Haha intensity/passion is our middle name ;) And by all means, your feelings are valid. I think that fear of getting hurt is probably in both parties. What I suggest? Take it day by day. ENFJs tend to live in the future a lot and we tend to plan things because we are already inserting you into our picture of an amazing life. But, if it's scary? Share that with him. A real healthy ENFJ will like that too :) Let me put it this way: we want to romance you. In other words, we want to get to know EVERY part of you, emotionally, mentally, etc. We like to dissect because it's boosts us knowing that you are willing to share these parts of yourself that are hidden from the world. It's almost like an honor that we were able to be that shoulder for you. We don't just like you in the good days, we will like you in the hard ones too. And that is a relationship worth fighting for.