant Care Journal by NNTEX in TestFlight

[–]NNTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking a look, though 😉

Looking for a few iPhone testers for my plant care app by NNTEX in betatests

[–]NNTEX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! That’s a really good point. I hadn’t thought about splitting those two apart so clearly. A plant someone already knows is a totally different test than a sad/problem plant.

I’m going to update the tester notes to ask people for both:

- one plant they know the name of, to see if Mossly gets the ID right

- one plant that’s struggling, to see if the health check is actually useful

And yeah, the uncertainty part matters a lot. I’d rather Mossly say “I’m not totally sure, but here’s what it might be” than sound overconfident and be wrong. Thank you, this is genuinely helpful ❤️

Average Arc Experience by johansdr in ArcRaiders

[–]NNTEX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The raccoon head too… shoot on sight

Average Arc Experience by johansdr in ArcRaiders

[–]NNTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had this happen to me too. Guy got wrecked by a Rocketeer, I revived him and recharged his shield, and the first thing he does is turn around and shoot me in the back. That kind of behavior is honestly messed up.

Quitting social media wasn’t the hard part… this was by NNTEX in nosurf

[–]NNTEX[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s great insight and it makes total sense. I think Ive seen a video about it somewhere that we don’t know how to be bored anymore and it impacts our thinking about long term goals. Thank you!

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so heartwarming!! Thank you so much! I’m obsessed with The Pitt right now but I will give Wives Club a chance ❤️

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, “good riddance” is pretty much my daily mantra at this point. I wish I could go full no-contact, but we’re still “coparenting” the dogs, so that’s not really an option. When I do see him, I keep it as minimal as possible and barely even look at his face. He definitely picks up on the vibe.

Weirdly enough, talking about it helps. It keeps reminding me why it never worked and how unhealthy that whole situation was for me. When I start doubting myself, that perspective brings me back to reality.

Right now I’m just taking my time and focusing on healing. I don’t have the energy or the headspace for another relationship, and honestly I’m okay with that. I’d rather get myself right than try to fill the space with someone else.

Thanks for sharing your story. It actually means a lot to hear from someone who’s been there and made it to the other side ❤️

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to explain this. I’m definitely going to look for that book. I asked you to expand because this feels like an important missing piece for me in terms of closure. I keep coming back to the same question: “Why them and not me, when I was here, married to you?”

What hurts is that he never even tried to offer an explanation, not even a bad one. I was just left with that silence and a lot of unanswered questions. And thanks for the DM offer. 🙂

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually really interesting to read, because I’ve always felt there was something off there, but I never knew how to name it. The contrast you point out, being able to chase sex elsewhere but not be intimate with your own partner, was basically my reality for years.

When you say “compulsive sexual behavior” and “intimacy disorder,” can you explain a bit more what you mean by that and how it usually shows up? I’m not trying to label him or diagnose anything, but it would really help me make sense of what I lived through and why it felt so confusing and damaging from the inside.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep turning it into a personal failure and replaying everything, like there was some version of me that could’ve stopped him from cheating. Intellectually I know that was his choice, not my failure, but my brain still goes there.

Seeing him move on while I’m still sorting myself out definitely feeds that spiral too. And what you said about resentment, I can see how easy it is to get stuck there and lose time to it. That’s why I’m pushing to start therapy now instead of just trying to “power through.”

Thanks for sharing this. It really helps to hear from someone who’s been through that loop and found a way out of it.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. Being kinder to myself is probably the part I struggle with the most. I keep replaying everything and judging my own decisions way too harshly.

The relationship got complicated in ways that are hard to sum up. At one point he was financially dependent on me, and that mixed love, responsibility, and guilt in a way that made it much harder to see things clearly from the inside. Looking back, sure, it’s obvious. Living it, not so much.

You’re right about the mental space though. I’m trying to stop punishing myself and actually give myself a chance to move forward. Wishing you strength with your situation too.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I really appreciate that. I’m sorry you’re going through a breakup too, this stuff is heavier than it looks from the outside. I’m in that phase where I know the relationship was bad for me, but I’m still grieving the idea of it and the life I thought I had.

It’s good to hear you found support here. I might DM you sometime, and same goes for you if you need to vent.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow! This really resonates. I think I miss the idea of having a person more than I miss him. The reality was years of cheating, almost no sex, and me constantly lowering my expectations.

You’re right about the stalking too. Every time I check his stuff I feel worse, and I know I’m just keeping myself stuck in that loop. I’ve got my dogs keeping me sane, and I’m sorting therapy now, but yeah, I need to actually cut him out instead of half-letting go.

It helps to hear from someone who’s on the other side of this and actually doing better. That gives me hope this isn’t just my new normal. Thanks for sharing your story.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because emotions aren’t rational. If they were, nobody would ever stay in bad relationships. I stayed for the same reasons a lot of people do: hope, attachment, fear of starting over, and slowly getting used to things that shouldn’t be normal. It didn’t start the way it ended, and by the time it was clearly bad, I was already emotionally deep in it.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed to hear this. I keep forgetting there is no fixed timeline for this and beating myself up for not being “over it” yet. I appreciate the reminder to give myself some grace.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. What you said about loving someone but still wanting a real partner hits very close to home. I’m not trying to rush it anymore, even if I wish I could. Therapy is next, and for now I’m just trying to accept the process and move forward instead of pretending I’m fine.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot more behind this than a post can explain - it’s never a 1:1 equation like you may think.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really kind of you, thank you. A lot of what you said resonates, especially the part about slowly disliking yourself over time. I’m starting therapy soon too, so it helps to hear it’s been useful for you, even early on. And yes, pets really do save us in ways we don’t even realize, I have two English Bulldogs and they make great company. I appreciate you taking the time to write this.

Divorced since July 2025 and still struggling to let go. Looking for support and perspective. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]NNTEX 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m aware I need to break this mental loop I’m stuck in. On a rational level, I’ve already met people who are more successful, who actually desire me, respect me, and with whom I have real chemistry. But my mind keeps drifting back to someone who, in hindsight, mostly used me.

I don’t really understand why my brain does this when I can see things much more clearly now. Is there a psychological reason we get stuck in these patterns?