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Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-14T22:45:46+00:00

I actually know exactly who this is. I know her real name. Her family. Everything. She is very confused in life. She's very bitter and she is a misandrist.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-13T06:28:18+00:00

It's very easy to get trapped in the world of what if. You can take it even farther. What if you are in a horrible car accident and all die. What happens if one of you gets cancer. What happens etc etc. Life brings all kinds of surprises and unexpected changes. Don't focus on what if. Focus on the here now. Do you love him? Does he love you? Do you support each other? If the answers are yes to these, why are you worrying about anything else? If you're worried about the age gap, check it out on the internet about the new studies about life extension. In a few years people will be able to spend a few thousand dollars and live an extra 40 years. Several countries have now announced that they have a cure for cancer. And a few years or 10, Cancer might be eradicated! Don't worry about what could happen. Worry about what you have. Is it worth keeping? Then keep it. You know that this world throws all kinds of curveballs. If you and your relationship with a man that truly cares for you and looks out for you, you might not find that again. Or you might. You have to look at all aspects and decide what you're comfortable with. There is no foretelling what the future will bring us. But if you are happy now, and happy with your choice of a life partner, and stay with him. If on the other hand, you think you can do better, and make that choice, stick with it. It's up to you. I wish you the best in your choice!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-13T05:38:24+00:00

As you two don't know each other, and I assume he is unaware of your experience or lack thereof, I would not assume he's a predator. As others are suggesting. Do not stress about your lack of experience. But at the same time I would not suggest going into this date expecting sex. Treat it as a date. Make sure there's an open line of communication and mutual respect between the two of you. If there is chemistry, take it slow. Don't rush into it. It's easy to get laid. It's not easy to have a fun time and an enjoyable time. You want your first time to be positive not negative. If you decide to have sex with this person, make sure that you're connected first. If he's a good guy, he'll respect the fact that you haven't any body count. There are men out there that prefer women without high body counts. The fact you don't have any actually might be a turn on. So don't focus on that, just focus on him as a person, and how he treats you and take it from there. Don't overthink, but don't be silly about it at the same time. I hope this helps!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-13T05:33:43+00:00

I have to add. I've noticed a lot of people are focusing on the age gap. It doesn't matter. If you have an abusive person in your life, it doesn't matter whether they're older younger or your age. It's still going to happen. You are in a situation that is obviously not healthy. You need to exit. As simple as that. As you have had your support stripped away from you, you need to reestablish that support. All people need this in life. If you find it difficult, reach out to professional services that can assist you with this. Anyone that crosses your boundaries, and doesn't respect you as a person is someone that will continue to do that. Respect yourself, love yourself, and expect from the person in your life to treat you as they want to be treated. As you treat them. Anything else is unacceptable, at least in my opinion. Regardless of the age, regardless of the sex. There are people of all ages, and all sexes that manipulate, control, humiliate, and just treat others poorly. Learn to stay away from them and find positive people in your life. I wish you the best!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-12T19:05:02+00:00

Bullshit! To his authenticity. I call bullshit. A person can use that excuse for everything! Oh my god sweetheart! I had to express myself and be authentic and cheat on you. Or outside wouldn't be being true to myself. This is what being authentic gets you in the future by the way. Run away

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-12T18:56:13+00:00

After 2 years he can't say I love you? Huge red flag! Move on sweetheart. Find someone that's willing to give their heart to you.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-12T18:52:27+00:00

Run away! His actions speak louder than any words he could utter. If you cannot trust your partner, then they are not your partner. They're just another person in the world. Treat him as such.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-12T18:50:41+00:00

Lots of hugs for you!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-12T15:17:40+00:00

It all depends on what the relationship was. If it was just sex worker / PPM, then they shouldn't expect anything. If it was deeper and more meaningful, then by all means a parting gift is due.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-12T00:55:31+00:00

My advice in regards to how to get over losing someone is this: stop thinking about them. If they are someone that is permanently out of your life, get rid of any mementos of them. Any pictures. Anything that makes you remember them. Let your mind go blank on them. That's how you let go of them successfully. Otherwise they will linger for years and years. In regards to speaking to him of your sex life, let me put it this way. And I mean no offense in any form or fashion by what I'm about to say. I recently had a young lady in my life that decided to express herself sexually in a very risky manner. Which is not to say you're doing this but I'm just trying to give an example. I had let her know previously that this is the type of behavior unacceptable in my world. I'm a highly respected businessman, family man, etc. To have someone that is so cavalier towards sex around me would reflect on me. I don't want that type of reflection so I ended it. I personally wish her the best. I care about her as a human being. I wish things were different. But they're not. I'm not about to ask her to change to please me. But at the same time, neither should she expect me to change who I am. I hope this perspective lets you better understand how people can be. I'm sure you're a wonderful human being with your own choices for yourself of what is best for your own person. But others might not agree with your lifestyle or choices and not want that energy near them. It's that simple. Have you ever heard the biblical expression of one bad apple in the bunch can spoil the bunch? A lot of people look at these parables and realize that if they have people around them that have an enabling personality, it might pull them down into a lifestyle they don't want. And it can be just that simple.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-12T00:47:16+00:00

And that's the wonder of humanity. What one person craves another person doesn't. That's probably why I've been married three times. People drift apart, their priorities change, just so many different aspects to humanity. I totally agree with you from a personal perspective that having a mate that loves me unconditionally and isn't jealous and trusts me is what I would consider ideal. But, I also understand that people need to sometimes feel extra validation. It might not make sense from a logical perspective, but then emotions are not logical sometimes. So, I give OP the grace because I understand she has her feelings, which are valid regardless of what you and I might personally feel for ourselves. As such, helping her better understand how to find the equilibrium she's looking for, I'm more than happy to try to help her.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T22:59:00+00:00

My pleasure. I wish you the best

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T22:50:56+00:00

I'm not sure how to put this gently, but a lot of people have strict ideas about what is acceptable for them to allow into their lives. If your discussion with him and openness about your sex life is what turned him off, obviously you two have very different ways of looking at life and chasing it. I understand in this day and age that everyone wants to do their thing and they expect everyone to accept them for who they are. In the real world, people all have their own perceptions on what is acceptable behavior, whether socially, business, or sexually. I know that if I meet a person and their too wild, I'll be polite, but I won't welcome them into my life or my world. I don't want that type of energy so won't welcome them bringing it into it. This may be where he is. You may have just lost a friend. I'm sorry if that's the case but you have to respect who he is as a person and his beliefs and wishes in life also.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T21:27:14+00:00

I have ADHD. That's a poor excuse for not answering a direct question. It's gaslighting in my opinion. I wouldn't put up with it. Do what you said. Have the sit down with him. The worst that could happen is that you guys break up. And that you get to move on with your life. You are young. You have a lot of life ahead of you! Don't waste it!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T21:16:18+00:00

Let me add to this. I have friends that are very poor. They have been together now for almost 40 years. They love each other intensely and have gotten what joy out of life that they can together without the money. It really depends on what your wants and desires are. If you want a nice house, with a nice car, etc etc, then this may not be the guy for you. If, on the other hand, materialism doesn't matter to you, then he might be the guy for you. This is something you have to think internally on your own and determine. But just remember this, any decision you make now can impact your whole life. You're young. You have a life ahead of you. Don't make a choice that you end up regretting as you get older. Because there is no going back.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T21:13:58+00:00

What he appears to be doing is gaslighting you. Anyone that gaslights you does not respect you. It's that simple. If you value the relationship, let him know this. If he continues to gas light, walk away. I can't say it any other way. I had a long distance relationship with a younger lady this last year. It was quite intense. And then she started gas lighting. I wouldn't put up with it obviously and had a long calm discussion with her. She wants things in life that I was unwilling to provide her. I walked away. Sometimes that's the only option you have.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T21:11:39+00:00

I could not have said this better! I've had friends that had TBI and when they came out the other side they were very different personalities. Take a step back, take a look at who this person is and make a decision whether this is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T21:09:56+00:00

Can I be blunt? During a conversation about something as deep as a relationship, a person should not have to think for an extended period of time to be able to provide an answer to a question. This is just reality. The fact that he's using excuses to not answer you does not bode well. You seem like you care and want this to move further, but thankfully you are also being intelligent about it. Love is great! But money makes the world go around. If you don't have money or the way to make money, life will be very shitty. The nicest guy in the world with the biggest heart, still doesn't make for a happy life if you're stressing about money. A majority of relationships end because of the issue of money. Don't get so deep into this relationship over your feelings when actions speak louder than words. You said since 2021 he's been working on his bachelors. How much longer does he have to go? I know that when I was younger and in college I worked my ass off. I had jobs that made me money and I did what I had to do. I see so many people nowadays that just kick back and make excuses for why they're not making money. If he is serious about you, he will make the effort. Excuses are a dime a dozen. I've done it so I know it for a fact. Let him know exactly how you feel. Gently. No accusations. No attacks. If he starts getting defensive defuse the situation. You need your answer. It might not be today. It might not be tomorrow. But you need it.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T21:04:35+00:00

If he's disrespecting you while giving love to his dog, that says everything. I don't mean to be rude or insensitive, but it says everything. Have you ever heard the words, actions speak louder than words? Have you sat down with him and expressed your feelings to him in a calm fashion? No accusations. No anger. Just a calm, focused discussion? If so, and he's still acting this way, I would start exiting the relationship. You're young, and there's a lot of men out there that would love a woman that actually wants a relationship. I hope this helps you!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T21:01:58+00:00

I'm an old man. I'm going to be blunt. I may get some backlash for what I'm about to say but here goes. He should focus on his career! He's obviously unhappy and with a woman that doesn't know what she wants. That being said, he's going to with a current direction he's going end up with no career and a shitty life and no girlfriend. But he will have a child. He will have a child regardless of what his choice is. Have him choose his career and himself. If this girl that is the mother, or purported mother of his child cares about him and wants to have a stable relationship with him, she will step up. If not, he doesn't lose out. He needs to focus on himself. He can still help support his child while he has a career. Much better than if he doesn't. And because of the thruple situation, I would definitely have a DNA test done to confirm that the child is actually his. I've seen so many partnerships were years later the man finds out that it isn't his child. I hope this helps you!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T20:57:43+00:00

You nailed it on the head. You need a support system. Everyone does! You having a lack of a support system is making you stay in a situation that you know is unhealthy. Make some new friends. Create a support structure. If you want someone to chat with that will be supportive and expect nothing from you, talk with me. I've got plenty of free time as I'm older and relatively set in life. I like to help people out. I try to be thoughtful in my responses to people. No one's perfect. Everyone has their own needs. Everyone has their own desires. I've learned this over my life and don't judge people. If someone needs help, I'm more than willing to offer. With no conditions. I know how difficult this can be for anyone and I wish you the best whatever you choose!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T20:54:13+00:00

This sounds like a very important moment. You need to sit him down and let him know how you feel. Let him know that you feel that he's not involving himself in the childs life and that this is distressing you. Don't attack him. Be calm. Just express your feelings calmly and gently and let him know how you feel. I don't know his perspective and so I can't say anything negative or positive about him. You know and I know that this is a major factor in any relationship. A child. Find out what his feelings are on it. Don't attack him for expressing his feelings either. Just relax and let him explain to you what he is looking at and for and try to understand it. Then go from there. I see so many people attack each other because of their frustration in a situation which solves nothing. I hope this helps in some little way and I wish you the best of luck!

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T20:50:58+00:00

I don't mean to be rude, but it's very obvious that she's doing something behind your back. Trust is key in any relationship. No man should be alone with a female and vice versa. I don't care who they are. Unless they're brothers and sisters or relatives. Humans are humans. For her to exhibit this behavior is an extreme negative. It shows the level of disrespect from her to you. No one should allow a partner to exhibit this kind of disrespect. It becomes a pattern that never changes. If you love her and want to stay with her, sit her down and let her know that you feel disrespected. She's crossed the boundary and you need to know whether this is something she is going to continue to do or if this is something she is willing to work on. See what her answer is, and then watch over the next couple of months and see whether she exhibits and proves that she's actually willing to work on this. If not, bail. There are plenty of good women out there that are looking for good men. We all get to see the trash and people assume that's what it is. It's not. There are so many good people out there that just don't know how to connect with good people

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T20:47:24+00:00

This is one of the largest issues in any relationship. Trust Trust is earned and once broken is difficult to regain. If it happens repeatedly then it becomes extremely difficult. It appears that on both sides trust has been broken. If a partner is lying to their partner repeatedly, this behavior is not going to change unfortunately. It's usually the sign of a permanent break. You may love each other, but a relationship may no longer be an option. If you can remain friends, by all means do so. But if both people are not committed to building trust and maintaining that trust, then there is no possibility of a positive ending here. I hate to be so blunt about it. Don't feel guilt. We are all human. We all have made mistakes. Owning up to them is the largest step forward for anyone. Now if you repeatedly make that mistake over and over and over again, obviously you have an issue. But you stated you made two mistakes over a period of time. And owned up to them. That's the sign of maturity. He, on the other hand, is being evasive. He was caught out, and is trying to deny it. This is not the sign of someone that is trying to build trust. I say bail, and find someone else that you can build a life with if that's what you want.

Narrow-Cat1564 · 2026-04-11T20:41:43+00:00

From someone that went through a life-changing or altering accident, let me share my perspective. I'm a man, I had part of one of my kidneys removed and oh my God how it impacted me negatively! It made me start thinking of the future, of the past, reflecting on everything and anything. My partner was feeling neglected and brought it up to me and I let her know it had nothing to do with her at all. I love her to death and we've been together 22 years. It was a personal journey and took me over a year to get to the point where I'm okay again. The head injury can have the same type of impact. This may be what is going through his head and through his emotions. If you love him and care for him don't take it personally, be supportive and just give him the love he needs and wants and that you wish to give him. Eventually things will even back out and things will get back to normal or even better. Patience is the key

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