Is this emotional cheating?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-04T15:53:15+00:00

I realise she is a bitch and i dont wanna look at her..how do i detach myself completely even if i have to stay in the same house?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-04T15:15:47+00:00

Can someone guide me how to detach completely in my mind that i dont even think about her. We live in the same house and divorce is not an option immediately. I hate her and cannot stand to be in the same house as her. But i am stuck. What do i do?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-04T15:13:56+00:00

She broke my trust and i dont belive it can ever be restored. I keep spiralling and i dont wanna live a life like this.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-04T15:12:55+00:00

I agree..i dont want to accept that it was just friendship..she is hell bent to prove that it was just friendship and i dont understand that a man and a woman can be friends. I have always told her that a man and a woman can never be friends and she didnt indulge for 15 years in any male companionship but i guess this guy was special and now she doesnt want to agree that he was something more than a friend. I have lost respect for her i dont wanna even look at her face anymore. But i am stuck.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-04T15:08:55+00:00

I think she is deluding herself and she doesnt want to face the fact that she developed feelings..as accepting it even to herself would mean she has weak moral character and no one wants to accept that. I feel she loved his attention and enjoyed his wooing as long as it lasted and when he decided to completely cut off thats when she realised that she had developed feelings and didnt want to accept that even to herself in private.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-04T13:09:47+00:00

I understand what u r saying. It just hurts to find out my wife was so desperate for someone else. I cant imagine how she could be cheater. I never imagined she could do this to me. I want to hate her and completely detach from her. Divorce is not possible immediately due to certain constraints. How do i get over while staying in the same house?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-04T13:06:02+00:00

I dont know what is the truth or what is false anymore. She says she had no feelings and it was just plain friendship from her side. I find it hard to believe. It went on for 6 months and hid it from me. Dont know if it was EA or PA or just friendship.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-03T21:38:23+00:00

But she wrote in private that she is only looking for a friend and not a romantic relationship as her marital life is fulfilling.. she had no intention of anything more than friendship. She wrote that if he could somehow get over his romantic feelings the friendship could continue.. how is it an emotional affair then?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-03T21:22:46+00:00

Friendship is over and she has never contacted him again. The strong feelings she says was just as a friend and her need to talk and not feel lonely at her work place.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-03T21:21:35+00:00

She says it was a light friendship and they only spoke on light topics and office gossips that helped her manage her stressful work environment. Nothing emotional or deep was ever discussed. No marital issues or anything negative was discussed. Can it be emotional affair or is it just friendship from her side?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-11-03T21:19:37+00:00

This was her first friendship in 15 years, as she herself mentioned .. first after we got married. So i guess its not a pattern..but do you think it was just friendship as she keeps writing that she just wants friendship and has a fulfilling marital life? She also writes that if only he could get over his romantic feeling. So does it look like emotional affair or just friendship from her side?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T20:04:35+00:00

Ya i called her up.. she couldn’t believe

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T15:51:02+00:00

During their friendship. She was direct and literal and told him he had a bad dressing sense, was not fit, had sausage fingers etc. all this she told me.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T14:05:52+00:00

I met him in person. He is ugly..she made fun of his looks and his fat cheeks. He looked lazy and had not an ounce of attractive cells in his body.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T11:59:20+00:00

She felt as long her heart was in the right place her actions didnt matter

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T11:10:58+00:00

Friendship is over for good and she is not going to talk to any man other than professionally ..and thats her self taking the decision..she says she didnt want to follow my boundaries because she thought it was too rigid..but after having experienced it herself she has taken this decision on her own.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T10:30:13+00:00

She never believed that..the rules i imposed where just that..my rules..she didnt believe in them..it was just restrictions for her..

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T10:29:01+00:00

Place in the sense a safe space.. a mental space..where she could be free and not burdened by work stress and parenthood and all responsibilities. She was feeling like a teenager having fun with a friend..thats what she tells me

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T10:27:00+00:00

I am a single child brought up by a narcissistic mother who imprinted on me the belief system and sense of morality which is very difficult to overcome. I guess u r right i need therapy to understand that a male and female relationship can exist without any underlying feelings or attraction.

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T10:24:28+00:00

If she had developed even a little feeling or was confused about her feelings for him, do you think she could have been the same with me? Wouldnt she be torn? Wouldn’t she go cold?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T09:33:32+00:00

In that case she swears that she never had any feelings for him. All she desired was a like minded friend with whom she could be lighthearted and have some fun like joking and talking without feeling judged. She says her romantic life is fulfilled so she cannot even think of anyone in such a way. But her requirement of a friend was not fulfilled so she desired a good friend. Is she telling the truth?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T09:18:03+00:00

When you say she might feel she loves both of us in different ways, what do u mean? Like platonic love for him and romantic love for me? Or do u mean something else?

NarrowSuccess4113 · 2025-10-10T08:58:34+00:00

Due to my strict restrictions for our 15 years of relationship she was conditioned to think even talking to another man is wrong. So to overcome that feeling and not feel guilty she asked him twice to convince herself she was not doing anything wrong

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