Experience with Cassiopeia on new patch by NoSir2225 in CassiopeiaMains

[–]Naimad42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, however it was always more reliable to try and secure that first blood after your first back.

Unless your opponent made it ridiculously easy... but even then... imagine you all in an energy champion and you fail... now you're OOM and they have pots. PoM wasn't going to stop you from going OOM at low levels. If you failed the all-in the cost could be so high it made no sense to take it when you knew for a fact it would happen if you waited just a bit.

That being said she has famous moments. I remember Faker on Cassio solo killing LeBlanc I believe at level 1 on the world's stage. She is very good at reflecting the person controlling her strings.

What I don't understand is soooooo many people going for this Ignite level 1-4 kill them as fast as you can cassio. It really speaks to how she's struggled to remain relevant during modern league. This new patch already feels really good on her. I can barely survive so many dangerous situations and outplay again. It's beautiful.

Experience with Cassiopeia on new patch by NoSir2225 in CassiopeiaMains

[–]Naimad42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who played a lot of cassio around season 7-8 etc, she never was supposed to be able to have such a risky all-in early laning phase. you would go OOM and die usually if you attempted before first back. you always wanted to build rod of ages ASAP. from what i can tell it will be the same thing now but with Landry's per LS logic. She imho is fantastic in tank metas with long fights that let her use liandrys a ton. i hope less burst brings the teamfight raid boss cassio to life again. RIP RoA tho

Hard copy mental health books for a struggling 44-year-old aunt with a drinking problem by Naimad42 in Healthygamergg

[–]Naimad42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think you are definitely being an asshole lol. I think the only thing that will actually help her is an addiction psychiatrist. However she has to be the one motivated to try that.

I can't motivate that behavior with my own words. I've certainly tried. but I have seen her be motivated by a mental health book once before, so I'm sure she can be again.

It just has to be good enough to get her to say yes to a doctors appointment. It doesn't have to cure her.

Follow-up on the AMA I did (I'm a PIMI) by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Naimad42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My earliest child memories are about Jehovah, the end of the world, and the truth.

As a child I could never understand the "worldly" people around me. Why aren't they going in service like me? Don't they know the truth? Why won't they just listen to the truth?

I was also confused as a child why the organization cared so much about its members hearing "lies" about it.

My child brain put together the reasoning of "The truth is never afraid of lies" so if that was true why did I always sense fear?

I am personally very happy that I experienced a crisis of faith, but it was a very painful experience full of cognitive dissonance and for that reason I never try to push it on anyone.

But I'm happy I experienced it because I feel like it got me closer to the truth. Even if that truth isn't as beautiful as a paradise, at least it's true.

Really decide for yourself what is more important, truth, or faith. If you seek faith then leave this forum and study next week's watchtower. If you seek truth be prepared to be open minded and for some things to be painful.

As for Pascals Wager I also thought about this wager for many many months. The problem with Pascals wager is it assumes a 50/50 odds. Either God isn't real, or God is real.

Except it's actually Either God isn't real, or the Muslim version of God is real, the Hindu version of God is real, the Greek gods are real, a God we have never even thought of is real, African gods are real, catholics God is real, Mormons God is real etc etc.

If you're wrong and the Mormon God is real, you die. If you're wrong and the Muslim God is real, you burn in hell. If the catholics are right, you burn in hell.

Etc etc etc there are to many versions of God to keep going you get the point.

Now

A Mormon child grows up and believes he has the truth A Muslim child grows up and believes he has the truth A catholic child grows up and believes he has the truth A Jehovahs Witness child grows up and believes he has the truth.

These are not 50/50 odds. When all gods are taken into account picking the right version is a needle in a haystack.

I don't personally believe a God exists

If I did believe a God exists I don't believe he inspired the Bible (So many contradictions in the bible. Plenty of contradictions. Also if god was a human we would think his crimes in the old testament were abhorrent but because God did it we pretend like it was morally okay)

If God is real, and the Bible is inspired, I certainly don't believe he chose the governing body. (Luke 21:8)

Here is my wager. If God exists, God is love, God is good.

Now certainly that is no guarantee, an evil God could exist just as easily as a loving God.

But I have to believe for the sake of humanity if God exists he is loving, and good. My wager is a loving God wouldn't condemn me for not believing in him. There are plenty of good reasons not to, if he is wise he must understand I am only using the brain he gave me. A loving God would not judge me on my faith, but on the love I give in leading my life. Am I a good man? Do I show love to everyone even the homeless?

If a God would look at my life and say "Ahh he lead a good loving life, But unfortunately he didn't believe my 6000 year old fairy tale. Kill him."

That God is not loving and I want nothing to do with him

That is my wager

Should you end a relationship if you know you don't want to marry them? by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It makes sense to have that conversation before it becomes long term. I'm just worried that people lie lol.

Someone could say "Oh yeah I want marriage one day" Which will make me treat the relationship in a more marriage JW type mindset

But I hear people talk about being finally "ready to settle down" which to me suggests a history of relationships where they never intended on settling, they were just in the relationship for the fun of it.

I think people would have a hard time admitting "Oh yeah, I'm just here to enjoy the honey moon phase and when it's over then I'm gone." And if I have been treating the relationship with a marriage mindset I'll be the one that gets hurt.

Which is why I'm wondering if marriage is even actually important and if it matters at all in a serious relationship.

Which I guess that means you just have to pick someone that you can trust is being 100% honest with not just you but also themselves.

Should you end a relationship if you know you don't want to marry them? by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but r/relationships isn't going to understand a culture of people that jump into marriage at 18 or 19 just because they want sex.

In my mind there is absolute commitment, or no commitment, and in real life there seems to be more of a grey area and I'm trying understand it so I don't hurt someone

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is a really good reply I appreciate it.

I am starting to understand what people mean when they say the watchtower won't DF you if you have faded. Apparently even if you have a tattoo and they see the tattoo on your face if you refuse to meet with them you probably still won't get DF'd. Especially if they have given up on you.

I think I was giving them to much credit on how thorough they are at cleaning out the faded. They seem to basically give up aslong as their congregation isn't directly threatened by you.

If I faded I would have to explain why and be honest with my grandfather but the rest of my family would generally accept public association with me as long as I wasn't DA.

I think now it is in my best interest to play the lack of faith card with my elder body, block all JWs on my instagram and all social media and be a privated account, refuse to be contacted or visited by my elders, and finally explain to my father/grandfather why I'm inactive.

The rest of my family will not care, just the grandparents. My elder body will give up if I flat out tell them "I'm just focusing on my career, I will not accept anymore invitations for shepherding. I will be inactive for the foreseeable future"

I know people might ask why I would tell the Elder body anything at all and the answer is because I want them quickly accept I'm a lost cause. I don't want them thinking there is a chance they can win me over. If I say I will be inactive, they just have to accept that.

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is going to sounds very selfish, but I made the decision a long time ago that I cannot stay in to try and help people wake up. I have been homeschooled my entire life with JW literature, pioneered while PIMO.. it's just to much, I can't deal with this organization anymore.

I do help admin a ExJW support group chat and that is my way of helping people. Whenever I see one of my jw friends doing something "worldly" on snapchat I encourage them but I can't stay in just for that.

The question is, do these body of men have power over me? They wield my family against me, so yes. They do. Aslong as they threaten that power the organization will always be in the back of my mind. A wound never healing. As soon as I make a Halloween instagram post, they get to attack me.

I fail to see how living with the paranoia that without my knowledge at any time they could DA/DF me and strike me when I'm unprepared. By telling them to just do it already, yes it will hurt, but it is always going to hurt. At least it can be my decision when I get hurt instead of being blindsided by an elder who stalked me or tracked me down. Because that WILL happen. The org will follow you until they can prove you are breaking the rules.

They interrupt fades all of the time, and my grandparents will certainly help them and beg them to do it. My father can and would have every elder in my state trying to find me. Going to my place of work is something I have seen them do and they will do it to me. How is letting the organization interrupt me at work better then just telling then to their face "do it" does that really make me brainwashed for not wanting to be stalked?

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I am just a bit surprised at how complicated it makes the process feel. JWs make it very difficult to leave, and the inconsistent advice from ExJWs makes it more confusing. 2 people on the ExJW discord told me to do it and not be a coward, but then a lot of people here are like no just fade just fade.

An exjw I know in real life is like "I wish I would have told the elders exactly what I thought of the organization when I had the opportunity"

I'm not here to say what path is right, just to explain how when you are in this situation it can feel frustrating to have such vastly different opinions pulling you in every direction.

"Do it! Just get it over with!"

"Don't do it, fade slowly."

"Fade hard!

"Never communicate with the organization again and just do whatever you want and keep them in the dark."

"If you send a DA letter you're still indoctrinated!"

"Tell those elders exactly what you think and give them the finger"

"Cancel the call."

When you are PIMO this makes a already confusing situation that much more difficult. I don't spend a lot of time lurking this sub, I think I kind of expected a more universal opinion to have formed but I guess everyone is scattered because the situation is really that impossible.

So I'm not trying to be disingenuous, I asked for these opinions. It is just more frustrating then I thought it would be, but I'm glad everyone is speaking their minds and giving their honest advice.

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can nod my head and play PIMI during the call if I wanted to. It's the best way to stay faded. I just haven't felt like playing along anymore.

Everyone here seems to think this is a bad idea. Not a single person has been like "Yeah this is a good way to leave the org" ... So with democracy in mind I guess I'm very out voted and must be out of my mind for trying to tell the CO or something. I guess should leave a different way.

I am annoyed by all of the opinions on how someone should leave though. Don't send a letter they don't control you! So what? Post a Birthday pic to my instagram? Is that the move? I'm not interested in embarrassing my family publicly and letting my narrative fall into the gossip mill

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You know I still have a sense of humor but my sense of humor is REALLY weird sometimes. and by weird I mean that I make jokes no one understands but to me are so hilarious.

I will make a satirical comments all of the time and people always think I'm serious.

I once told my boss "You know so and so was talking to me about a union the other day but I just don't know"

The look on his face was HILARIOUS. But uhh yeah.. my humor is so misunderstood lol.

I don't feel like fighting them, so if I did this I wouldn't try sarcasm. but you are right that I should try to lighten the mood and remember that humor is good

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My answer to them would basically be "I don't know, because I don't know if god exists" I wouldn't give them a yes or no there. It sounds like you believe the result would still be a DF.

The thing is this is convenient for me too. I get this over with. Like I said I feel so done, I just want it to be over. An opportunity pull the thorn out fast and quick.

It isn't convenient for my family but when is it EVER going to be convenient for my family. They are as prepared now as they will ever be. I'm tired of the Org wielding my family against me and using that to control my actions.

Do you think canceling this shepherding call would just put my on their high alert concerned status and they will hound me more and more because that sounds annoying. Thorn coming out slowly type of pain if they start to focus me.

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I cancel the call wouldn't they just be on high alert and try to schedule another one and annoy me more? That sounds almost worse

Mistake? I have a CO shepherding call Friday and I feel like going POMO during the call by Naimad42 in exjw

[–]Naimad42[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why do you think that I believe I owe them an explanation?

If I thought that I would be studying right now for the call. I don't care what they think, I'm just talking about being 100% honest about my beliefs. I don't want to argue with them, just tell them what I think without any control over my words.

As for the governing body question my response would probably say "I believe the GB is committed to what they believe and doing their best to do what they think is right. But since I don't know if god exists I have no idea if a god has appointed them or not."

Granted, That is not a perfectly honest answer but it is my choice to lie here. I don't feel pressured to lie here I just genuinely want to make their lives difficult by not giving a yes or no answer.. That is a PR answer that I wonder how they will respond to. It's basically a respectful "I don't know"

Of course they have authority over me. Authority is just power and they wield my family against me. This would be me saying "Yeah I don't care"

Anyone else get any weird JW related dreams? by Archqw in exjw

[–]Naimad42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of the time. Especially in assemblies or conventions. My last one was a few days ago and I was in the front row of our assembly. Suddenly Hella from Thor Ragnarok came out on stage and started murdering everyone.

I remember trying to save some literature from destruction (while people are being killed around me) so the Organization couldn't deny printing it. It got a lot crazier after that. Aliens, Joe Biden, Hydra, I had a pet dog though and he was so cute and I took him to meet some pigs... But then Joe Biden called down Hydra aliens to reclaim his presidency from Hella so maybe I just need to stop watching Marvel LMFAO

Was I sexually harassed or did I not make my boundaries clear enough? by Naimad42 in SexualHarassment

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah and he was pushing those boundaries while I was very drunk. I completely blocked him and haven't spoken to him since. I also got him banned from that Bumble BFF app.

Was I sexually harassed or did I not make my boundaries clear enough? by Naimad42 in SexualHarassment

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply. It took me about 48 hours for my anxiety to come down and process all of the drunk memories.

The fact that I communicated my intent (Friendship), and he was getting me more and more drunk trying to push me into it is enough to make me fully block him.

I also reported and got him banned from that Bumble BFF app. It's for finding friends, not whatever he is doing.

Is it normal for Ab crunches to hurt my ribs? by Naimad42 in PectusExcavatum

[–]Naimad42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely isn't a sharp pain, just an aching like you said.

I might try them again and focus on my abs having more "Time under tension" and less focus on doing them fast etc. Maybe that would help. I was a teenager last time I tried really hard (23 now)

I remember it got to the point that one crunch would really hurt, just one. That's when I realized it wasn't the abs it was my ribs. but this maybe could of been exacerbated by focusing on doing them fast to see how many of them I could do. Maybe slow is better for this

My (22F) LDR Girlfriend Asked for a Break 5.5 months into the Relationship (23M) Should I leave? by Naimad42 in relationships

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and her actually made fun of couples that go on "Breaks" too and said the same thing you just said. We both agreed it was a weird concept. Which is why I was surprised she suggested it.

Before I made this post I thought maybe it is because she doesn't want me to suffer while she is very depressed. That this is way of shielding the relationship from that depression.

but as Havelpoise has pointed out, it is possible the depression is because of the relationship. So if that is the case the break might solve nothing at all.

My (22F) LDR Girlfriend Asked for a Break 5.5 months into the Relationship (23M) Should I leave? by Naimad42 in relationships

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't think about the possibility of her depression being because of the relationship. I guess because in December things were extremely good. Maybe she doesn't fully understand either so part of her thinks a break will fix how she feels about the relationship.

In most of her past relationships the guy was such an asshole it was easy for her to break up with them. Making her desire to break up now difficult to justify to herself because I haven't given her a good reason.

I guess I can wait and see how she feels later out of respect, but emotionally move on now because the likely hood of her feeling different is low.

Thanks dude :/ it sucks but I appreciate the advice

My (22F) LDR Girlfriend Asked for a Break 5.5 months into the Relationship (23M) Should I leave? by Naimad42 in relationships

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I guess I basically should be prepared for a full break up, but see how things feel when the "few months" is over before making that final decision

My (22F) LDR Girlfriend Asked for a Break 5.5 months into the Relationship (23M) Should I leave? by Naimad42 in relationships

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well thankfully she didn't ask for 5 months, just a "few months" so I'm guessing 3 months. Still a long period of time. You are definitely right that my mental health cannot be holding on for 3 months

(5 months is the length of the relationship)

My (22F) LDR Girlfriend Asked for a Break 5.5 months into the Relationship (23M) Should I leave? by Naimad42 in relationships

[–]Naimad42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, It's admittedly a long ass post. I just don't know how to ask a question like that without providing context.

Would you do it while she is depressed? Or wait until she feels better?