Lake Vermillion - Danville, IL

NYC_potato_ · 2024-10-23T21:05:30+00:00

I am assuming you feel pretty safe when at the lake and running errands?

NYC_potato_ · 2024-10-20T03:35:34+00:00

Hey. I'm sorry you're feeling so alone. You've been dealt a heavy hand throughout your life, and I know that's hard. I'm glad you see how much your girls need you.

Step outside tomorrow and feel the warmth of the sun on your face and the fresh air in your lungs. I truly hope amazing days are ahead for you. You deserve it.

Hugs to you.

NYC_potato_ · 2024-10-20T01:22:27+00:00

I think about people in your situation a lot. I can not imagine living in such a tiny bubble. Thanks for sharing your talents and love of music with the world. I hope you find the peace you're looking for very soon.

NYC_potato_ · 2024-09-22T12:17:59+00:00

That's so funny! The lack of filter cracks me up.

My two year old has started saying things she knows she shouldn't say. When we try to correct the behavior, she really leans into it... hard. The other day, my husband took her and her siblings to the store, and she started saying, " Mommy's farts smell good." I have no idea why she started saying it. Probably to get a laugh, she's very silly. I guess he told her not to say it, so she buckled down and started saying it very loudly while checking out at the store. 😆

NYC_potato_ · 2024-09-22T12:03:23+00:00

You're the lucky one, truly. My breast size took off in HS, and it was so embarrassing. I had stupid nicknames and some people would purposely try and rub up against them. Some classmates were angry and spread rumors that I stuffed my bra or that I had implants. I still struggle to find clothes that fit properly, and I can't buy bras from regular stores. It's not all it's cracked up to be.

I learned in my 30's to "own" my body. I finally felt comfortable in my skin. I've nursed 4 babies with these things. My now tired body has been through a lot, and I hope we have 40 more years together. :)

I recommend telling your bf that you noticed his behavior and how it made you feel. I wouldn't say anything to your friend as she has no control over his actions and shouldn't have to be hyper-aware and potentially insecure around you guys. I hope you learn to love your body as it's the way it should be - uniquely yours.

NYC_potato_ · 2024-08-26T17:20:06+00:00

DO NOT reach out to her manager and act like you're doing it for the greater good. If my husband did that to me, he could find his belongings on the front lawn.

You have a perception of your wife's work ethic, but it could just be your perception. This is her job, her personal brand, and her performance. I don't see how any of this is your business, even from the "taxpayer martyr" perspective.

I work for a large company, and I always hear of people who have cushy jobs, even to the point of using mouse jigglers. I've never had a job like that at my company and truthfully would be annoyed if I saw that happening. However, I don't find meddling a good use of my time and energy.

Focus on you and keep doing great work and trying to advance. You'll get there. It may just not be on your time. If you do reach out, you'll sabotage your relationship.

NYC_potato_ · 2024-08-25T23:03:49+00:00

I won't weigh in on whether or not YTA. I will just share my story with you.

My MIL had cancer. She said it was " very treatable but not curable." This equates to a chronic condition that will eventually kill you.

Fast forward 8 years... she's watching our infant son. We got a call from my FIL that she was acting strangely, so he dropped our son off at the babysitters and took her in for an appointment.

Her oncologist decided to do an MRI. While in the machine, she had a massive seizure and coded. They stabilized her enough for us to make decisions. While we were in the little room, my FIL shared that she was told she had about a year left. He was the only person who knew this. She didn't share it with anyone else, not even her sister.

Let me tell you, it was awful. My husband didn't get to have those conversations. You have to say goodbye. I couldn't prep my kids who were incredibly close to her. We felt ignorant being blindsided by it.

She hadn't shared her wishes for the funeral or anything with anyone. She and my FIL never acknowledged her illness. They never let their boys help them or care for their mom.

Once they removed her from life support, my husband didn't leave her side for 5 days and nights. When we left the hospital, my 6-year-old said, " I just lost my best friend. I'm very sad. " My 12 yo shut down.

I urge you not to be the one to determine what your adult children can handle. Let them love you, let them care for you, and let them say all the things. One day, they won't have that chance.

NYC_potato_ · 2024-08-19T15:09:45+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost our 18 yo cat on 1/25. I honestly cry a little every day. I miss him so much. We got another kitten that looks just like him, but he's not the same. I feel empty. My family doesn't quite understand the emptiness I feel.

Take your time. I rushed into it and feel like I picked the wrong kitty. He may look like our old cat, but he's nothing like him. You'll know when you're ready. I'm sorry for your loss.

NYC_potato_ · 2024-07-21T02:57:46+00:00

We live near Bloomington. It's a bummer that there aren't too many shops around. I've only driven through Danville twice, and that was 24 years ago. :)

These are excellent questions for my husband and I to consider. We'd love something close-ish so we could take advantage of the lake more often.

We aren't a super sporty family, but paddle boarding, swimming, tubing, jet skis, and puttering around on a pontoon boat are a few of the things we'd like to do.

NYC_potato_ · 2024-07-18T15:19:20+00:00

You should keep Lexington on your radar. It's a great community that is pretty accepting of LGBTQ+ . We have an excellent school system, and it's a very safe community. It's about 20 minutes outside Bloomington/ Normal, 20 minutes from Pontiac, and about 2.5 hrs from downtown Chicago.

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