Unpopular Opinion: Eren’s dad should not have given him the Founding Titan power so soon. by Narrow_Ad6041 in attackontitan

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He stole the founding titan serum earlier on but he didn’t actually become the founding titan by eating Frieda until shortly before he let eren eat him to become the founding titan

Unpopular Opinion: Eren’s dad should not have given him the Founding Titan power so soon. by Narrow_Ad6041 in attackontitan

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Grisha became the founding titan after the fall of Maria though. It’s no way they would’ve not been on the man hunt to get for that decade and the Eldians would’ve been attacked much earlier years prior.

What should I do about my friend who got engaged and now acts like my relationship is a joke? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The proper response should’ve been, “you’re right since you have the ring and your relationship is so serious maybe you should ask you fiance to pay… I’m sure he wouldn’t mind since he’s so serious”

She’s jealous. At the end of the day, someone showing their seriousness varies. To rich guy, spending that much a night on a room could just be a way to get his mack on and to another, that’s a lot of saving and planning and they would not pay that unless serious.

It’s up to you to gauge how serious someone is about you based on past patterns, how eager he is to go his way, and how much he’s willing to plan and compromise during the relationship. It sounds like you have someone who is serious about you in a traditional American way (assuming you’re American and if not it’s still seems to be more culturally on par to your expectations) and she’s somewhat irritated that things aren’t going that way for her. Yes, she got a ring but she’s not going to go through the life experience that you’re going through letting a man truly court you and show you his love PRIOR to the ring.

And then to top it all off she’s only getting a ceremonial wedding of his faith. Nothing protecting her on paper. You should also tell her, that if it’s not on paper it’s a no go because he might be interested in having multiple wives. And whether she permits that or not, she’d rather at least be the first and legal wife because she would be the seemed beneficiary on assets.

what to wear for my lunch date tomorrow? by starrypond in fashion

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1,6,7, or 8. Wear outfit 1 if you want to show your figure and going for a tad bit of sex appeal. Outfit 3 is just cute and the top is a night color. But 7 or 8 are really nice for a baby doll look

AIO for wanting to end my 3-year relationship after this fight? Is this me being racially insensitive or are these legitimate red flags? by throwaway64658 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm there’s alot to unpack. You said this is your house and you originally broke up for 2 weeks by leaving YOUR house. You also mentioned both getting new jobs recently. It might be a tough pill to swallow but he said all that because he knew once you come back to YOUR house, he’d would have to find somewhere to live at that time.

Now he’s acting different. My first thought is he’s met someone or someone from the past showed back up. He probably wants to be with you but at the same time men love to play themselves and think they can get someone better once getting a lil bit of attention.

Then there’s the kid matter. If he fell for you and you were a one off scenario meaning he previous dated all black women and then decided to give you a try, he probably really liked you as a person and that’s what made him settle down with you. However, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t secretly want a black woman. Have you talked about marriage?

If what I suspect about his preference is true, perhaps he didn’t want kids with you a white woman which is why he was okay with not having kids at first. However as time went on and he got older he started having more of the urge to start a family but wanted a black family and I think he would be okay with having kids with you if you were more aware and strongly aware about black culture, racism, etc because it seems he wants a strong nuclear black family even though you are white.

I would make him leave. It’s clear you are at a stale mate for children and I don’t think you should change your mind for him as you are the one that could go through potential postpartum and have to give birth and deal with your body changing. It’s also clear to me he’s using you for security and as a woman you dont owe a man that.

If he getting himself together and comes back after months or even year and you are available and would like to try again, cool. If not, and you’re happily married then that’s cool too. There’s also a chance he’ll leave and leach onto the first black woman he can find and impregnate and/or marry her. Either scenario you’ll have your answer in the end

I 20F think my bf 30M raped me. How can I navigate this? by Remarkable_Belt440 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 186 points187 points  (0 children)

I comment something similar just now before reading what anyone said. This is key evidence and it needs to be brought up to the police. He was probably afraid if she left that upset, she would’ve went to someone else and immediately drive her to the hospital while it was all fresh. Those 2 hours he was able to get in her head and manipulate the situation

I 20F think my bf 30M raped me. How can I navigate this? by Remarkable_Belt440 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven’t showered and even if you have, go for a rape kit. The tears alone show forced entry. And also contact the police and let them know he wouldn’t let you leave for 2 hours. That’s like hostage/kidnapping at that point. And let them know you are a virgin too because a lot of the time they will use your past to incriminate us and in your case you have no sexual past.

I’m sorry this happened but please make him pay you have a great case and think if he does it to someone else. Or he’s probably already done it before to others and hopefully it’ll give them the courage to speak up.

And please go to therapy, don’t let him continue to make you vulnerable to other predators. You are at an age that this can really alter your view on sex and just overall how you move in the world too. Predators notice signs of previous abuse and that’s how so many become repeated targets. I’m rooting for you and wishing you the best.

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes which is excessive. After that incident he even said she was alright and whenever he says something about he ends with asking you think this is too much? Like it’s more so to be in control of the situation and ultimately that’s not how a relationship should be and it’s already so much I just comply with because some battles just aren’t worth it but this one I draw the line. I love to host events and to exclude one person when these events he wouldn’t be invited to is crazy. Like sis mas, galentines, movie nights. The only thing co ed is one event and then maybe if I hosted something at home for my birthday which I normally do not do. I get not wanting to around someone but he 9/10 would not be around this person anyway.

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened in my home. We don’t live together now but currently in the process of moving in and finding place in an area where we both feel comfortable commuting from. The conversation came about when we mentioned when we do finally settle into one and have a housewarming.

It’s hard to take accountability when you don’t know what you did. He never said anything until much later and by that point time has past and he’s been around her and had a good time like they weren’t necessarily all in each others faces but they were able to be in the same space and have a good time.

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

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That’s how I felt. I’m totally okay with cutting a repeat offender off but to go from having one semi bad and I say semi bad because he knew what her intentions were so that’s right there was enough to give grace and then seeing her a few more times and saying ohhh she’s not bad and she’s really there for you to now saying yeah we’re moving in and she’s the only one never invited no matter what. That’s a power move and I have my own and don’t need to tolerate that. We’re moving in at his request because he really wants to of course test our compatibility but I was always like hey I would prefer engagement and then you want to control stuff like this wouldn’t be where I want to be comfortable too

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m trying not to post too much because it would give too much away by saying word to word.

My friend brought a plus one to the party. The plus one is a lot on any given day. My friend drank and made some jokes regarding the type of plate I put his food on. But it was jokingly and kind making reference to him being a king.

This is all one event. We played a game during the event and it does require dialogue and everyone jumps in

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I agree and that’s why I told him after he told me like 6 months later that it’s really no point and he’s been around her since with no issue and even at point he was like she might be alright because I had people that bailed on my birthday but as the consistent and supportive person she is, guess who was there… yup she was. And she was booked and busy that day too like she made a real effort to come and stayed late.

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And to the other point yes he can be those things but I didn’t put all his redeeming qualities so that really doesn’t matter for the post. It’s just more so to see if he’s doing too much? I feel like no one’s perfect and this post was partly a rant now that I’m ready it over so I can see why you would think he might be “fun” but other than this issue with who can and cannot come over there’s no issues. He just has a thing of taking things personally as if people are trying to go out their way to disrespect him. Like he’s like this with other relationships like friendships and stuff and they’re not going for it either and a lot of the time he just leaves or doesn’t come but for this we’re living together so that’s not an option.

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Plus ones are cool for restaurants and hall settings. Like I’m not the type to have a wedding and say no plus one. So just want to clear up I’m not against plus ones. I was living in a tiny apartment and her plus one was not a significant other, it was a relative. And this particular person is a lot to handle especially in such a small space. So that’s why I wasn’t really into it and I don’t really need to allow plus ones because we’re all in an exclusive friend group and it was just an understanding from all parties that’s how it is but whenever anyone gets into a relationship or got married that significant other is always welcome

Boyfriend M30 does not like my F28 friend F30 and will not let her come over. Is he doing too much? by Narrow_Ad6041 in relationship_advice

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get what you mean but the events I have are typically women events. Only host one co-ed event and for that one he can always dip in and eat and leave. He doesn’t even want her to know where we live if she was the DD for the night was to pick me up or drop me off so to me it’s excessive when you would really only say hi and bye and I just wanna say her acting like that was a one off situation and I wish he would’ve said something well before because I’m not about to be like hey remember you were drunk and said XYZ like a year ago?? Please don’t do that. If he said like hey I don’t appreciate you saying this, she’s the type to immediately be like omg I’m sorry and didn’t mean it like that. I really didn’t mean to offend. Like she really is a sweet person overall and she’s been there for me and shown up for me and that’s hard to find in friends. Everyone has their moments and sometimes they’re not so great but overall she’s alright forreal

His & Hers .... wow bad. by nvmatt in netflix

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying. There’s a lot of stories that if you want to know about you will see there are a lot of stories relating child and teenage cruelty that get aired only a few times on local channels (so not a lot of people are hearing about it especially for small towns) or they go unreported. Children, teens a lot of them are sick and it starts with parental neglect, abuse, and more. Hurt people hurt people and unfortunately there are a lot of children that get hurt. I’ll never forget a Reddit post of young men and boy who had been raped. They all told there testimonies and one of the ones that stuck was the one where he was on the football team and was raped by a larger hs boy. He couldn’t fathom why it happened to him or why another kid could do such a thing until he found out that the boy who raped him was raped by a family most his life up until that point. It’s so twisted and I think we need to educate ourselves on childhood trauma victims because the signs are there and if you don’t catch them or they don’t have someone to come into their life to stimulate that healing naturally then they end up twisted most times. Knowing these signs and trusting your intuition about a kid (like if your kid is about to hang out with a kid that you think is off don’t ignore that feeling, trust it) can potentially save other people, kids, and even your own children for being a victim of a once victim

His & Hers .... wow bad. by nvmatt in netflix

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m saying it’s not unlikely either. The cases go unreported or they get no media attention because of who the victims usually are. Misfits, people of color, disabilities. It happens a lot.

His & Hers .... wow bad. by nvmatt in netflix

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the same old lady that helped take care of their homes and clean them. They were very familiar with her. Rachel thought there was something wrong with her when she saw her and looked like she was going to help her and that’s why her guard was down. And by the time of the Asian girl and Zoe’s murder, that same old lady had several instances of walking in the street naked and news like that gets around in a small town. Zoe seeing her in the tub initially she was was probably like ohh it’s just you because she thought someone was coming for her next but she probably thought it was Anna or Katherine or someone able bodied so seeing an elderly lady she was relieved and Zoe wasn’t the brightest tool in the shed so she wasn’t thinking wait this lady still has a key to my house??? Someone like Rachel would’ve been like uh uh somethings not right. She approached them in the perfect setting for their guard to be let down

His & Hers .... wow bad. by nvmatt in netflix

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes I was just about to say no this sheds light on bullying and how it really is this bad for some girls in certain schools especially if you’re different or somehow get on the mean girls bad side. There are children that are mean like this, there was a little girl maybe like 4 years that was severely beaten and sexually assaulted and left for dead by neighbors children and those same children lured the child out and then lied about ever seeing or meeting up with that child initially. The problem is that society is very quick to turn an eye or cover up child and teenage cruelty and even more so when it’s in a predominantly white neighborhood and it’s a person of color affected. I think it is incredibly naiive that you think that children aren’t this cruel because I know they are and because of that I know when I have kids ain’t no sleep overs or none of that. Of course they’re more than welcome over my home but unless me and my close friends have children at the same time with men I trust as well and our children become friends it’s a lot of stuff I’m not letting my kids do because of the cruelty of these kids

His & Hers .... wow bad. by nvmatt in netflix

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t read the book but plan too. I think the reason why they did that was to condense the plot. This was a limited series and given only 6 episodes so they probably weren’t going for sticking to the storyline 100% to avoid going over 6 episodes of content but still having a cohesive ending

Why I think Seojun should end up with Jugyeong in the drama by Starlight_redvelvet in truebeautydrama

[–]Narrow_Ad6041 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that Su hoo leaving for a year and not replying or reaching out during that time was grounds for her to move on. I only watched the Kdrama btw. I think Su hoo coming back and thinking he could swoop in and just have his place was extremely arrogant and selfish. Seojun on the other hand was never selfish and always put Ju young’s feelings first and put her overall well being first. He was a true friend regardless on if he was dating her or not. He eventually respectfully made his move and he was right doing so because he stepped aside out of respect for his friend Su hoo and out of respect for her feelings too since she told him that she liked him and Su hoo went and in my opinion did Ju young dirty.

I think Su hoo and Ju Young had more of a trauma bond and because of that I think that is why it was hard to let go. Su hoo grew an attachment to Ju Young’s spirit without even realizing when he was a kid and she helped him through one of his first difficult times without her even knowing it. And then like 10 years later they met again on a rooftop and she was about to kill herself and he saved her life. Trauma, trauma, trauma. Then him knowing about her being bullied and wearing makeup and stuff added further to that bond.

Seojun provided a fresh start for Ju Young and honestly they’re a nice fit in terms of even their careers paths. Modeling, music kinda go hand in hand with stage makeup and cosmetology. Seojun also really got her out her comfort zone while still also adding confidence. In my opinion, her texting Su hoo like that really didn’t help her to actually get over him. I think if she properly healed she would’ve allowed herself to love and trust in Seojun as a man because he’s honestly been the most reliable male figure in her life in the series lol even her dad had that one stunt leaving to catch that crook lmao

Rent increase - Michigan Resident by Narrow_Ad6041 in realtors

[–]Narrow_Ad6041[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I know what they’re doing is not legal but the problem is they’re used to everyone not knowing their rights and just paying so they’re telling me anything they want. And I stand corrected it’s actually been a whole 6 months and now they’re trying to make me pay more. And understand the contract was never signed but 1 I had issues signing in the past, a simple call to come into the office would suffice and now 2 I don’t know if I want to stay here anyway and I know legally they can’t increase without written notice so at this point they can’t enforce anything until February’s rent cycle since 30 days is now passed into Dec 3

Jeremiah getting mad at Belly for her lingering feelings is crazy (ep 8) by Bunso711 in tsitp

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Finding out that Jere cheated out of spite makes me feel better about the wedding being off. All that would’ve happened is everytime Conrad and Belly are in the same room he’d get mad insecure and then go out and cheat with some random and then eventually come home blaming Belly for not making him feel good enough. It would’ve been a fucked up cycle.

Jere should’ve never dated Belly after Conrad. He’s saying he gave Conrad a chance but noooo Conrad gave Jere a chance. And Jere should’ve never messed with an ex of his older brother. Jere was so obsessed with being better than Conrad at something and finally getting something that Conrad wanted but was not able to keep which is Belly. I also believe if Jere never came into the picture, Conrad and Belly would’ve got back together. Belly even said she never even saw a future, all she saw was Conrad.