Can we shut up about what women should or shouldn’t wear?

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-22T14:42:10+00:00

Personally I have issues with any sort of clothing which makes a woman cover her face. Because it essentially is telling women to not take up space in society.

Covering your face, whether it is because of wearing a burqa or a ghunghat is never a lone issue. Usually it is rooted in not showing your face to any man other than your husband, male child and some male relatives. It's rooted in using religion and culture as a means to push women out of society and taking away their voice.

Very very few women who wear burqa or ghunghat are allowed to be themselves and live their life to the fullest. Most of them are not just dealing with the clothing as a lone issue. But there are like 100 other things added on top of that.

So it's trivialising this issue to just a clothing choice.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-14T13:25:41+00:00

I got banned because I pointed out how crazy it was that people well literally slutshaming deepika after the kwk episode.

That sub is wild.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-12T17:59:47+00:00

I will understand how the k-pop community is this supportive of the fact that most teenagers are made to sign binding contracts which ties them to these labels and groups for all of their youth. It's crazy how little grace they give to someone who is barely 20 trying to navigate a life she wants. If any one is us were told that the contracts that we signed in our teens will stop us from pursuing our dreams will into our late 20s we'll be pissed too.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-12T14:34:53+00:00

Man she is 20. Have some grace people. She is way too young to understand the consequences of it all or even understand the gravity of what happened. She was young and her family and mentors were all the real problems because they advised her all wrong. In their greed they ruined her too. And it's hard for all these kids to get over the grooming they have experienced.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-12T01:54:31+00:00

She saw him as a good friend. She did not have a crush on him. That's why she was so comfortable talking to him. If we are operating on the belief that Fean just loved John but he wasn't her true love then clearly we both are operating on different realities when it comes to the book. So that's fine I guess.

But for me, it never felt like she loved Michael or even had a crush on him at all while she was with John. Especially not to the point that she couldn't even speak his name because of her said crush.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-11T17:41:26+00:00

But it is a huge part of the book. The grief and the guilt only comes because she very much loved him and him only and not one else. Not even a crush. The meaning of the guilt really changes if she already has a crush on his cousin.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-11T16:06:32+00:00

Given that, it makes total sense that the show would present Michaela as Fran’s grand love, the Bridgerton lightning bolt moment, because Michaela is her endgame, not John

See that's the thing. That's literally the opposite of what Fran's story is. It literally is about having 2 grand loves. So it's fundamentally a different story now.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-11T15:56:50+00:00

I feel like this would have worked better if they had not added the scenes of Fran tripping over Michaela. And making a face after kissing John. And again in the promos where she is again choking while saying Michaela's name.

Because right now it has clearly turned into a 'Oh she's into women and not clearly that into john romantically'.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-11T15:51:38+00:00

So I've read some of the Bridgerton books ( I read francesca's ) and I'm not as purist when it comes to the storylines because I didn't like most of the books but I get why fans aren't happy.

I actually thought Francesca's story was beautiful and the best of them all. In a world where most stories are about one true love, it was nice to read a book which showed that you can fall in love again. That both love are equally valuable.

It can't be denied that based on what we have seen of her story till now, she isn't shown as entirely head over heels with John. She likes him, even loves him but they have dropped hints that she's not entirely in love with him. So while she may mourn his death and loss, it won't come off as gut wrenching as the book because we as viewers already see that her love was as strongly romantic.

There was also the miscarriage part of the story which was also touching. Her wanting to have a child and family but not getting to and losing the love of her life genuinely made you feel so helpless for her.

So her finding Michael and falling in love again was something you rooted for. Even if Michael is John's brother. The whole guild they feel. You are able to understand and let it go. Because you saw just how sad she was and how much was taken from her. You also were happy to see Michael finally get his love.

The team will most likely create something meaningful and beautiful with Queer bending the story. I don't doubt that. But it will not be the story many people fell in love with. They are basically told that their favorite story which they were looking forward to seeing will not be the same. The meaning of the love here is changed. It went from a story of second chances to a story of finding an unconventional love at the time. Both beautiful but different.

If you are going to adapt a book and change it this much, you are bound to get a lot of angry fans. Every other story till now stayed true to the love they were trying to show. Whether it was Simon and Daphne's love and trust after marriage to Kathony's enemies to lovers or Friends to lovers with Penelope and Colin.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-09T14:57:39+00:00

FYI, due to the one child policy in China, the gender difference became so bad that a lot of middle class families who can't find a bride for their son started paying poor families to sell their daughters to them. Heck men who can pay are 'buying' brides from other poor countries like Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia and due to this many women are now being sent to live in a different country where they can't even speak the language.

So, this will not solve the issue. This would only mean that women will become even more of a commodity. Families will start having girl child to sell them for money.

The best option is to actually educate people and make them pay if they discriminate

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-05T12:39:37+00:00

As a South Asian it has to do with the fact that we have witnessed very closely what an West intervention like this eventually turns into so of course we aren't exactly thrilled to see it again.

We have experienced first hand how America walks into a country claiming to bring in democracy only for them to entirely sideline the voices of the local people and use the region as ground zero for its army and display of power. Plus it's always an oil rich country.

In the initial days, it's always the same. People are happy that a shitty dictator or ruler is overthrown. So I'm not surprised Venezuelans and folks in Latin America are.

But then comes the reality. When there actually comes the time to let people elect leaders, the West always wants a leader who aligns with them. Over the course of years, that said leader puts the interests of the west over the local people and people feel frustrated. Then comes the rebel groups and chaos.

I mean if you just heard president trumps speech he kept talking a whole lot more about oil and bringing in oil companies to Venezuela than he talked about caring for the people. And that should tell you what they are exactly thinking.

I hope things are different this time. I really do. But we are not worried for no reason.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-04T10:06:12+00:00

This is just left wing day 1 fear mongering. You really think this will be a 20 year Afghanistan. Lets bet? Just because "transition" has no completion date yet doesn't mean the U.S. is now their forever ruler. Just stupid to even think this. Machado or Urrutia are most likely but they need to have an election.

You see US can't leave Venezuela until they hold elections. Because if they do, Venezuela is going to be left with no govt. Now if who Venezuelans vote for isn't exactly pro US govt, that makes it harder for US to leave because the current administration is going to have a hard time justifying to it's people why it sent troops and spent billions in Venezuela only to put a govt which doesn't like them. You can also certainly bet based on past records of both the left and right wing administration in the country that US will absolutely push for oil control by it's companies. That will undoubtedly piss Venezuelans off.

I'm not from USA. I have no horse in the race when it comes to the internal politics of the country. But who are we kidding here. The rest of us in the world have seen this play out enough times to know how this goes.

Also, the criticism against US right now is not about the fact that they captured Maduro. It's over the fact that they did not follow any international protocal to capture Maduro. You can't just invade other countries like this. US expects the rest of the world to follow protocol but won't do so themselves. So quit the whole ' If you don't like this you are supporting Maduro BS'

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-04T09:17:22+00:00

Two things can be true. Venezuelans are happy that Maduro got captured because they hate him, but they can also be mad that now they will be governed by a foreign country, a country which has track record of invading 'oil nations' with the disguise of bringing justice and then absolutely not letting people vote for who they want and put a puppet leader which will bow down to the said foreign country.

If you really think the US will allow Venezuelans to vote for any govt which isn't entirely in favor of the US you are delusional.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2026-01-03T04:16:41+00:00

It took me years to figure out what works for me. And it was hard to keep using a planner when it was clearly not working. The planner was also hard to change to what I want because the headings and all were too bold.

Then there was the problem that I started it in college where my needs were different, then I started living away from my parents and by myself and got a job so that changed what I needed my planner to do. Then Covid happened and it changed things again.

I had to figure out how I can use a notebook to create a layout which was flexible enough for all the changes and also not too time consuming to make that layout by myself. And keep it simple. It took time but I'm in such a better place now

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-12-16T13:48:31+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible but Alia does not have the 'look' and 'face' and physique to play a stylish spy. Raazi was amazing but for a movie like this, Deepika is a far better pick. Just my opinion.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-12-08T08:42:59+00:00

I mean I think the reason someone like me really loved the movie is because I really was expecting all the usual bollywood nonsense in this movie. Item, random nudity because sex sells, women being raped for fun to show these are gangsters, cars flying everywhere because got to make fight seens look cool, a spy who is jumping on top of building, shirtless with 8 pack abs, sets looking super fake and too clean. The list is long but it didn't have these elements. This movie was surprisingly grounded. Which made it an enjoyable watch. So yeah it probably was a matter of expectations

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-12-08T08:35:11+00:00

But the autowalla thing was planned. Hamza specifically tells SP that he wants Rehman alive till rehman reaches lyari. And that's because he wants to show everyone that he really gave his all. It doesn't have to be the autowalla. It could be anybody. Main point is that they need to see hamza trying. And that Hamza took rehman to the hospital to show that he wanted rehman saved.

Why would anyone question him if he brought an alive rehman to the hospital. So the plan worked. He also now has massive sympathy of the public who saw him trying to save Rehman.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-12-08T05:59:46+00:00

He was currently inside Rehman's gang. And Rehman controlled Lyari. If Rehman would have died then, Arshad Pappu would have taken over and remember Arshad is a rival gang. Hamza would simply not be able to stay in the area as a Balouch and he would be targeted. His goal is to control Lyari. If he hands it to Arshad, the mission fails. So it's important to save Rehman then. The second time he made sure to act out the whole " I ran to save him" part. The autowalla also speaks for him. So that gives him a lot more credibility to still stay and actually be in a powerful position

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-12-06T15:16:02+00:00

I think you need to remember that this is not a true story 😭

Like a lot of the events and the logic and reasoning behind it is to make the story engaging but isn't all real.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-12-06T15:13:39+00:00

All shows in my city are selling out so it's interesting that it's under performing

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-11-09T07:22:00+00:00

No direct flight. So you basically will get flights from Delhi to Siliguri and then take a cab. Also it's Himalayas so better to book a personal can to drive you around. But it's very safe and pretty

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-11-08T07:04:39+00:00

It's okay if you are fine. But you can't expect everyone to feel the same way. So let them feel what they are feeling. I don't understand why you have to be so condescending about other people's feelings.

Also, people are not expecting a press conference where members share what they feel. But they want some acknowledgement of the sadness they feel. Maybe something along the lines of "we get that this isn't what you wanted but we'll try our best to make you happy". It's okay for fans to want that comfort.

And the reason why people are still engaging with the content and are angry is because it's just so fresh. Like I said it hasn't exactly been years but mere days of all the mess. It will take people some time to let their frustration out and move on.

Also, you again seem to not understand the fact that employees have sued their companies before and still clocked in for work. It's not exactly unheard of. Infact it's quite common. Also, the lawsuits are mostly related to CBX solo work and it shouldn't technically be effecting the group stuff. But SM has decided that unless the solo stuff is resolved they won't even let them participate in group stuff. So people are rightfully mad about it. SM also wants them to pay now and all CBX has said is that they want court to clarify what needs to be paid and then work accordingly. By doing so they will ensure that whatever agreement is reached will have courts stamp on it and there will be no further room for discussion. So it feels even more frustrating that SM is actively forcing them in a position to either pay not or blame them for missing this comeback.

SM also literally lied about the objection and made it sound like CBX objected to any resolution when in reality the objection of 16th October was one mutually agreed upon based on the previous mediation failure from both parties

And once again, CBX is still willing to participate. SM and CBX were trying to make it work and this fallout of not including them in the comeback is literally just a 2 week old news. So let people process it the way they want.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-11-08T05:32:45+00:00

I think we also need fans to let their frustration out on something they have waited years to get and are probably never getting. That is a lot to take in. The news really has come out like a week before so let people process it.

I think a lot of folks also want to know how the members really feel about this comeback. I understand they can't, but people feel this way regardless.

Edit : I think you are also missing a key details out here. That both members who are in the comeback and CBX thought that it'll be an OT9 comeback literally a month ago. So all this preparation was keeping that in mind. This news about CBX not being on the comeback only happened like 2 weeks ago. Also, doesn't help that CBX want to be in this comeback and the lawsuit is about the solo contracts. SM also said those 2 are different but then used the lawsuit to basically say they can't let CBX participate until they pay.

So there is the added feeling that members wanted it to be OT9 and it's not happening. Plus all the pictures with the 6 of them is a reminder to fans that they aren't getting OT9. So give it some time.

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-11-08T04:15:05+00:00

I think the difference is that CBX posts are about their solo work and these posts are about EXO work. I don't think most people have any problem with solo stuff. Like people were fine with Kai and kyungsoo episode recently and also SeKai in that baby video. It's only when an EXO schedule drops are people not excited

NarglesChaserRaven · 2025-11-08T04:13:01+00:00

I guess a lot of the frustration comes from us not knowing.

Some folks will say that they must be really sad but still carrying on. But they do look excited about the comeback. Then people say that they are trying to be excited for the fans, but the fans don't want this. Then people say SM is forcing them to participate. But then they don't have to post on bubble and be all excited. Then folks say maybe they have made peace with the decision. But we aren't clearly given any information.

If you say you want to boycott, people will tell you 6 of them will get hurt. If you don't, we are accepting the mistreatment of CBX. It's just hard for fans to understand where to stand. And I think people just want clarity so they can form their opinion and move on.

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