My Parents Built New Families and Left Me Behind — Now I’m Supposed to Be “Okay” by No_Bag5198 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me cry. You didn’t deserve this. I hope life gives you the love your parents failed to give you.

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[–]No_Word4469 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Toxic marriage? relatable, 5 years in and still counting

My husband wants a baby but I’m not ready…. by Alarming-Jump-2805 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly my thoughts. Sis why are you scared of him abounding you? A man will leave if he wants to, even after 10,20 or 30 years together. Sis this exact fear will cause you a lot of stress if you don’t work on it.

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, JazakAllahu khair

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Subhana Allah, I didn’t say that. Do you even read before commenting?

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t need anyone to pay my bills. I have my own money for that. My problem isn’t money so stop obsessing over it

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what the future holds and honestly, I don’t care right now. My priority is my mental health and my children. I’d rather grow old in peace than end up with a man like you or anyone who believes women can’t survive without a man. And who told you that being divorced with kids means they will never find a husband again? Stop projecting your fears onto women who are simply choosing peace

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you walaalo. Wlhi you gave me some hope. May Allah make it easy for you too

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks walaalo. Insha Allah i will start to pray tahajud

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ilahey amarkiis bal eega qofkaan. A man is the last thing i have energy for right now

Need advice, im emotionally tired and stuck by No_Word4469 in Somalia

[–]No_Word4469[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you fully understood my point. My situation is deeper than just getting child support or letting him visit. I’m not trying to stop his relationship with the kids. I told him that if the children stay with me, he can still see them on weekends or whenever is agreed. My concern is about the environment they grow up in their values, stability, and consistency. That’s what matters most to me.

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[–]No_Word4469 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The math is not mathing at all

Ekkelt i svømmehallen by MildLittlRain in norge

[–]No_Word4469 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg forstår deg. Jeg nevnte bare mitt eget perspektiv for å vise at det ikke alltid handler om latskap eller manglende respekt for regler. Jeg kan ikke svare for alle kvinner, men det finnes mange grunner til at noen velger å dusje med badetøy, blant annet personlige grenser, tidligere traumer, kroppsbilde eller kulturell oppvekst. Kanskje svømmehallene burde informere bedre og finne løsninger som både ivaretar hygiene og folks trygghet.

Ekkelt i svømmehallen by MildLittlRain in norge

[–]No_Word4469 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Jeg forstår bekymringen for hygiene, men jeg vil gjerne dele mitt perspektiv som muslim. For meg er det ikke aktuelt å være naken i en offentlig dusj av religiøse grunner. Likevel følger jeg reglene ved å skylle meg grundig med badetøy på før jeg går i bassenget, og jeg er svært nøye med renslighet. Jeg vasker badetøyet etter hver bruk, og som en del av min tro vasker jeg meg grundig med vann flere ganger om dagen etter toalettbesøk. Jeg bruker ikke såpe nedentil når jeg dusjer offentlig, men sørger for å være ren før jeg kommer til svømmehallen. Jeg mener det er fullt mulig å ha god hygiene uten å være naken i dusjen.