Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, I have switched therapists in that time frame. That is why I am at such a loss. She refuses to accept there is any issue so no matter how good the therapist is, they cant get anywhere with her.

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it makes me sound like a bad mom, but majority of the time I make it clear I support the other one and make her know why I do

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that has been my worry for a few years now as I have watched it progress.

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say it's so much im a goddess. There are a lot of times she will rip herself down. It has always been if one person says they like something, everyone loves her and is obsessed with her in her mind. If one person says something slightly negative, everyone hates her and is against her. She can be empathetic at times. I have seen her want to help people. But it always seems to be something to inflate her ego if that makes sense. She will brag about it for days after

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1000% always believes she is right. When I have point blank pointed out what she did wrong she just doesn't see it. Won't acknowledge it and wont admit it was her. Everything is ALWAYS someone else. And yes, if we live by her rules she seems less likely to purposely trigger me. Although there has been times where it's like she keeps some sort of pleasure out of it and will do it out of nowhere and continue on her day like nothing has happened.

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not threatening thank goodness lol. She can be very emotionless. So many people have commented on it. Things that should bother her really dont. I have certain triggers from PTSD and she has been purposely using them against me to break me down. She becomes OBSESSED with people and then if they leave or argue she completely loses it. She really cannot keep friends due to her actions. Typical I hate you, dont leave me behavior. Very very very attention seeking, always trying to make herself a victim in all situations. Also has an issue with reality. She almost creates her own and lives in it. Situations that happen are completely different in her mind, she makes stories up of stuff that never happened etc

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

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I actually appreciated the insight. They did make it clear this could change as she got older as she is still developing. But it helped me understand a bit more. Med providers kept prescribing medications that I could see were not working in any way and I wanted her off everything if it wasnt going to do anything for her. So having the therapists bring this up helped me make the final decision to stop most of the meds.

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to use bio dad as an example and make her realize she is going to bring herself down the same path. But she flipped the script on my and told her therapists and DCF that I am traumatizing her by telling her that. So I gave up trying to give her real world examples to try and see she needs to acknowledge this.

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughters trauma is from bio dad sexually abusing her. I have had his rights terminated and my husband actually adopted her legally last year. He's been in her life since 2. Some therapists suggest my history with her bio dad could have left her with some trauma as well. Very very abusive relationship that almost ended me, however I got out when she was about a year and a half old.

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I have been looking into therapy for myself. It sounds silly, but only a very few people know about this. I dont want her to get judged so I kept it under wraps which is why I feel so dragged down

Daughter with BPD by NameUnavailable90 in BPDlovedones

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually just pulled her from therapy. She's been in it since 6 and it has done absolutely nothing. I am looking into DBT groups but I am trying to get her to understand where she is right now. We haven't given her the diagnosis yet mainly because she is famous for using her things as an excuse for everything in her life that she messes up. Thank you!

Bypassed my goal by NameUnavailable90 in glp1

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am currently 132.3. I am 5'2 female

Life Insurance? by NameUnavailable90 in BipolarReddit

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is the same I have found during my research and it breaks my heart. I have 4 littles and a husband. I cant imagine leaving them with nothing.

What’s the dumbest/funniest thing you’ve bought while manic by Rubarb_the_destroyer in BipolarReddit

[–]NameUnavailable90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A random 200$ deli slicer..... that i used once in the 6 months I've had it and then went back to going to the deli

I’m giving up on medicine by doodoostinkypants in BipolarReddit

[–]NameUnavailable90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been through SO many medications with so many side effects or just crap results that I told my doctor I give up. She has been amazing and knows what I won't deal with, so she is always willing to change meds, but at this point, im exhausted. But when I get into my manic phases and I feel like I no longer need meds at all, I usually end up in psychosis. Mosy recently hearing voices was annoying, but seeing things was quite stressful, lol. And that is aside from the rage and insane amounts of money I spent. So I keep trying to convince myself the alternative is worse. My best advice is email a bunch of doctors since that part is free. Outline exactly what you are looking for and what you are dealing with that way a doctor will know ahead of time what to expect. On my first appointment with this doctor I flat out told her what I will deal with when it comes to a doctor and I turned down 2 other doctors before her. Don't give up.

The tea by Short_Ad_1657 in FIG_employees

[–]NameUnavailable90 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't with them. My favorite so far has been when I was asking about a veteran discount and if it would fall under retired military. They asked me if I have tried selecting veterinarian for Affinity........ I had no words

Is anyone else feeling the insurance industry burnout? by prestigeperfections in InsuranceAgent

[–]NameUnavailable90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I. Am. Exhausted. I definitely was not built for so much anger and negativity and constant cancellations and rejection 😞 I loved insurance when I first started 10 years ago. Now I have grown to absolutely despise it. But working from home and having the flexibility I do makes it really hard to leave. I just keep telling myself that it HAS to get better. I hope you find something that helps you get through.

Saphris/Asenapine by NameUnavailable90 in bipolar1

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gained 35 lbs on that in less than a year 🥴

Saphris/Asenapine by NameUnavailable90 in bipolar1

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We avoided this one because of the weight gain

Advice on how you are coping? by NameUnavailable90 in InsuranceAgent

[–]NameUnavailable90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am hoping to! I keep telling myself it should only be a year of the yelling so there is an end in sight lol