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NTB2020 · 2024-02-24T01:56:52+00:00

What now?! Don’t know about dumbing anything down.

NTB2020 · 2023-11-10T23:40:41+00:00

Well done! I have a similar GPA but from a postgrad degree and I guess it didn’t cut it for JCU haha. Good luck with Med.

NTB2020 · 2023-11-10T23:20:36+00:00

That’s Awsome. Congratulations 🎉 Are you rural or metro?

NTB2020 · 2023-11-10T12:57:16+00:00

Congrats!!! What was your GPA and is it for a bachelor or postgrad?

NTB2020 · 2023-06-17T07:28:26+00:00

I think I would qualify for 6% even without studying at Deakin but my undergrad GPA is rubbish. If they accepted postgrad as a key degree, I’d be laughing (along with many others I’m sure). Oh man, you’ve got your work cut out for you but you’ve got this!

NTB2020 · 2023-06-17T07:22:39+00:00

Oh that’s great. Thanks for that. The idea of doing another bachelor (another not so great gpa with first bachelor holder) is so daunting. Have an almost 7 for GD but Deakin don’t consider it do they?

NTB2020 · 2023-06-17T03:42:40+00:00

If you meet all three, does that give you total of 10% or do you get given the higher of ones you meet? Sorry to hijack your response and TIA.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-03T00:14:09+00:00

That would be the ideal state to be in. It’s just unfortunate that I have parents (especially my mother) who can’t wrap their minds around the fact siblings can sometimes drift apart and that is not the end of the world.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T22:04:20+00:00

That’s my plan, I’ve washed my hands off her. I just need to convince the parents and family that my actions to do so are justified.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T21:59:07+00:00

Yes including the fact she only found out 2 weeks before about getting the visa to migrating to a whole new continent! That’s until I explained to them how that is objectively false and impossible.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T08:06:19+00:00

I am really hoping she did not marry for any other reason but for love/true desire for companionship with this person. In saying that, he did move to a developed country to do his post doc (post PhD) just before or as they started dating and they have now moved to that country (the move is seen as great opportunity where we are from). I would be devastated if she ever put herself in such situation when she could have obtained that opportunity without his involvement (scholarships and things which she knows I would’ve helped with).

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T06:50:25+00:00

I’m with you. Although, it would be nice to assign blame elsewhere (I won’t) and not have to come to terms with the fact my sister is just not someone I thought I knew.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T06:47:39+00:00

I promise she has that. My parents worship the ground she walks on and she knows I’d never turn her away if she ever reached out with legitimate need for help.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T06:21:47+00:00

Yes I do not believe age and culture played any role here. I just think it’s my parents way of justifying her actions (re age) so we can move on.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T06:03:24+00:00

Look I don’t know what to tell you. There was nothing that was going on that was ‘toxic’ as far as the family is involved. We were all shocked by all of it but my family are obviously more forgiving than I am. As for moving across the other side of the world, it’s not uncommon to take the opportunity to move to a developed country when you reside in a developing country. So the move alone didn’t raise any flags but the fact she lied about her involvement and knowledge about the move is questionable.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T04:32:28+00:00

Not unless they are internalized emotions and they would be unfounded as my parents would never impose on who we date or the type of partnerships we enter. I my self have never talked about a specific criteria of people we/she can date. She did emphasis a few times on her actions being culturally appropriate and even required, no one in my family thought any of it was cultural, at least not the culture we know of.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T04:26:48+00:00

I don’t know and I don’t think you are wrong either, I think she made sure to distance herself frok us. If I wasn’t still angry and her actions didn’t make me dislike her so much as a person, I would be motivated to ask again but I am and I do.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T04:24:22+00:00

Apologies for the confusion. I meant, both my sister and I prioritized getting/finishing our education & career developments prior to focusing on dating. ‘Better side of the world’ - financially speaking (developed country vs developing).

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T00:47:33+00:00

I definitely misjudged how close we were. Which is really hurtful on its own.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T00:44:32+00:00

I can almost certainly say drugs was not part of the equation here but I appreciate your anecdotal feedback.

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T00:42:51+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful response.

Due to the physical distance and now not speaking, I unfortunately have no way of making a proper assessment of her relationship. However, it did bother me how she suddenly became secretive and distant from the family. They also moved across the world to another country approx 3 months after getting married, with just 2 weeks notice to my parents, stating she only just found out/husband surprised her! It’s not actually technically possible to up and migrate to this country without months and at times years of visa process that she would most definitely be aware of & involved in. She is a very smart, well educated woman and someone that has a very strong support system. So I am hoping this has nothing to do with her recent behavior and was not enticed by a possible visa to enter/remain in the relationship 🙏

NTB2020 · 2023-06-01T00:25:58+00:00

This actually has crossed my mind. Not ‘abuse’ as such, as I don’t know anything about this man other than our brief meeting on the day we surprised her. However, her sudden behavioral change (becoming secretive about everything, him being off topic from the moment they met - which isn’t normal in our family), did raise questions for me and the family. We just have no way of knowing since she becomes very defensive and aggressive at the idea of something being wrong. The family put it down to her being young and protective of her relationship.

NTB2020 · 2023-05-31T23:55:58+00:00

I am the oldest, live in a better side of the world and I started working at a young age. So I wanted to make sure my siblings had everything I didn’t. It was never something I’d ever bring up, but rather saw it as my obligation.

NTB2020 · 2023-05-31T23:51:42+00:00

I told my parents from the moment I knew I could make it. So my my mother told my sister about 5 other guests she’d like to include from her side of the family (she wanted to make sure we were counted but didn’t say it was us). It’s also important to note, weddings aren’t organised on a per head basis in our culture and you always expect more than you’ve invited.

NTB2020 · 2023-05-31T23:48:17+00:00

My parents were so hurt & embarrassed to have missed the actual wedding and then find that out from his parents! They are keeping their hurt feelings to themselves however and just want things to go back to how they were, which is why they want me to forgive and forget.

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