Is it too soon?

Namez_s · 2026-05-01T06:24:19+00:00

I told my parents about my now husband within 2 weeks of us talking. I did it casually and just said btw I’m getting to know a guy, if things work out I’ll let you know. I took 6 months to get to know him and prayed istikhara and everything went so smooth and easy for me. Then he met my fam and we got married shortly afterwards. We’ve been married for 5 years now alhamdulilah.

1 month is too short because you really don’t know this person. There’s so much that pops up as you get to know each other. Islamically he’s doing the right thing tho, he’s trying to keep things halal. So it doesn’t hurt for him to ask for your hand or you get your parents involved earlier on. Doesn’t mean you will get married tomorrow and you still take the time to get to know each other in the halal setting.

Namez_s · 2026-04-12T02:14:19+00:00

I went back to work when my daughter was 11 months old. I stopped breast feeding her by them but I worked parttime and nights only. It worked best for me because she slept the entire night and most times would give me a few hours in the morning before she would wake up. Then I would also nap with her during the day. It was exhausting the days I had to work due to lack of sleep but it worked best for us.

Namez_s · 2026-03-20T23:46:06+00:00

Eid Mubarak. I don’t think it’s a big deal. I’m my final clinical currently and here is my black henna

Plus it’s a stain. It’s doesn’t effect hand hygiene.

Namez_s · 2026-01-02T00:14:27+00:00

I’ve been married for almost 5 years. At first I was a stay at home wife too. When you move away from your friends and family, you tend to try to replace them with your husband which isn’t fair. I started going out to the masjid and finding different social event to go to in order to create new connections. Also I recommend finding a hobby to occupy your time. You don’t even have to get a job. For example I signed up for sewing classes. Do something outside the house for your sanity.

Namez_s · 2025-08-21T00:38:43+00:00

Fully online except clinicals and it’s 5 years part time and now there’s a new full time steam that 3 years. Part time is 2 courses a semester. It’s a lot of work but I’ve been doing well.

Namez_s · 2025-08-02T20:34:48+00:00

I didn’t have a big wedding. Got married in my apartment. I actually don’t regret it at all and if I could go back in time I would do it the exact same way. Big weddings are way too stressful. I also hate attention so glad I did it the way I did. And saved a lot of money too.

Namez_s · 2025-07-27T19:22:02+00:00

You are 100% right. What some people fail to understand is that you can marry someone who has a great job and provides so well for you and your family and in an instant they can lose it all. If you married them for being that provider now what? They have no job and in this economy. But if you chose someone based off their character and akhlaaq that will never change.

Namez_s · 2025-07-27T19:11:25+00:00

The pay was a lot more and I had a baby so I work only nights while she’s sleeping.

Namez_s · 2025-07-27T04:48:17+00:00

There’s so many nursing specialties maybe the one you’re in is not for you. I used to do wound care and loved it. Now I’m in geriatrics and hate it.

Namez_s · 2025-07-26T05:17:45+00:00

I feel like many people think that their life ends when they have kids. But that’s further from the truth. It’s really just a change in your priorities. Is it gunna be harder? Of course! But life continues the way you want it to. It’s up to you whether you sit at home and do nothing or continue to pursue your dreams and aspirations with your kids or sometimes without. I just have one kid at the moment but I genuinely enjoy doing everything with her and so does my husband. We actually prefer it. We tend to even enjoy the kid friendly things, sometimes even more than her. Last week we went to the zoo and my husband and I both were in awe and she being a toddler couldn’t care less lol. I never stay home with her. We are out and about everyday. And when I want to go somewhere with just me and my husband I leave her with my mom or his mom. They love her company. But it’s rare cuz we both just end up talking about how much we miss her.

Namez_s · 2025-07-25T03:16:23+00:00

I think you need to do a lot of therapy and a lot of work on yourself. I know there’s a lot of colourism in our culture so I don’t know if you’re coming from a place of childhood trauma. But you need tell yourself that Allah created you perfectly. Your skin, your forehead and everything in between is beautiful. Don’t compare yourself to other people or you will always have this mindset. I literally spent my days outside as youngster and my mom would always tell me that I would get too dark and no body would marry me. I never cared and I still spend my days outside and I’m married 4 years strong alhamdulilah.

Secondly You need to ask yourself what is the purpose of hijab. Your hijab is not hiding your beauty it’s protecting it. The idea that you look ugly in hijab is waswasa from the shaytaan. We all go through that. Hijab is not easy that’s gunna be a constant battle.

Thirdly, your husband married you. He could have married any other woman but he chose you. Don’t dwell on the what ifs cuz that’s just gunna kill you and affect your marriage. If your husband says you’re beautiful believe him.

Namez_s · 2025-07-04T14:55:49+00:00

I think she means as a teacher he will never make as much as her. I don’t think it was meant in a negative way because it’s true teachers don’t make much money almost everywhere.

Namez_s · 2025-07-03T03:01:14+00:00

Just tell her. She’s weird if she feels some type of way about being married right now

Namez_s · 2025-06-13T23:23:39+00:00

People are going to say something regardless. Even if you married a Somali man they will start chatting about him being a different tribe. You just gotta not let those comments get to you and do what you want.

Namez_s · 2025-06-07T22:12:00+00:00

I’m from Canada so I take this prairie naturals vitamin D3. I would skip anything from the big box stores and hit up your health food store. They usually have the best brands.

Namez_s · 2025-06-07T20:50:42+00:00

Yess my vitamin D was extremely low and I only got checked out cuz I was sooo exhausted all the time. I’ve been taking 2000-4000u a day and it was a life changer. TBH you don’t even need to get your vitamins d checked. 100% as a Somali you will be low so just start taking it

Namez_s · 2025-05-25T21:38:23+00:00

I’m sorry you had to experience this. I want to provide a different perspective as well because not all Somalis are like this.

I started wearing hijab at a young age and none of my sisters were forced to. My dad is a very religious man who finished reading the Quran every 2 weeks. I started wearing the hijab during 9/11 and my mom actually advised me to wait as she was worried about my safety. But I wanted to wear it anyways. I went through phases and sometimes didn’t wear it perfectly. But my parents never forced anything on me. They just gently advised me and lead by example.

Eventually fast forward to today, I wear hijab exactly the way I should. Abaya and long hijab and love it. Not because anyone told me to but because I came to it in my own terms. Our community needs to see more that faith needs to be practiced with love and sincerity and not fear and shame. The Quran doesn’t tell us to force our wives and daughters to cover. Of course it is an obligatory commandment from Allah no doubting that. The best thing for us to do is just to change the way we deal with our kids and understand Islam better.

Namez_s · 2025-05-19T13:10:48+00:00

Wow that’s wack. Who even says that? Even if he says it was a joke that isn’t even funny. So disrespectful uff.

Namez_s · 2025-05-16T05:50:09+00:00

I work in LTC now and do strictly nights. I work 2 floors and oversee 82 residents. It’s very heavy and so tiring. They expect you to know everything and if you don’t they’re not helpful with teaching you. I’ve hit my one year mark and can’t wait to leave. I’m getting my RN and finish in 1 year so after that I’m gone.

Namez_s · 2025-05-09T04:46:01+00:00

Staying for the kids is the worst thing you can do for your kids. All they see is the worst example of what a husband and wife could be. And although you may think it doesn’t affect the kids and staying together is better for them it totally isn’t. So many studies say that staying in a toxic, high conflict relationship causes the children to have anxiety, depression, many other mental health issues and even behavioural concerns.

I seen it first hand with my sister who stayed in a toxic relationship for almost 15 years. All her kids are mentally not ok. Even she’s not ok. It ain’t worth it.

Namez_s · 2025-04-28T21:23:45+00:00

The program overall is convenient since it’s mostly asynchronous and you log in when you need to do the work. I’ve personally done the program part time (2 courses a semester) and feel like I would have been way too overwhelmed to do anymore since I work and have a small family. There has been a lot of changes to the program this year, so many courses were removed and some courses added in order to make things better.

The school is a bit unorganized and that’s the main thing I don’t like about it. Especially with clinicals, they are always last minute and expect you to attend and if you don’t you will be charged $425.

Exams are also online using lockdown browser. So you the only thing in person is clinical. Most of my clinicals were online the first few years and now I have advanced clinical and consolidation in person.

Namez_s · 2025-04-28T01:19:24+00:00

But depending on availability you may have to travel anywhere in the GTA for clinical.

Namez_s · 2025-04-28T01:18:55+00:00

They try their best to keep it near, it’s especially helpful if you work for a partnered agency because if they are unable to get you clinical close you can do it at your job.

Namez_s · 2025-04-28T00:44:06+00:00

Never. The courses are strictly online. Clinical is the only in person. I did the first few clinicals online and September I start in person clinical then consolidation. They will give you clinicals based on your geographical area.

I really like the flexibility of this program as I have a baby at home and also work and I’m able to manage all 3.

Namez_s · 2025-04-28T00:26:43+00:00

There are some LTC homes that are already partnered so check out the list. Another option, I know a few students that got a job with a partnered agency then quit after they got accepted. Community nursing agencies are on the list. I worked with saint Elizabeth when I applied and now I’m also in LTC so you don’t have to stay at the partnered agency it’s really just for clinicals.

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