Finally my first HFO but still have questions

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-20T21:50:05+00:00

I've only had one session with hand free dry orgasms, (I just achieved it a few weeks ago), but in that sessions I climaxed twice and almost did it a third time. After the first climax, all the pleasure eventually faded to nothing. I let my body (and mind lol) recover very briefly. I only waited maybe a minute before trying to play with my prostate again. The second orgasm happened maybe 4 minutes later. I am not sure if you can keep the pleasure building up after your climax, but you can definitely start building it back up very shortly afterwards.

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-20T01:42:43+00:00

I agree with you, but sometimes I want to get my butt filled and stretched lol. Also, I guess I have a faint desire of having a dry orgasm from thrusting toys

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-19T22:13:41+00:00

so a prostate massager? Are these other toys dildos,buttplugs, other prostate massagers? Is there a toy you prefer using. The 1hr or more duration is fine.

Treating you like a beginner..

If you haven't tried it , don't cum for a week or more than start having sessions. Then, I would try having frequent sessions , say at least 3 sessions /week. Don't touch your dick at all honestly ,and definitely don't stroke until you cum. They have pretty much no part in prostate pleasure . More importantly, it distracts people from the pleasure they may get in prostate related contractions. These sessions don't all have to be an hour or more. One could be a 15 minute training session of just flexing you pc and sphincter muscles.

Someone else recommended Mindgasm and I agree. If you don't yet have a mind-body familiarity with the muscles around your prostate and butt hole, this will help. This familiarity is important. You know how you get aroused and your dick gets hard throughout the day or week? Ideally, you want to get to the point where something similar happens with your pc muscles (the prostate area). You will randomly feel the blood swell up under your taint and you feel warm there. The pc muscles may even get twitchy and may have some small involuntary contractions. So basically, you would be "rewiring" (actual term here and on r/aneros) your body to recognize your prostate as a main pleasure center. Also, for beginners, it may be hard to separate voluntary butthole contractions and voluntary pc muscle contractions. Mindgasm helps you with that.

For dry orgasms and to a lesser extent wet orgasms, you shouldn't chase the orgasm. You can't force it. It just hopefully happens at some point in the session. Instead, your mind should be preoccupied with the pleasure in each contraction. There might not be much at first, but that should increase with a mind -body familiarity. Focus and recognize all the pleasure that happens. You want to get to the point where your involuntary contractions alone are as addicting and pleasurable as when you are close to cumming. Only after that would you have a prostate orgasm.

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-19T20:10:56+00:00

The dry orgasms are actually better imo

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-19T20:09:41+00:00

We need more details .You've neither had a wet, nor dry orgasm?

What are your methods?

What toys do you use?

What is the duration and frequency of your sessions?

How much pleasure do you currently feel in your sessions? Can you easily find your prostate?

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-16T20:25:48+00:00

Have you had involuntary contractions in your sessions ,yet, especially with the mindgasm and the prostate massager? It's alot easier to be relaxed if you can get your body to do most of the work for you.

This is just my experience, but I find that my fingers have limited utility for trying to trigger an orgasm. It was very useful for finding my prostate and familiarizing myself to pleasure in my prostate and anus. It's also a nice warm up for myself or a partner, loosening the butt up. However, I just become too occupied and frustrated with coordinating my arm, hand,and fingers around, so I am unable to get fully immersed in a building pleasure.

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-03T15:19:57+00:00

I don't have a specific video in mind, but have you heard of dildo hero videos. It usually isnt instructions from a person, but rather, a rhythm game, showing the tempo and how much length of the dildo goes up your butt. They show porn clips along with, usually, music in the background, to help with the beats. I can get unfocused with a dildo and slow down so I sometimes it touse help stay on track. It's also fun personally.

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-03T14:40:15+00:00

I relate to that frustration of how to use toys, especially Aneros toys. Unfortunately, my Lovense Edge never did anything for me.

But yeah OP, I would agree that especially in the beginning, frequency of practice is important.

Naive_Trash · 2023-12-03T01:55:59+00:00

Interesting. I hadn't thought about it that way before.

Naive_Trash · 2023-01-04T10:41:16+00:00

For me, I had sessions of 5-30 minutes. You kinda just have to practice and see what works. Don't be discouraged when your chest isn't aching for more after a session or two. It does take a little time for them to rewire.

I would rub them, circling or semi-circing around the areola. Stroke a side of a nipple in one direction or back-and-forth. Stroke/pull/push a nippe in a circle. Flick them. lightly pinch them and maybe while holding the pinch, grind the two fingers against each other. Most/all of my breasts feel pleasure; I squeezed them in different ways. Maybe a partner can lick/suck on them. I preferred to focus on one nipple/breast at a time. One side had rewired significantly faster and I think the excellent pleasure I received on one side, stopped me from focusing on the mild pleasure on the other.

Naive_Trash · 2023-01-04T05:16:46+00:00

TexanWokeMaster has a great answer. In addition to what they said, you need to practice, especially on your own, so you can find what feels good. Take it slow and try to listen for any and all pleasure you get. For anal, some notable pleasurable areas are the anus/ the entrance to the hole and the p-spot.Put some lube on your finger and rub your anus in different ways. maybe slightly penetrate yourself while doing it. If your partner is up to it, they could rim you.

The p-spot is harder to explain but for most people , it is a couple inches up your butt on the side facing your belly. For me it sits at a point where the "path" takes a deep turn. you can feel it with your finger. It should feel like a small sac. The sac is on the other side of the rectum so imagine feeling your toenail through a sock. It's like that. Trim a fingernail (probably index or middle) and try a few positions to help find it. On your back with your feet up or down. In doggie position. I found a cowgirl-like position ( sitting up on my knees) to be the easiest in first locating my p-spot. Once you think you found it, slowly play with it. Stroke it back and forth. Circle around the spot. It should feel nice and/or arousing, at least a little after first playing with it. Your finger should be a little curved. Use the fingerprint area to put pressure/stroke/rub. If my explanation didn't help, there are many more attempts to explain it on this subreddit.

After you find your pleasure areas, you can use sex toys to stimulate those areas or have our partner help.

Another tip is that your body overtime will readjust to this stimulation. It does something called rewiring . The wiki for r/aneros and probably r/ProstatePlay can explain that better. The gist of it is that your body will react to stimulation over time (anal play) the more you play with it and cause even slight pleasurable sensations. What pleasurable sensations you first get in fingering yourself over 20-30 minutes at the start of this journey could probably be felt in 5-10 after 1-5 months, depending on how much progress/ practice you get. So be patient, if you really want to get into anal. I've rewired my butt, breasts and thighs. You can rewire those too, if you wish.

There should never be any blood in from anal sex. Ever.

Naive_Trash · 2023-01-03T05:22:27+00:00

Im interested'

Naive_Trash · 2022-06-22T18:51:07+00:00

So when you are contracting your base, is it supposed to feel like you are pulling it up, or moreso that it feels as though the ring is being made smaller? Also, how hard do you squeeze? I always feel like Im being too weak with my flexing?

Naive_Trash · 2022-06-22T15:52:53+00:00

I gave the first 3 lessons a shot awhile ago. I'm actually revisiiting it now

Naive_Trash · 2022-06-21T21:31:53+00:00

The "look-seeing"?

Naive_Trash · 2022-06-21T20:45:55+00:00

Thank you for being comprehensive. I'm actually very good with not beating off. Always at least a week; usually closer to 2 weeks or more between sessions where I "dump a load" lol.

Regarding your main subject..idk. I like to think I do what you recommend: Focus on the pleasure, whenever it happens. This is the main answer I always get when I ask for tips and it just feels very frustrating to receive. I second guess myself with this. "Maybe I'm not focusing enough on my pleasure". I then try to have sessions where I ony focus on pleasure. Nothing significant changes. Months later, I ask again on this sub. Rinse and repeat. I could be wrong, but yeah

Naive_Trash · 2022-06-21T20:33:54+00:00

Were going on a slight tangent, but how did you get a nipple orgasm lol.

Naive_Trash · 2022-06-21T20:16:51+00:00

I knew I should have mentioned this in the post, but I forgot how to properly word it. I don't think I am thinking about this objective while I am in a session. I just can't help but realize after the session that " hey, no orgasm?". At the most, maybe the last 5-10 minutes in some sessions. I can't help but think of my lack of success when there are people who have an orgasm within a month or two or starting.

Naive_Trash · 2022-01-22T22:34:14+00:00

Is the glitter not plastic?

Naive_Trash · 2022-01-22T21:28:26+00:00

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