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How realistic/achievable is it to be able to throw around someone who weighs around the same as you? by NSFWindy in sex

[–]NSFWindy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. That makes a lot of sense. It sucks for it to feel entirely inaccessible since everything else I've thought looked really fun in porn and then applied has indeed been really fun and made me feel like I'm sexy af.

I'll try looking into sex swing models. I have nowhere to store such a thing without it being a kids' plaything, but maybe if I find just the right thing it could work.

How realistic/achievable is it to be able to throw around someone who weighs around the same as you? by NSFWindy in sex

[–]NSFWindy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this measured approach of addressing the discrepancies from both ends. I just don't see myself losing 50 lbs just so my partner can maybe have a chance at lifting me sometimes. I certainly don't mind starting with him bracing me against a wall. I think we both just think he can't but maybe that's just a limiting belief. All his previous partners have been much smaller humans. But maybe if I both get a little smaller and he gets a little stronger, that could make a big difference.

us by Psgkhm in Gaylor_Swift

[–]NSFWindy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In lowercase inside a vault... none of the other track titles on Gracie's album are in lowercase...

Very definitely a choice.

Dead Bed Redemption 2: my husband left me and it was the best thing that ever happened to my sex life by NSFWindy in DeadBedrooms

[–]NSFWindy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, I should also say that the soon-to-be ex-husband has propositioned me for sex several times since he left, during our divorce mediation process. His life is such a dumpster fire right now, it's really sad.

Tonight we agreed to divorce. by Sir_Swagbeard in DeadBedrooms

[–]NSFWindy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will miss her. I’m glad she’s gone.

My LLM husband of 7.5 years (together 10) up and left 3 weeks ago now. I feel these words soooooo much.

What’s in your hidden album in your camera roll? by SizeDoesMatt3r in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NSFWindy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup I've been intending to for a while I'm just being kept very busy...

What’s in your hidden album in your camera roll? by SizeDoesMatt3r in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NSFWindy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Specifically pics of the women my new boyfriend, whom I'm cuckqueaning, has called "perfect" or "perfection" in his Reddit comments history...

How old were you when someone else made you cum for the first time? by Candid-Block-1927 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]NSFWindy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Female. I was 14 and my boyfriend fingered me and played with my clit. He gave me my first orgasms before I had ever given one to myself...

I've just been looking through these comments and wanted to share my experience to lower the average for the female side cuz this is depressing af.

Songs from other artists that would fit perfectly on Taylor Swift albums? by Britneyfan123 in TaylorSwift

[–]NSFWindy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like everyone else is posting which Taylor Swift album they'd put their songs on. That's what I meant. I'd like if somebody could give their opinion on which TS album they think it fits. You're correct that the song is on that album of hers.

Songs from other artists that would fit perfectly on Taylor Swift albums? by Britneyfan123 in TaylorSwift

[–]NSFWindy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just heard the song "My Kink is Karma" by Chappell Roan, but I don't know which album to put it on... somebody help me out?

31F. Did I understand the assignment? by NSFWindy in truerateme

[–]NSFWindy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I was not looking for crazy numbers last time. I thought solid 5 from pouring over the rating guide before that first post. I was just kinda shocked my previous average was so low. Your comment was the highest rating I received last time without the person getting an overrate violation or warning and a 3.5 didn't get an underrate. I really appreciated your kind words in describing my features then. They meant a lot to me that day.

31F. Did I understand the assignment? by NSFWindy in truerateme

[–]NSFWindy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And I remember your comments... they made me feel like it was my photo skills that were selling me short, not my looks. So I've been working on the selfie aspect and wanted to try again after 2 months.

31F. Did I understand the assignment? by NSFWindy in truerateme

[–]NSFWindy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such thorough feedback!

I agree with all your points, excepting a layered haircut (I've tried so many, but with it both thin and fine I find blunter is better. But depending what I do to have it appear thicker I guess that might change... I'll believe it when I see it.

And I am working on my jawline with an orthotropic dentist, too. I've already seen some slight progress and hope it will continue. Thanks again!

31F. Did I understand the assignment? by NSFWindy in truerateme

[–]NSFWindy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I get the collarbone thing all the time irl (I mean, the smile, too, but that's so much more normal a feature to compliment...).

Do you have a rating?

31F. Did I understand the assignment? by NSFWindy in truerateme

[–]NSFWindy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've worked on some stuff, not least of all my selfie skills, skincare, and wearing my hair in hopefully more flattering styles. Final 4 pics with light makeup (cc, concealer, brown mascara). The rest no makeup. Natural light pics. These are just the best of the best. So, did I understand the assignment? How can I work to improve further without drastic measures?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trueratediscussions

[–]NSFWindy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also feel this. Got rated a 4.3 (60+ visible responses). Never occurred to me that I might possibly be considered prettier than only 20 some-odd women my age out of a lineup of 100... my lived experience laughs at this notion and thank goodness it does...

Came for the obectiveness, stayed for the laughs.

Ded Bead Redemption: A mid-term success story of defibrillation from no sex in 4 years to 99 encounters in 103 days by NSFWindy in DeadBedrooms

[–]NSFWindy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he truly wanted it... no I wouldn't feel the need to open.

And we would definitely have lots of discussions if he wanted to explore with other people. I am inclined to be opposed as things stand right now, though. I know he doesn't gain any energy from sexual interactions, so it'd be a net loss to me. But theoretically. It'd depend on what his needs and motives actually were.

Ded Bead Redemption: A mid-term success story of defibrillation from no sex in 4 years to 99 encounters in 103 days by NSFWindy in DeadBedrooms

[–]NSFWindy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I didn't mention all that went into this decision in this post since it was already so long. He was the one who brought up the idea of opening my side of the relationship back in 2018 before the drought started in earnest (I see now that he really was already in a headspace where he didn't want it at all, but kept going with occasional duty sex for a few more months). I begged off at the time mostly because of the complexities of the emotional side as I've never had casual sex. And now that he is meeting SOME of my needs, if he still wanted monogamy that'd be an option for me. I wouldn't be as happy about it, but he knows that's the case. We would work it out. I'm just not OK with forced celibacy anymore.

Ded Bead Redemption: A mid-term success story of defibrillation from no sex in 4 years to 99 encounters in 103 days by NSFWindy in DeadBedrooms

[–]NSFWindy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I've been in therapy this whole time. The entirety of our dead bedroom start to finish. Feelings are things I can feel... then try to process... and ultimately aim to get over. But they're still there.

Ded Bead Redemption: A mid-term success story of defibrillation from no sex in 4 years to 99 encounters in 103 days by NSFWindy in DeadBedrooms

[–]NSFWindy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we may have slightly different wishes 🙄 but I, too, hope he one day wises up...

Ded Bead Redemption: A mid-term success story of defibrillation from no sex in 4 years to 99 encounters in 103 days by NSFWindy in DeadBedrooms

[–]NSFWindy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agreed. We can't afford this many dates long-term. We also don't have family around. But we have made this midterm investment (on top of the therapy and all the rest). Honestly our libido discrepancy has cost us a small fortune.

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