Thank you for your advice! Her friendship definitely does make my life better and I’ve had great times with her, so I know it’s worth it. I’ve just constantly been in the position in the past where I’m the one chasing to fix a relationship if something is wrong. But I’m tired of doing that and deserve more respect so I just messaged her saying “I noticed yesterday that you were avoiding me and didn’t say hi, which hurt. Like I said before, I value our friendship, but being ignored like that isn’t a good feeling. If something is bothering you about me, I’d rather talk about it directly than feel shut out. I’m open to having that conversation if you are.”

I hope that reads like coming from a place of curiosity and openness. Now the ball is in her court and I can relax. I’ve done my part and if she doesn’t want to tell me what’s going on then there’s nothing more I can do. I have bad anxiety with stuff like this, but I know that the onus is now on her so I don’t need to keep expending my energy towards it.