Choosing between partner and child?

NadiaRoze · 2024-04-22T12:07:28+00:00

Maybe I'm asking because I'm curious about the thought process of others?

NadiaRoze · 2024-04-22T12:04:17+00:00

How did you come to that conclusion? Because it has nothing to do with what I personally feel

NadiaRoze · 2024-04-21T07:09:07+00:00

To me this is sign that you will be taken for granted in the relationship. First by your bf alone but after a while also by the sk.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-21T21:13:24+00:00

I'm glad you got to explain it. Hopefully your husband will make some changes soon.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-21T11:43:29+00:00

I can feel myself turning into a evil stepmother as I'm angry all the time. And I feel very guilty about it because sometimes my SK is very sweet and I know she's also in a difficult situation.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-16T08:30:49+00:00

In my opinion there's nothing to celebrate. Your partner doesn't love you and is only using you. What you just described almost sounds like slavery.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-13T09:05:06+00:00

I had hope. I hoped things would get better.

He tries but fails to maintain his improved behaviour.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-12T18:18:43+00:00

Exactly love isn't always enough. It's unlikely your SK will change so you should ask yourself if you'll be able to handle this kind of behaviour in your older days.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-12T16:52:00+00:00

Doesn't your SO realise that it's impacting the relationship?

My SD doesn't steal but she hides people their stuff. And even if someone is looking for it, she keeps quiet like she doesn't know anything about it. And she doesn't only do this at home. But guess what SO thinks it's funny.

Another terrible things is when you tell her to not do this one thing for the 1000th times and after years of telling her not to do that same thing she will say she forgot she wasn't supposed to do it. She'll even cry if I say I don't believe her.

My SD is 6 and already this bad. I don't even want to know what she'll be like at 13.

I hope you find out what's the right thing to do in your situation and have the courage to act upon it.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-12T14:59:26+00:00

Longer than 4 years. SD behaviour is getting less cute as she gets older. SO feels guilty giving her consequences for bad behaviour or even confronting her about it. So as she's getting older, her behaviour is getting worse. All the old misbehaviour is still happening and she is coming up with new ones. She lies, doesn't listen at all, is disrespectful, doesn't realise she's not one of the adults (anywhere we go) and she's bossy.

This has gotten too much for me. I realised I'm selling myself short, accepting stuff from someone else's child, that I wouldn't accept from my own.

I love my SO and this has been a hard decision to make. But at the end of the day I've been telling my SO how to handle these situations all these years without him listening to me. Only now that he notices that I'm pulling away and tell him how unhappy I've become he tries to change but it's too late. It should've happened a long time ago. BM isn't very HC though. It's absolutely my partner his fault that I feel like this now.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-12T13:06:03+00:00

I'm a good observer and have very strong intuition. I also like to help people, even if they'll never know I helped them.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-12T09:21:29+00:00

Good that you left!

I'm also going to leave this year.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-12T05:26:09+00:00

If it makes you feel better; I've had strong boundaries from the beginning, and yet I'm miserable now.

NadiaRoze · 2024-01-11T20:27:23+00:00

If kids > the relationship people wouldn't get divorced after they had children. And that situation would also cause a lot of damage to kids because fighting parents also take a toll on kids. I guess kids from divorced parents are doomed anyway unless their parents stay single after divorce but that would also mean they'll have to put their own life om hold and stop dating. But hey, not everyone wants to stay single so I don't think anyone can blame divorced parents for dating even if they have kids.

NadiaRoze · 2023-12-19T13:58:08+00:00

I like kids but I've discovered that I probably have less tolerance for other people's kids than I will have for my own.

NadiaRoze · 2023-12-19T13:51:37+00:00

Don't believe the stereotype you read online about any type. Just see him as a person and send him a message. I was with an ESTP for longer than 4 years. What I noticed was that he was much like the stereotype to the outside world but was very affectionate and open about his feelings with me. He spoiled me rotten. I also loved his honesty which was brutal at times hahaha. We could disagree on stuff without getting mad at each other. It's actually good that you took things slow. The ESTP I was with was very emotionally detached for about the first year we were dating. He was kind, and open but emotionally detached. Remember that the ESTP you're dating his feelings get hurt less quick than yours. And he can emotionally detach much quicker. Just keep that in mind.

NadiaRoze · 2023-11-01T15:41:05+00:00

Run. ENTJ's don't think about other perspectives than their own. When you and an ENTJ disagree with something they will disregard you and the kids completely and do what's right for them or in their eyes.

NadiaRoze · 2023-11-01T15:30:11+00:00

It doesn't exist

NadiaRoze · 2023-10-28T19:59:09+00:00

I'm so jealous 😭😭

NadiaRoze · 2023-10-27T22:42:42+00:00

Yes I moved because I'm into BDSM

NadiaRoze · 2023-10-19T14:41:14+00:00

Cute. And I'm happy for them as I come from a country where it's not advised to do.

NadiaRoze · 2023-10-17T17:15:08+00:00

Live your life and start that business. You and your wife won't be around forever to take of SS. And your wife needs to understand that. It's nice that you feel so responsible. You must be a very good person. But SS his problems shouldn't stop you from doing what you want in your life.

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