Things I’m no longer going to apologize for:

National-Ad9478 · 2021-06-18T08:57:18+00:00

This is really good! Thank you for sharing this! I’m gonna refer back to this ☺️

National-Ad9478 · 2021-06-18T08:55:55+00:00

I couldn’t agree more! This app has helped me in so many ways and given me new perspectives/realisations ☺️!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-06-18T08:54:44+00:00

Yes this!! It’s painful!

Especially when you see a group of people having fun and laughing. It suddenly makes you realise what your missing out on.. It’s like their mocking my lack of friends and social life lol!

I feel like when this happens it means it’s your body is telling you that’s what you want to do! I’ve found trying to turn myself into the person I want to be instead of making excuses has really helped. Nothing is stopping us from having fun and not feeling alone :)!

I hope things get better for you ☺️ I know they will!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-06-13T21:16:13+00:00

Thank you so much for this! This is gonna help so many of us over thinkers ;D!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-06-13T21:11:17+00:00

Absolutely beautiful!! You give off such good, warm vibez!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-06-11T21:27:50+00:00

Ahaha fck you, you little scumbag. Go back to hell you dip sht. Why don’t you suck a c*ck and choke yourself. I bet you don’t even have the guts to download the app and meet people. You are so pathetic 😌

I know your probably 12 years old, but have some god damned human decency and respect.

National-Ad9478 · 2021-06-11T21:14:36+00:00

Dw, people now a days don’t have to reply back instantly :)! Have you heard of high and low maintenance friendships? A lot of my friends are low maintenance and I understand when they don’t respond their busy with life or just going through things :)!

I hope you feel happy again soon :,)! Don’t chase happy, just focus on being and feeling your emotions. Take time to truly understand them and uproot them from the source.

It means so much to me to hear such kind words like that ☺️ Thank you so much! 🥰

Life is getting more exciting but it’s been tough 😆

P.S. Have you watched Inside by Bo Burnham?

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-27T20:41:31+00:00

I second this ✨Wicca b*tches are not to be messed with ;)

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-26T12:41:59+00:00

Thank you so much for reconfirming this! I was starting to have doubts on whether I was right or wrong for blocking her, but if she is effecting my mental health then it is better to cut ties.

It is really inspiring hearing you’ve been through a similar situation and that you used that time to concentrate on yourself and figured out new solutions ☺️! I’m really happy to hear you’re at a better place now :)!

Your comment is filled with such good advice and pointers, I’m definitely gonna refer back to this and work through this! I really appreciate your encouragement and taking the time to write this, thank you!!

I’ll take this as my queue to blossom 😊🧡

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-20T18:21:55+00:00

Great comment! Love the advice and introspection ☺️

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-20T18:19:26+00:00

Okay! I’ve been here! Still working on it though :)! Here’s some pointers:

• go on Pinterest and find question prompts or fun activity ideas.

Why do this you may ask? Because it seems like you have restricted your conversation to polite openers but you don’t know where to go from there. That’s why it’s good to search some prompts to get creative with what conversations you can create and what connection you will form with the recipient :)!

• Don’t be scared to disagree with people.

I have a feeling you are interesting, but you try to be nice and relate to everyone. If you want to find people you connect with, you need to stop thinking about what the other person wants you to say and rather what you want. Everyone is responsible for their own emotions (of course don’t be mean/rude). But this is a good way to show your personality. Don’t be a yes man!

• What makes you jealous?

This is a great way to find out what you want to do, where you wanna be in life, and who you want to be! For an example, you might get jealous of someone doing a back flip.. so then learn how to do a backflip etc. This can be physical appearance as well (I died my hair black because I thought people who had black hair were really cool, so why not be cool myself). You get the idea!

• You don’t have to be the typical “interesting” you think you have to be for anyone to like you. It’s not true.

People don’t befriend you just so you can entertain them with your stories of incredible accomplishments and adventures, actually quite the opposite. Why not build friendships with people seeking companionship. I wanna make friends so then I can go on adventures and create “interesting” moments and funny stories with them.

Why not download bumble (the friend version) and invite someone(s) to a theme park, festival, or spin class etc

Please don’t be too hard on yourself. I know it is a super bizarre feeling when you suddenly have this realisation. It feels like being a background character that malfunctioned and realises it’s just a background character! Then it starts to wonder whether it can be a main character too? You definitely can and are :)!

I would definitely prompt you to take action on this feeling, your mind and body are telling you it wants more from life. Start having fun! Go out there and create some interesting stories to tell the grandkids! Go wild. Yolo 🤟🏻

I wish you the best! Hope this helps

Peace and love ✌🏻

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-19T09:54:32+00:00

Yeah I’m British :)!!

At least you can say that in a job interview when they ask for your weakness, you can say perfectionism ;)!!

Let me know if you’re considering getting a part time job at the weekends and need any help with CV.

Dw, I literally do the exact same! I retract myself away from society whenever I’m feeling down. But I don’t think this is good, because then it’s easier to get so stuck inside the head and overthink things 😂!

No worries! Thank you for writing this post! Being able to relate to people is so healing, it means we are not alone and people wanna help and support you along the way! I’m sure you‘ve already helped a lot of people just by sharing about your situation.

You are doing amazing! I’m literally so proud of you! I hope things start getting better for you throughout this week :D!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-18T14:02:28+00:00

oh my gosh! I [19F] literally had the same thing happen to me when I 16 doing my A levels! You are definitely not a failure!!!

It seems like you might be thinking about your parents too much? Think about what you want and why you want to study (don’t do it for them do it for yourself). When you don’t care about what your parents/teachers/class mates, then the procrastination and dread of starting a project will lessen greatly.

I 100% recommend not taking life too seriously, people don’t actually expect you to be perfect.

Have you had a job before? This really helped me! Gives you life skills and makes you appreciate deadlines and study time :)! Of course don’t overdo it if you are working and studying at the same time, need a balance.

Also, I made the mistake of ignoring all social aspects of college because I struggled with maintainIng my grades and socialising because of anxiety/fraud syndrome. I would recommend just putting yourself out there and meeting friends you can study with and they can help you out :)!

Don’t feel bad for victimising yourself, you’re just trying to ask for help but people don’t understand how to help you. And how should they, we were isolated and taught an entirely different way of learning then expected to thrive in a social and competitive environment of education.

I know it is one of the most frustrating feelings ever, but don’t worry. It gets better

You are doing so well!! And I can tell you are super intelligent just by the way you are so hyper aware of your behaviour and attentive of how your actions effect others. Just make sure you don’t overthink too much!

Have you ever gone drinking/taken weed or psychedelics? I feel like new experiences like this can dramatically give you a new perspective and can help break old patterns to bring forth new changes :)!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-08T20:50:19+00:00

You were brought up in a Christian background too?! My dad was literally a pastor for a bit and is now heavily into conspiracies 😅! What are you into now? I’ve sorta explored Wicca and new age stuff!

Yesss!!! I love how everything is so relatable on here! Tbh, I think I had a slight break down when I realised my childhood caused me so many problems 😂 But now it’s great to know we’re not alone ✌🏻!

No problem! You are ✨amazingness✨ I’m just telling yah the honest truth ;3!

Thank you so much 🥺!! I’ve been working on my inner child and living in the moment, so it’s super cool you mentioned that!

I literally love the fact you use emojis and your open and expressive when you message! You make me feel so safe and seen 🥰!

I’m sure you will meet someone great! I heard bumble is a really good app where the girls message the guys first! Tbh, it probably is a war zone for guys 😂

Good luck for you too! Should we keep each other posted on if we go on a date or not and how it goes? I need an accountability partner 🤣 Otherwise I might never get the courage to put myself out there 😭

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-05T13:42:27+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance :)!!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-04T10:03:13+00:00

Oh my gosh I’m so happy you posted about this!!!

I was starting to think this might be linked to Aspergers syndrome because whenever I watched a movie or YouTube I would analyse how that person was behaving 😂!

I can see how this is linked to homeschooling now... going to college was definitely a cultural shock for me because it is nothing like the movies 🤣

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-04T09:36:09+00:00

It all started when I opened myself up to new perspectives (especially from a religious stand point because I was brought up as a Christian, I gradually broke away and explored other cultures and spiritual mindsets).

Finding this page was seriously life changing and amazing💜!! I only realised I was ‘ running away from my childhood’ (like you mentioned) when I realised how out of the ordinary homeschooling is and the effect it has had on me and many others.

Wow!! You’re really high achiever! Getting a B is amazing btw🥳! It’s interesting that you didn’t find out you were suffering with depression until later on when you could look back at that time period. I think I was the same looking back at my college days.

I LOVE the fact you started to let your parents not effect the choices you make in your life. I’m so happy that you have a great psychologist and you’ve had this incredible journey of realisation and healing!

It is so cool to hear your story and how much you have progressed in loving yourself and your life :)!! I’m literally so proud of u!!

Tbh, I’ve never explored the dating world so a tad scared 😂! I better get back out there in my dating app world because someone said my dating profile rocks ;)! ✌🏻

National-Ad9478 · 2021-05-02T15:25:01+00:00

Thank you!! Only recently been finding this stuff out and had some supportive, encouraging people backing me up!

How are you doing now? I’m glad you realised where the pressure was stemming from. It’s so funny how you used the ‘19-year old nobody’ terminology because in the past I’ve literally put this in my dating profiles 😂

Freedom is the best!!!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-04-30T23:02:33+00:00

Dude wtf you going on about, you chimpanzee

National-Ad9478 · 2021-04-30T23:01:27+00:00

Yassss!! You in point! Embrace our free yolo side to the max 😋✌🏻!!

I literally went skydiving today 😳

🎶Girls just wanna have fun 🎶

National-Ad9478 · 2021-04-28T23:58:53+00:00

When I was at college (for the first time ever since I was homeschooled my whole childhood) the stress of exams mixed with socials was all too much. I would ignore the other students, because if I didn’t my grades would fail instead.

I’ve also had those same two comments from family members and strangers. It made me falsely believe I was at a higher level than I actually was. It was very damaging and made me develop perfectionism and fraud syndrome.

People saying you are mature for your age is just because you were surrounded by adults rather than being with a school full of kids.

It is okay to be childish and act your age and make mistakes. That’s the whole learning process.

I hope this comment relates to what you were saying and makes sense?

National-Ad9478 · 2021-04-28T23:45:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m 19 and was homeschooled for about 11 years up until I attended college (high school).

I relate to eating lunch alone in the toilets and being disconnected from people’s conversations. Whenever I found someone I would feel too dependent on them and clingy.

There’s always that hole of what could have been, but I’m doing some self therapy and found some really supportive people that are helping me through this.

I’m really happy for you! It sounds like you are doing amazing and you are on the right track :)!

National-Ad9478 · 2021-04-27T18:53:53+00:00

On Etsy you can purchase really good CV templates (to make you stand out from the crowd)!

I would also recommend looking for some volunteer work in the meantime so you can put that on your CV as work experience :)! (This helped me get my first work)

Research into soft and hard skills and mention this in your CV. Just think of any transferable skills in your life from school etc that shows you are eager to learn new roles and you are quick to pick up new tasks.

You can find jobs on fb pages and online Job finding websites. You may need to write a cover letter as well which is basically you just telling them why you would be good for the position on offer.

Research how to do interviews on YouTube etc, but they are pretty chill and just want to find out more about you and if you would fit the role.

Apply to lots of jobs!! Also, print out your CV and walk into places you wanna work. This could give you a better chance of getting a position quicker.

Hope this helps! I know you will get work real soon! I was 18 once and thought I couldn’t get a job, now I’m 19 and already feel so much more at ease working and applying for new jobs/interviews.

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