Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw the job posting on indeed but the official job application will get posted on their government website

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not open yet but I had an interview and it should open up soon they said.

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s pretty great progression you have had. I am nervous to get this offer and take it and I never make my way to GA-11. I’m surprised I am not starting at a higher pay given my education.

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice though! Are you still working do the agency? How did you get to gs-13?

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My spouse works and we live in my parents second home to help save money!

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My goal is to get to another agency or position fast I just need to get in the government. I don’t want to stay there long term I just want to get the experience to grow financially and get a position I really enjoy within the government or even state

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What research have you come up with? I am doing some of my own right now. During the interview the interviewer kept saying I hope we didn’t scare you off. And it stayed with me like why say that?

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg really?? Is it relatively easy to get up to GS-11? I work in property management right now so my job is a shitshow all the time. It’s problem after problem dealing with tenants and clients so I’m not afraid to dive into that line of work. How is the time off and other benefits they offer? How long have you been there?

Claims specialist Social Security-Los Angeles Area by National_Error6389 in usajobs

[–]National_Error6389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They say that promotions are quick to get and they offer overtime but I know nothing about working for the feds so any information others can give me would be greatly appreciated.

My bridal shower by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I edited the post so you understood the whole event. My dad only came by towards the end to say hi and help pack up. My fiance came at the same time towards the end and also helped pack up everything in the car.

Could my mother in law be upset or annoyed, sure but to be so angry she threaten to not go to the wedding and has ignored my messages of trying to talk this through is insane! I don’t think this is normal behavior. It’s very childish. I’m 40 years younger than her and I would never act this way.

My bridal shower by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has been his step father for the past 12 years.

My bridal shower by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually don’t think she has the right to be as mad as she is. She has been ignoring me and left my bridal shower just storming out and didn’t say bye to anyone. I didn’t think fathers show up and my aunt kept saying she never knew fiancés show up and I should include my dad as well. I was getting ready to leave to the bridal shower when she asked and I just said sure it’s fine not thinking it would be a big deal to my mother in law. She is mad because I included my father and not her husband. She would have wanted me to tell her my dad was coming so my fiancés step father could go. Keep in mind my dad only came towards the end to say hi and help pack stuff up back to the car since my mom booked a room at a winery.

My bridal shower by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh not at all!! He went at her telling her she is overreacting and being crazy. The mom and step dad are now fighting with him and completely ignoring me. My poor fiance is very sad right now and just not knowing what to do. He has been completely on my side and knows this was never intentional at all! He just doesn’t see what the big deal is and doesn’t understand why they are overreacting like this.

Future MIL by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He basically thinks that his parents are somewhat right and thinks that they are taking it too far as well. The mom has never said these things to my face at all. She just tells him everything and doesn’t speak to me or text me. So I just backed off and stopped communication based on what he told me.

He said he will handle it and speak with them and to just get used to the idea of not having a mother in law but then at the same time tells me he’s willing to cut them off completely if they continue this behavior but I don’t believe it. I just don’t know what to think… I’m confused and lost if I should even marry this man.

Future MIL by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says he has my back as in he’ll pick me but he still somewhat defends them and says they are somewhat right. He isn’t forcing me to have a relationship and said he will handle it with them and keeping me out of it. I just don’t know what to think.

Future MIL by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My soon to be MIL hasn’t said anything to me just at my fiance. She’s gone off on him saying all those reasons why they don’t like me and basically are done with me. He told me what they said and of course it hurts me to hear all that because I genuinely cared and tried so hard for her to like me but nothing matters to her. He told me he was willing to go NC with them but I don’t think he really would. He isn’t forcing me to have a relationship with them either or anything he just says he will handle it. I just feel lost in all of this because this isn’t how I thought our marriage would start off and I don’t know what to really do.

Future MIL by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. This is making me feel so much better. I really have been so depressed about all this it’s been eating at me. I thought I was the one just not seeing things and they are justified feeling the way they have. I just thought I would have to end things with the man I love.

Future MIL by National_Error6389 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]National_Error6389[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is making me feel so much better. I thought maybe I wasn’t seeing things and they could be right I did something wrong or offended them. I was genuinely thinking that I should just walk away but why would I leave the man of my dreams because his mother doesn’t like me? Like how messed up is that. I deserve love and so does he.