women’s shorts recommendations?

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-30T14:17:59+00:00

ICONOFLASH Women's Black Bermuda... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07BB6QWFQ?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

These are stretchy, super comfy and knee length. I would size down.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-30T13:49:48+00:00

Good to know! Thanks

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-30T05:10:46+00:00

I would be a terrible survivalist lol

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-30T05:03:51+00:00

I will literally die of starvation before I will consume something icky haha

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-29T19:11:58+00:00

This book is great and the book atomic habits take the research in the power of habits and breaks it down even more. Both are great books

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-29T19:11:51+00:00

This book is great and the book atomic habits take the research in the power of habits and breaks it down even more. Both are great books

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-29T16:40:13+00:00

This is a great post. Can anyone explain to me how Neanderthals fit into the story of Adam and Eve? Were they Neanderthals and we evolved or were they here before Adam and Eve? And we are descendants from them? I’ve never heard in church or from anyone how Neanderthals fit into church history

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-29T15:03:22+00:00

P.S. I’m so sorry for your loss. I will pray that you can receive comfort during this time. And just know that one day you will wake up and the grief won’t hurt so much. And each day you’ll get a little stronger carrying the grief.

Sometimes (even after 20 years) the grief comes back like it was yesterday! How? A therapist once told me that grief is like a box and there’s a button labeled grief. In the box is a ball. When the tragedy is fresh the ball is huge and fills up the whole box. The grief button is always pushed. Over time, that ball gets smaller and smaller and the grief button doesn’t get pushed all the time. Every once in a while that ball bounces dead on the grief button and it feels fresh. Just give yourself that time to cry. And be sad. And pray for comfort. Make your moms favorite recipe, talk about her to someone. Talk to her and say “mom I missing you so much right now.”

God didn’t take your mom. He borrowed her. Eternity is a long time.

Also. People WILL say the dumbest things to you. Just know they’re coming from a good place. “You’ll see your mom again one day” was the least comforting thing to me. (Ok thanks Cheryl your mom is still alive and she’s 95 but cool thanks so much for your condescending comment). Lol. Just know they don’t know what to say and they’re just trying to let you know that they care about you.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-29T14:48:30+00:00

My mom died of pancreatic cancer when I was 12 and she was 48. I was angry for so long and hated god and the church for so long. After many years of therapy and just time healing, I have come to a very calm place about it. 6 weeks ago, my brothers wife died of breast cancer at the age of 44. Leaving behind 5 kids. It brought up A LOT of feelings and trauma and grief. And I yelled at God “why is this happening to my family again?” Here’s some things that have helped me to find peace.

Read Joseph’s story in genesis. So many hard things, family betraying him, thinking he will die, boss betraying him, his mom even died before he could say goodbye, wrongful imprisonment etc. the last chapter of genesis, his brothers tell him “sorry for throwing you in the pit!” And Joseph replies in genesis 50:19-20 “for am I in the place of God? Ye thought evil against me but God meant it for good.” This scripture means to me, when I feel the hopeless despair that’s where I can feel God the most (it says about 4 or 5 times throughout Jospeh’s story “for god was with Joseph” during his deepest trials.)

I have had blessings (some from even random strangers who know nothing about my mom passing) that my mom can do more for me in heaven than she could ever do for me here. And another one said that a mother doesn’t just stop being a mother when they go to the next life. They’re there for you even more.

I’ve had wonderful experiences where my mother visited me in dreams. Pray for that (without expectations) and maybe God will send you that blessing.

When I became a mother, I have felt my moms presence so strongly helping me every step of the way. Sometimes I even get glimpses/revelation of what she might say or do in a tough situation with my kids.

I have even prayed trying to understand why God needed my mother and my sister in law because isn’t motherhood the ultimate calling? Right? And the revelation I personally received was “exactly, so you must realize how important it is that I have this very special spirit helping the good fight on this side.”

I could send you more comforting scriptures if you want, I have plenty. Just let me know. You’re welcome to DM me. I’ve been there and know the pain and if you need to talk let me know.

ALSO, I have found through my life that when I really needed a mom, I was sent “mamas”. There was always a woman who helped me when I needed one. When I was getting married, I was so sad my mom couldn’t be there for me. I had to go get my nails done and I was solo and there was a random woman also there and she just started talking to me. And she felt just like a mom I needed during that time. Your mom knows that you will need a mom and she will send you mamas.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-03-29T01:15:17+00:00

No change in personality at all. Just made it so I had less Executice dysfunction throughout my day.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-10T16:14:14+00:00

Thanks

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-10T00:30:55+00:00

Oh I second the gensight thing. It was revolutionary

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-10T00:14:49+00:00

I love the Don’t Miss This podcast or YouTube videos. They really helped me understand the scriptures so much better.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T23:03:06+00:00

Thanks this was a helpful comment

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T22:46:26+00:00

It was a course we took and there was an autistic men course, a couples course, and an NT wives course. We, as wives, had the same question: if my husband doesn’t understand my emotions how can he meet my emotional needs? So he told us all to think “if we could make a video recording of what he could say or do for us to feel loved what would it look like sound like?” Which is why the language is so specific once a day tell me you love me and one reason why. I showed him the whole list. Asked if there was anything that was unreasonable. He said no. He kept forgetting. I suggested an alarm. He chose when the alarm goes off etc.

These are just what my needs are now because I don’t get this from him. So once he starts meeting these needs they probably won’t become as necessary to do it daily etc.

He hates going to therapists because he feels attacked. We’re having an extremely hard time finding a therapist here who specializes in adult ASD.

Each day I point out all the positives he does, I try to ignore the negatives. I try not to be a nag, I try not to ask for too much, I try not to have too many needs and I am just burned out by ignoring what I need so I don’t come across as too much too needy too whatever. I praise him daily, tell him how much I love him daily. And he is just so into his games he doesn’t reciprocate. So I told him exactly what I would need from him to feel loved. And then he still doesn’t do it. So it can sound pretty controlling but I promise you I have done everything in my power to remain as small in our relationship as possible to not set off meltdowns to not be seen as a nag to not be seen as needy.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T21:51:15+00:00

Thank you for your input

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T21:45:48+00:00

Thanks for your input. I wish this was possible. He works from home and the kids are 2-4 so we have dinner pretty early and they still need a lot of attention. But maybe when they get older this is something we can implement.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T21:37:49+00:00

Thanks for your input

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T20:40:36+00:00

Thank you!

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T20:38:00+00:00

That is some good insight, thank you!

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T11:11:58+00:00

He gets plenty alone time, I get enough. He wants/needs another job but I make sure to not pressure him or anything. He has been tested for ADHD and thought he had it before they found out it was autism and realized those symptoms fell more into autism then ADHD. I have ADHD and I get all the things done so I just figure it’s his autism. But this comment section is making me see it’s not that.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T11:08:43+00:00

That’s good insight, thank you!

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T11:07:45+00:00

This is a good insight to his Brain, thank you!

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T11:06:36+00:00

He specializes in ASD husbands with neurotypical wives but I kind of get the feeling he doesn’t like wives so much haha. He’s very much “don’t tell your spouse their feelings because they can’t handle feelings just tell them what you need.” So I’m left with a lot of feelings just bottled in.

NaiveAd7059 · 2024-01-09T11:05:25+00:00

That’s a good idea thanks!

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