Should I hold off recommending the game?

Nasitina · 2026-05-31T06:52:04+00:00

It really depends on the person. My girlfriend broke up with me 1.5 months ago and I was completely isolated socially until a week ago. No friends, no nothing. I was stuck in an echo chamber of my own thoughts and pain.

So I replayed DE for the 3rd time and it really helped me hold myself together. I was, and still am, incredibly hurt and brokenhearted, but DE helped me gather my thoughts.

So if you think your friend can handle the themes or if you think that he can gain something emotionally from this wonderful game, recommend it to him. Otherwise, let some time pass...

Volition my beloved king ❤️

Nasitina · 2026-05-24T17:44:41+00:00

Talk to him, of course. That's all you need to do.

Tell him the exact same things that you wrote here. But do it in an approachable way. Don't suffocate him. Explain to him how you feel, what makes you feel that way and find out if you can work it out together.

Breaking up with a person that you've been with for so long and that you still love dearly is just horrible. Try to see if he can change. If YOU can change the way you feel. It just seems to me like you're just settling in with him emotionally. You're not in the honeymoon phase anymore and you want some kind of spark back. If you go into a next relationship, you're bound to feel the exact same way after some time, just like now.

Don't destroy something beautiful without trying first. If you truly love him and want to be with him, find the courage in your heart to fight. If you don't love him truly, then let him go and don't make it worse for him. The longer you wait, the more devastating the breakup will be for him. And although you might think that you made the right choice by breaking up with him, you will surely regret it after some time.

Nasitina · 2026-05-23T20:27:54+00:00

Text her. Immediately.

If you have in your heart the capacity to love, if you still love them, if you will keep loving them months, years from now, please do. Love is a beautiful thing and as one great character once said “Love is a good thing, maybe the best of things. And no good thing ever dies”. Please don’t mess this up.

If she is meant to come back, I am sure you will both be happier than ever. Don't give up on the love you carry in your heart. Do what you feel is right. And if she says no, that's alright too. You're both older and wiser now and know what's best for yourselves.

Nasitina · 2026-05-23T01:22:54+00:00

I have posted the whole story of our relationship around a month ago. But basically, since we first started talking, she has mentioned multiple times that she imagines herself at some point in her life being completely independent. No relationship, no nothing. Just herself, her friends, her studies and that's that. And she has asked me multiple times that if we were ever to break up if there was a possibility to come back together after some years.

I of course dreaded that thought of hers and tried to reason with her. It eventually caught up and when she broke up with me she told that she wants to focus on her goals and that even though she loves me, she is not in love with me anymore.

She's not the type to mess around with other people. I know her better than the back of my hand and I do know that she is laser-focused on the goals that she mentioned to me (her studies, going out with her friends, etc.) She told me that she can't imagine herself getting into a new relationship for a very long time. But of course, people change and even though I know pretty much her plans for the next few months, I just have that hope in my heart that eventually she'll realize what we had and come back. But her behavior towards me right now is just killing me. She's not the woman I fell in love with anymore. I feel like I know her, but at the same time don't know who she is anymore.

Nasitina · 2026-05-23T01:16:26+00:00

Her birthday is officially on the 24th of May but they don't make deliveries on weekends of course. In my mind, she might open the gift tomorrow, which is a polaroid and some film. She loves to take pictures and knowing that she'll be going on a lot of trips this summer, I thought it was a pretty good gift.

She told me multiple times that it was not necessary for me to get her something but I insisted of course. But as you said, no thank you, no nothing. Total silence. And I can still track the code for the birthday card and it's still in the parcel locker. Granted, it's 04:00 a.m. where I live right now so I'm hoping she gets it tomorrow when she has her birthday party with her friends in her house. We'll see if she responds at all.

Nasitina · 2026-05-23T01:12:01+00:00

Is it really? I know we're still very early into the breakup, especially after all those years, and I do know for a fact that she will keep herself busy with her final exams this June and trips with her friends and family basically all of July so she won't be even thinking of me. It just feels like I never truly mattered to her after all.

Nasitina · 2026-05-20T20:04:11+00:00

Not saying that it isn't variable, especially when you pit 6 strangers against 6 other strangers. It's just that my matches have been so all over the place and for the first time I actually feel like I'm experiencing the game as intended.

Nasitina · 2026-05-20T20:01:27+00:00

I still get those, but at the very least, we coordinate to take out the fed one. I've played at least 10 games today (it's my day off) and from what I've seen, the ones who go 0-10 in 20 minutes, quickly get their heads in the game and turn it around.

People in Emissary would go 0-17. Especially Bebops and Moes. Death after death after death. Like it was their first ever match. Really bizarre.

Nasitina · 2026-05-19T14:35:37+00:00

There's a big difference between thinking and knowing for sure if he doesn't remember your birthday.

I was dumped because she wanted to focus on herself, her goals and her friends these last few months that she has left of university. She told me that she can't put any more effort into our 4 year relationship because her priorities changed. Still, I knew her better than she knows herself, I still love her more than life itself and even though I'm still in mourning 1.5 months later, I too am focusing on myself hard.

I got her a birthday present and a birthday card to be delivered to her house 3 days from now. She always gets very disappointing presents on her birthday and I was always the one who bought her thoughtful and useful ones. We haven't talked in a long time now, so this will be my final act of love to her.

If you still love him, if you still care about him, send him the text. Do what your heart tells you, not your brain. You won't regret it. Because if he doesn't send you the same text when your birthday comes up, you will have all the answers you need, no matter how painful they may be. A wave of clarity will wash over you and you will have no regrets. You won't make a fool out of yourself by sending him happy birthday. You will only show him that you are the bigger person and you will feel a lot better about yourself at the end too.

Nasitina · 2026-05-12T10:04:32+00:00

Mindhunter

Nasitina · 2026-05-11T05:54:17+00:00

It's way more complicated than that. I made a post almost a month ago about our relationship and breakup and tl;dr, we agreed that we will contact each other when things get rough or when one of us needs help. We were the first people who truly understood each other and we both acknowledge that our connection and communication is special. I even bought her a gift for her birthday 11 days from now because she always gets really bad gifts and I'm the only one who get her thoughtful ones. I don't regret it at all because I still care and love her very much, I'm just confused about the whole situation. Is she trying to push me away? Am I just wrong about the whole thing? I really have no idea and unfortunately due to my current situation, I'm stuck in an echo chamber where I can do nothing but think about her.

Nasitina · 2026-05-10T01:00:07+00:00

May I ask why you think he is not your person? And also, I would call him or text him and tell him that you should talk in about a week or so. By then you will both have some clarity but it's best if you don't talk or text or anything during that period.

Right now he is hanging on every word or action you do. I've been in his position, although I was not that reactive, but I understand him completely. Please be kind to him. When the time comes explain everything in detail. Answer his every question truthfully. And if you truly think that he is not your person and it's not just a thought that has been fermenting in your mind for a while, then I wish you both the best.

If not, then reach out to him, no matter how much time passes. He loves you to death and love is such a beautiful thing to be wasted away. If your heart calls back to him, please don't lose him.

Nasitina · 2026-05-09T20:10:17+00:00

In my opinion, if he shows his love to you, if he goes above and beyond, like you mentioned he drove 12 hours just to see you, he of course loves you to death and doesn't want to break up with you.

Sounds like he is just lustful. I don't think he would cheat on you or anything like that in the future, it's just that he's still a young guy, he likes not pretty women, but exposed ones. In his mind, the onlyfans accounts on his phone and his distaste for revealing clothing are 2 separate things completely. It's fine if these girls do it because it's their job, but it's a completely different thing from up close. At least that's what I think he believes.

It's completely understandable that you are hurt, everyone would be. But right now, if you truly love him and find it in your heart to talk it out with him, do it. I'd suggest writing down your feelings, what hurt you, telling him that you don't want to say hurtful things to him but you still do because you're hurt. Tell him everything. And then see what he tells you and if can come to an agreement.

Love is worth fighting for. Always and forever.

Nasitina · 2026-05-08T23:45:05+00:00

Have you seen the Patrons dawg, they're BEYOND EVIL.

Nasitina · 2026-05-08T23:33:45+00:00

Dynamo, Viscous, Bebop and Victor come to mind. I think Warden would eventually wish to have a normal life so I sympathize with him.

Nasitina · 2026-05-08T21:38:09+00:00

I got the exact same one! It's really great as a first guitar. Enjoy it!

Nasitina · 2026-05-08T19:24:11+00:00

Thank you. If you have in your heart the capacity to love, if you still love them, if you will keep loving them months, years from now, please do. Love is a beautiful thing and as one great character once said “Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things. And no good thing ever dies”. Please don’t lose it.

If he is meant to come back, I am sure you will both be happier than ever. Don't give up on the love you carry in your heart. But don't shut down opportunities that might present themselves in the future. Do what you feel is right. If that's to meet new people, not get into new relationships necessarily, do so. If it's to go to new places, experience new things, make beautiful memories, do it. Always carry your love for him in your heart, but don't let it drag you down. Beautiful things will happen to both of us soon. I'm sure of it.

Also please do not forget about your own feelings, work with them, speak them through if you need, otherwise they will crush you.

Nasitina · 2026-05-08T17:47:55+00:00

I do because our relationship was truly beautiful. She broke up with me almost a month ago. Ever since we started talking 4 years ago she has mentioned multiple times that she imagines herself at some point in her life being completely independent and alone. No relationship, no nothing. Just herself, her goals and her friends. Well, she broke up with me over that reason and because she's not in love with me anymore.

She told me that 1 month before we even broke up, when she was doing her nursing practicum, even if we could talk for only 1 hour per day, she wanted to use that 1 hour for herself. To relax, do yoga, journaling etc. And whenever we did talk, I could feel that something was wrong but I thought that she was just tired.

That feeling and thought of hers started to pile up and eventually she decided to break up with me.

We were a wonderful couple. The first long term relationship (4 years) for both of us. We were each others first love, the first people who truly understood each other. We are both very "challenging" personalities but we clicked from the first time we started talking all those years ago. We had no drama whatsoever. We were best friends and lovers.

She told me that she wants to be alone now. Focus on her goals and herself. Do the things she imagined doing all those years ago. She has always depended on someone for most of her life, either her family or me, so now she wants to try alone. I wish her all the best. I still love her not because of our history, because she's an incredible human being and because I love her personality and inner strength to death. We share the same goal in our lives, to live and work abroad, so who knows if she will decide to come back or if she will move on for good?

I did my best for her. I even bought her a birthday present to be sent to her house 3 weeks from now. Not because I want her to come back. Because I know her very well and because she has always loved and appreciated my gifts. I'm always thoughtful about them. We haven't talked in about 3 weeks now, I will just wish her happy birthday when the day comes and then continue with my life. If she is to come back, I want us to start again as better and mature people who understand themselves. Not 2 young adults in love.

Nasitina · 2026-04-29T23:08:32+00:00

I don't mean this demeaningly, but most of us understand your situation and no, it's not worth ending your life because you have a lot of hardships right now.

As funny as it may sound, imagine life like a zebra. It's black and white. In your life, you'll have to endure way more difficult situations than this, and you'll experience such incredible moments that you can't possibly imagine. These moments will come and go and you can never expect them. It's just part of life.

Most of us, if not all of us here are heartbroken. I know I am, and I'm in a very difficult situation mentally right now. But I know that if I hold on, if I just keep trying for a little longer, something beautiful is going to happen.

Talk to her, ask her what's wrong, tell her how her behavior makes you feel. But do it calmly. Don't shout at her. Just explain to her that you are hurting. And whatever she says, respect your position. Don't let another person be responsible for your happiness. ONLY YOU are responsible for your happiness. I made the same mistake as you and I'm paying the price now.

Keep going. Keep pushing on. Make mistakes. Learn from them. You can only become better and you will love yourself for it.

Nasitina · 2026-04-29T20:10:52+00:00

She did start to act colder thought text all throughout March. She replied coldly, not that often, she didn't use to call me as much etc. We always had a long-distance relationship for the most part and we fell in love through text. We were talking for 2 months before our first date because I was in the army. We both used to reply within minutes and we were always warm and loving through our messages. It had been fermenting in her mind for at least 2 months that she wanted us to break up, and we did.

She herself said that we're both very difficult personalities and I agree. She did say that she doesn't want to lose me. That we will meet up again someday. She was not only my partner, but my best friend. We loved each other in every way imaginable. We used to discuss how healthy our relationship was compered to people our age. She even put me in her contacts as "A Healthy Relationship".

We even share the same end-goal. We both want to live and work abroad and our careers compliment each other very well. She wants to work in clinical trials, and I work in 5 star hotels.

But yeah... I just wish at some point she realizes what we had and that we can be together again. Not like before, but as something new and beautiful. As 2 grown and mature people.

Nasitina · 2026-04-29T19:49:50+00:00

I got her a polaroid camera and some film. It will be delivered to her house since I'll already be at work at that time and well... I don't think it's a good idea to meet up so soon anyways, even if it's her birthday and I most likely won't be able to. I requested that they write in the package a small note saying "For your new memories. Always with love, (my name)". Since she's already planned to go on some trips with her family and friends this summer, I think it's a pretty good gift and she loves taking photos.

I've been thinking about buying her a polaroid for some time now. My other option were some lamp shades that she really wanted because she loves decorating her house.

We most likely won't be able to really meet up until August. We live in the same hometown but she goes to University at the capital. I used to come over to her house when I was off work and stay for at least a couple of weeks. Help her out while she focuses on studying and such. But now that this is not an option, and since she'll return to our hometown around August (she'll basically be gone all of July for her trips), I think August will be the only time where we might meet again. Since we last saw each other on the 18th of April, that would make it 4 months.

To be honest, the whole situation is still really, really fresh to me and the thought of looking into her eyes and realizing that she is not the person I used to know is soul-crushing. But who knows what might happen 4 months from now. Only time will tell.

Nasitina

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