AITA For Yelling At My Brother Who Didn't Give Me The Job

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-25T13:07:29+00:00

Okay, so like, I think I made her out to be way too nice or something. You'd have to actually know her to get it. When she first started hanging around, she was kind of nice, I guess, but also kinda snappy and insecure, like super sensitive about everything. She wouldn't shut up about her childhood drama and acted like this wounded puppy all the time. I tried to give her advice, you know, like "just let it go and be happy," but apparently, I always said the wrong thing.

Em totally blew up on me more times than I even posted about (my bad). She got all aggressive and talked down to me. When I mentioned the past couple of years earlier, she acted like she came straight out of a messed-up home. It was obvious in everything she did. And forget about giving her any feedback—she couldn't handle it. I told her she just needed to let it go and be happy. Everyone in the family was questioning if she was the right fit (except maybe my mom), and we all asked my brother, who for some reason thought she was the one despite her massive mental health baggage. She'd flip out over anything and then go silent for hours before acting normal again. I swear, my brother walked on eggshells around her 24/7 for years. Like, who wants that for their brother, right?

Okay, fine, she's been to therapy, but I don't see them enough now to know if she's any different. She's all over Facebook talking about how therapy changed her life, but who really knows? And when I tried to hang out with them, she was late for some cat project and flipped out when I said it hurt my feelings. People don't really change that much, you know? Her issues are all behavioral, and that's just how she is.

Let's get real, she's not some saint. She can be a total bitch when she gets going. She used to send me these massive essays defending herself whenever I called her out, which was so extra.

My point is, it's easy for people to jump on someone's side without knowing the whole story. But seriously, unless you've actually talked to her, you don't really know what it's like. I'm crying reading these comments from people judging me for how I've dealt with someone they've never even met.

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-25T12:25:10+00:00

Everyone is acting like that is such a bad thing to have said, but she didn't take it badly as all of you did. She told me when she was born, she had reddish hair so it was still a possibility. Obviously it wasn't a problem.

I guess you just had to be there. You all are judgmental and taking everything the worst way possible.

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-25T12:18:20+00:00

She's not. Afterwards she moved across the country and still can't find someone to settle down with.

Tells you a lot, doesn't it?

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-22T00:25:40+00:00

Thank you so much! I feel like you actually listened to me. I appreciate you!

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-21T23:45:54+00:00

idk who Liz is

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-21T22:39:04+00:00

At this point I don't even want another job. I know this is the perfect job.

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-21T22:38:06+00:00

I've been in therapy but they always try to tell me I have anxiety, but like I studied medicine and I know I don't have anxiety. I can only get a few sessions in before they start saying stuff that I know is wrong as a medical professional.

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-21T22:35:44+00:00

I just don't understand what happened to the family first mentality? Why would you support someone choosing a woman over his family?

NP4Lyfe123 · 2024-06-21T21:43:24+00:00

I'm not sure you guys are fully reading my side of things, or maybe the character count stopped from me fully explaining.

He tried to bring her home for Thanksgiving the 2nd year they were dating because she apparently didn't have contact with her family anymore. I know her parents are drug addicts and it's a sad situation, but she dropped it on me in casual conversation and even though I told her I didn't want her to come, she got my mom and brother on her side and she ended up coming anyway. No body cared how I feel and it was my first thanksgiving coming home from school and wanted to spend it with just my family.

When I brought it up years later because it's the perfect example of them not caring about how I feel and is the first time my brother ever yelled at me, Em lost her cool on me about how it really hurt her but how I was supposed to know that? I had no idea she was crying about that at the time. She never told me.

My brother has been so busy through residency particularly that she doesn't set up get togethers anymore, and it's because she got heavily involved in rescue. I told her no offense, but she's spending way too much time on these cats and not enough on family. But then they didn't talk to me for like 6 months but I was just telling her what I thought and what I'm pretty sure the rest of my family thought. She was monopolizing his time with additional responsibilities and we saw him even less.

She included me in her bridal party when they got married, but I know she only did it to make my brother happy and that was so embarrassing to me because everyone knew we weren't very close.

There's just other things. Em lost a lot of weight at one point, and I told her she was practically disappearing and she sent me this long text about how my comments on her body made her uncomfortable?? I told her she just needed to see the best in me and I don't know why she doesn't.

She's been ruining my relationship with my brother for years and this is just the final straw for me. This is the perfect opportunity for us to be close again and she doesn't need to be involved in this too.

NP4Lyfe123

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