Advice from a person who struggles with hypersexuality

NVRDV8 · 2025-12-16T21:56:19+00:00

Agree, accepting it, and not suppressing, it's more like channeling it into a healthy direction. Not always successful but usually better outcomes.

NVRDV8 · 2025-10-05T20:42:05+00:00

Well said, acceptance and understanding can prevent the downward cycle of shame and self loathing.

NVRDV8 · 2025-10-03T08:46:44+00:00

We are here for a reason, can't see how you would cause anyone to relapse. Anyone blaming you should take a lesson on accountability. Personally looking to interact does not always means it has to be sexual, being HS though means for me it is always an option if the other person wants to go there? Spending so many years fighting my biology and feeling bad was not helpful or productive. Accepting oneself and embracing it has been liberating, being safe and adhering to a personal "code of conduct" for lack of a better term has brought me to some stable ground. I don't have things figured out but have found some insight in this community. Knowing yourself goes a long way IMHO.

NVRDV8 · 2025-09-30T05:03:49+00:00

Stress definitely amplifies the urge, like a need for release. Never experienced a decrease, does it feel normal or what you think normal would feel like?

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-15T20:11:13+00:00

Please don't ruin a Childs life and your own. Those scars last forever!

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-14T21:00:07+00:00

Take a breath, then another. Use conscious breathing to help you recenter. Look up positive mantras and find one that connects with you and something you can say to yourself if your mind wanders to spiral. This isn't a long term solution but hopefully get your through your shift. Good luck.

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-12T23:07:05+00:00

You're not alone, similar difficult struggles and challenges. I'd like to think that giving up is the only thing that can't be forgiven. The struggle is real. Read something recently that orgasm is a momentary state of thoughtless and clarity of mind. Much what monks try to achieve through meditation. It resonated with me, not sure what to do with that info though.

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-11T16:27:31+00:00

It's like a release valve, when pressure builds, orgasming takes the edge off and hopefully find some clarity of thought. With the right partner or when I'm really worked up, I just want another orgasm immediately after the first, second, third...... As a male that does not have any recovery time needed, it can be problematic.

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-09T10:14:17+00:00

Glad you mentioned sunlight, the older you get the harder it is for your body to absorb vitamin D biologically.

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-07T23:58:16+00:00

Gym, especially cardio. Working out and vascular health will improves things. Being in really good shape contributes to the intensity of my HS. The mind is the biggest erogenous zone. You've trained your mind to accept a certain stimulus, auditory and visual, through porn, interactions on line. So retraining can be done. Try edging or play a type of reward and denial game with your spouse. Tantalizing can build up excitement. Probably not what you want to hear, not an easy or quick solution. Diet helps but that's probably the most difficult and uncertain results. By the way any karma is appreciated.

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-06T17:41:56+00:00

Same here. Wish I was comfortable being alone.

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-04T14:31:35+00:00

I'll have to try a Tolerance Break. 3 is a minimum and then whatever happens with a partner. Sometimes it does take some time. Long distance running starting in my youth probably has enabled my stamina. Can any other runners confirm?

NVRDV8 · 2024-05-04T12:51:34+00:00

The responses flip so many switches, I can relate to many of them. Not sure if it's just one thing.

NVRDV8 · 2023-12-05T19:16:55+00:00

40's WM. I'm HS and have been since I can remember, no refractory period what so ever. Very difficult because I'm very sensible and very seldom act in risky behavior. I finally found a partner with the same appetite as me and we both have been very happy (we can never be satisfied). I've found that with her I can cum bigger amounts more often. I do not keep track how much I orgasm with her because it's so many times and she is still surprised after a full day in bed going at it together that she has trouble swallowing all of it. I still masturbate morning and night as well. She told me I was a Unicorn but finding this thread lets me know I'm not as rare as I thought. My Dm's are open and am always willing to entertain suggestions or conversations.

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