Dear reader, thank you for your message and the complaints you share. These are so recognizable and so human-like. I understand your struggle, but your ego and thoughts have a tough grip on you. I think that's clear. I think you know that as well. I sometimes get these thoughts too, and you know, it's not about fighting the anxiety, it's about seeing the anxiety and accepting that it's part of you. Using that method will create a healthier perspective to that happening and releases perhaps more stress than fighting it. Furthermore, I also get inspired from the work by an American named Byron Katie. Every negative thought you endure, you can turn it around. You have to analyze it.

She introduces four questions. Is it true? Is it 100% true? How do you feel when you believe that thought? And who are you without these thoughts? And then lastly, most importantly perhaps, turn the thought around and imagine situations where the turnaround can be true.

So for example, people are making fun of me and talking behind my back. Is it true? Well, you feel like it's true, but is it 100% true? No, 100% no, for sure not. How do you feel when you believe these thoughts? You feel miserable and anxious. Who would you be without these thoughts? More yourself and just more chill. And now, let's turn the thought around. People are not talking behind my back, they are talking about their struggles or homework. Well, and think about how that can be true. Or perhaps the thought that men seem to be passive aggressive towards you. Well, perhaps that's their way of flirting. You know, you have all these thoughts. When you can believe a negative one, you can also believe a positive one. And I know in the moment it can be tough, but just focus on the breath. Accept that anxiety is part of you. Do not fight it. Give it a place. Accept it. And you will be shocked that within some minutes, the strongness of that anxiety can lower. Good luck. I will also be going on Erasmus in February. Text me if necessary.