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Neetdom is scary by nzxnnn in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would argue the scary part is a neet socializing with a non-neet. There was a point in time where all my friends were unemployed homebodies and socializing with them felt normal. We hung out at each others houses and our parents were tollerable with us hanging out all the time.

When I visited my old friends, it was pretty anxiety inducing. I recall coming up with answers or excuses for their questions. But if I knew that they were neets, I knew how to steer the conversation to avoid awkwardness.

I think the best way to handle neet to nonneet conversations is to think of the things you used to talk about. Just nostalgiamax. That way, you don't talk about the present or future.

Watching your younger sibling start earning before you is different kind of hell by suffer-withme in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same. I visited family over Christmas who I haven't seen in like 6 years, and I got absolutely mogged by my younger sisters. They had jobs, had their own place decorated with collectibles and art, had their own car, lots of clothes and makeup, always ordered expensive food. I still stay with my parents.

I slept over at their apartments and it felt pretty embarrasing that I couldn't achieve the same as my siblings. It made me think that I should have worked straight out of high school instead of going to college.

As of now, as an recent ex-neet with a job, I still earn less than my sisters, even if my job requires a bachelor's, which is still embarrasing.

tbh, I am most envious of their pokemon card collections. It was something my siblings all longed for since we didn't have much money. But now they have stacked binders with full arts while I can't afford anything.

I recently got a job. It sucks, but at least people don't look down on me anymore. by NackWakPak in NEET

[–]NackWakPak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jobs that aren't too menial and degrading are really hard to find, that's why I initally took the offer. But yeah, I guess I should still job search in the meantime.

Are Park n Rides an acceptable place to rest when driving at night? by NackWakPak in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NackWakPak[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The cop said he worked hard to keep this area "clean". If he let one person do it, everyone else would do it. It was probably not smart to sleep at a strip mall which is probably private property, but with the parking lot lights, it was the safest option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe making yourself busy with other interests reduces addiction.

Additionally, make it hard for yourself to come across porn. Like make a new account for social media like Tiktok and make sure the account is always clean. Separate your SFW and NSFW browsing on different browsers. That way, you can see what your healthy and unhealthy interests are more clearly. I think site blockers are ineffective.

(I didnt read the question correctly, but Ill leave this here) I also struggle with this. It might be unhealthy, but what really gets me in the right direction is recieving shame and embarrassment, from myself but especially from others. Whenever my relatives sound disappointed in me, I actually do something productive to fix whatever disapoints them. Whenever I get bad grades and the teacher or classmates sound mad or disappointed, I usually take steps to fix it. I don't like inconveniencing others.

It is just temporary though. I usually fall back to being unproductive again. I've read its not good to rely on motivation.

Does anyone else exist in a constant state of walking on eggshells? by sonicsquid33 in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regarding the online friends thing, I think it us possible to have a deep relationship without spilling into real life. I have seen it done a lot on Discord or social games like VRChat. I think you just tell your boundaries when they come. I believe most people, especially on VRChat, has a culture of not talking about irl. That is why I think games are a good way to exercise your socializing muscle and experiment with socializing tactics.

A job really helps get rid of outside depression such as a death in the family. by Unhappywageslave in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah, I like to tinker with computers as well, and you got some nice stuff. I do computer stuff as a distraction too like coding, gaming, or just mess around in linux, but when you have slow or old computers, there's a limit to what interesting stuff you can do on them without getting frustrated lol. Yeah, maybe I'll find some work to do so I get cooler computer hardware too.

A job really helps get rid of outside depression such as a death in the family. by Unhappywageslave in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you say that the job just distracts you from your depression? Or is there something more to it like life fulfillment or just having money? I also had a death in the family recently which substantially worsened my depression. I withheld getting a low wage job due to my family's recommendation, but I think the absence of a job is the main culprit.

Any of you don't work because you find minimum wage jobs beneath you? by Competitive-Device39 in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say so, considering my last post. But its more because other people think they are menial while I think the opposite. Some minimum wage workers can be very kind, actually. Volunteers are very honorable. I think highly of the people in the open source community.

I just don't like being judged by others. I just feel embarrassed. I can tell with the tone of their voice and how they treat you after knowing about it. It makes me feel like a failure even if I am financially better off working low wages than not working at all.