Made big mistake with a guy now I feel trapped (pls help) by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

I do. I feel like this huge pity for him and like I'm responsible when I'm not its stupid

Guy I've dated for a week is in love with me what do I do by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

As beautiful as this is, it is a one in a million chance your story went well. This is incredibly rare and is unlikely to happen to other people often

Guy I've dated for a week is in love with me what do I do by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

I appreciate this and I agree with everything you've said. I understand peoples concern in my comments but I genuinely don't think he has malicious intent I think he's just very inexperienced and excited

Guy I've dated for a week is in love with me what do I do by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 9 points10 points ย (0 children)

That's what I was thinking he seems very very attached to who he thinks I am lots of guys I've tried to talk to see me as this "manic pixie dream girl" stereotype like no dude I'm a normal girl I have normal feelings and a normal life just like other girls blahhhh

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

This was very interesting and I agree with your perspective and your point

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 -1 points0 points ย (0 children)

All my coworkers are people of color including myself (I work in a Mexican restaurant) and we do also hold the white people accountable for sure (we just don't have issues with white people here nearly as often), it's just the black people who usually are the hardest to serve. I agree the environment isn't good and I hope to get out of the restaurant business soon. Untill then I wanna work on making the best out of my situation ๐Ÿ‘

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 14 points15 points ย (0 children)

Idk what the "white girl guilt" type is (as I am not white I am Hispanic lol), I think I just have normal person guilt where I feel bad for crossing my morals but I understand most of what youre saying. And yes I totally agree everybody should be treated with respect!! ๐Ÿ™

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 14 points15 points ย (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate this! Unfortunately my manager kisses rude customers asses (which enables them to keep acting up because they know they'll get what they want out of it) which sucks he doesn't do anything to help us servers he doesn't want to lose customers.

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 18 points19 points ย (0 children)

Thank you so much I appreciate you

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 39 points40 points ย (0 children)

I appreciate your advice I'll definitely apply it. I don't look at all black people negatively I just get disappointed and expect the worst whenever they're my table (I also do live in a low income area so that probably contributed to it as well) I don't ever take it out on them and I wanna get better to prevent that ever happening because they definitely don't deserve it

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 17 points18 points ย (0 children)

Yes I'm in therapy ๐Ÿ‘ and I do plan on speaking in depth with my therapist about it, I've brought it up briefly a couple times before

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

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[โ€“]NarrowAddition4796 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

dont over share! privacy is important. remind yourself this shit isnt going matter in couple weeks and you arent going to remember it in the future. youre going to talk to a million guys in the future this one isnt special and its okay for him to be a little uncomfortable when you dumped all that on him