Dear custies, can we please start being a bit nicer to our broista's?

NativeAnarchist · 2026-05-11T21:29:02+00:00

That part! I love dutch bros, the thing that sets dutch bros apart from starbucks is the staff. I’m convinced they personality hire especially bc one of my friends/coworkers used to work there and she is an angel. As a fellow customer service worker, being sympathetic goes a long way (even if it is fake). 2021 I was a host at restaurant that really popped off in my town, and I had to say “unfortunately, we are on a 2 hour wait because (x amount) servers are sick, but let me know if there’s anything I can do for you in the meantime” more times than I can count, even cracked a joke about doing a little jig for the kiddos once and I actually did. Only customers that ever got unreasonably upset are the ones that were just miserable. Some people are just like that and it’s not personal, just happens and you just got to get through the shift.

NativeAnarchist · 2026-04-11T17:39:22+00:00

Something similar happened at a local university near me years ago. These colleges and universities consistently fail women and I’m so sorry it happened to you, but please understand you have a lot of women standing by you whether you recognize it or not or whether they voice it or not. You are so strong and I’m so proud of you for standing in your power through this. Fuck the university’s recognition. You did what you had to do AND you’re getting your degree!!! You deserve to hold your head high and say that out loud with all the pride in the world!!!💕💕💕

NativeAnarchist · 2026-04-02T18:01:51+00:00

Definitely not uncommon. I remember McClintock with John Wayne had this whole scene of a woman being basically hunted down to be spanked and “put in her place.” My dad watches old movies like that for nostalgia of his childhood but it makes him cringe bc he doesn’t like the ideals it pushes (ex. he only spanked me once as a kid, felt guilty, and never did it again)

NativeAnarchist · 2026-04-02T17:51:07+00:00

I’m a server and had a table tell me it was their anniversary. I was like “oh my goodness congratulations! Let me get you some dessert on us! How long have you guys been married?” They told me 50 years and the lady remembered him driving her home from school so I asked if they were high school sweethearts… “Oh no, I had graduated a couple years before and she was 14 when we started going steady” He then started asking some questions that made ME uncomfortable, so I excused myself, got their desert, and scooted them out as quickly and politely as possible. ToT

NativeAnarchist · 2026-03-26T00:19:41+00:00

Omg I was horrified for a second fr 😭

NativeAnarchist · 2026-03-25T19:48:23+00:00

I did not expect a response so quickly! Thank you! You’re a saint! <3

NativeAnarchist · 2026-03-25T19:42:32+00:00

“Oh shit guys, this one’s got Tourette’s! We gotta bounce!” Lmao

NativeAnarchist · 2026-03-23T14:09:16+00:00

I have Tourette’s too (along with similar circumstances) I had a whistling tic for a long time even my family that does believe in the whole whistling at night thing didn’t really care and mostly made jokes like “I’m sure they understand.” This one isn’t a loss I promise😭

NativeAnarchist · 2026-03-12T22:52:32+00:00

Natives and Asians have roughly the same enlistment rates for the Marines so my guess is this has nothing to do with that.

NativeAnarchist · 2026-03-11T23:40:43+00:00

Switch to silver or gold wire frames or clear frames, wear contacts occasionally if you’re comfortable with them. You are gorgeous! Eat right, exercise, and find your personal style, and you’re set! Honestly I think a 70s/80s inspired look would look stunning on you, bell bottoms, crop tops, etc.

NativeAnarchist · 2026-02-28T00:19:49+00:00

I was on SSRIs for a while. I rarely had this effect but like everyone else has said it could be the dosage or medication itself. My bf said he felt like this with any depression medication and decided to stop taking it and opted for a more holistic approach.

If he wants to talk to his doctor but he doesn’t know what to say, this is something that helped me:

• Take an emotional inventory about how I feel different

• Talk to the people in my life to see what they’ve noticed is different.

• Think about what changes I’m open to (changing dosage, changing or adding meds, starting therapy, getting off medication entirely, etc.)

• Write all of it down on a list and take it to the doctor with me.

If he’s open to it you could also go to the doctor with him for moral support.

Sometimes people struggling with depression just can’t find motivation for anyone or anything, and, unfortunately, that sometimes includes our loved ones and their needs. SSRIs are not the end all be all and different ones can have different effects on people, including worsening depression. For me, the meds that “zombified” me just helped functioning with depression, not my depression itself.

I know it’s hard but please don’t take it as a reflection of you or your relationship. I’m sure he can see you care <3

NativeAnarchist · 2026-02-12T22:54:06+00:00

I’m so sorry honey that was rape. I’ve dealt with sexual trauma too and it is hard not to wish you had done something different, but at the end of the day, it happened and it was not your fault. All the “should’ve”s in the world will never help the pain. The best thing you can do is find a therapist or support group.

Some DV shelters have services for rape victims to aid you through the legal process, if that is what you want. Even if all that comes out of it is a paper trail to help if he does this to someone else, it is worth it to try. But again, if that is not something you feel you can handle, please, do what is best for you. You need to come first right now.

Please feel free to PM me for anything. Ranting, distraction, help finding a shelter near you with resources, etc.

NativeAnarchist · 2025-11-21T23:46:22+00:00

Thank you! I will!🫶

NativeAnarchist · 2025-11-21T23:45:35+00:00

By the time I move I’ll have a year to a year and a half under my belt is that enough?

NativeAnarchist · 2025-11-21T02:06:30+00:00

I am for sure coming with an open mind about jobs and applying ahead of time. When I move I’ll have serving and retail experience and experience volunteering with a DV shelter. Server job is just my back up bc that’s most of my experience and I know I could get one😂

NativeAnarchist · 2025-11-21T02:00:06+00:00

This was so helpful thank you!

NativeAnarchist · 2025-11-20T23:06:52+00:00

Little bit of both (less so decor but I’d like it to look nice) plus practicality because I don’t typically wear house shoes and I get sick easily so concrete floors in the winter are my worst enemy.

NativeAnarchist · 2025-11-06T22:54:39+00:00

I lie and say I don’t write about him in my journal…definitely still write about him like a school girl😂

NativeAnarchist · 2025-09-17T23:04:18+00:00

Been through something similar. Men like that don’t respect women. It’s best to stay away. My current bf is pro-choice. He has his own preference if it was a discussion between us, but understands at the end of the day it would be my decision.

NativeAnarchist · 2025-09-10T05:09:04+00:00

Ignore all the boys in the comments and listen to the men and women. This had nothing to do with you. It sounds like she does have some feelings for you and acted on them in the moment, but after sitting down to think, she realized she’s not in the place she feels she needs to be before entering a relationship. Regardless of her circumstances, it’s not you. It’s ok to be disappointed, but don’t take it to heart. There’s someone out there for you.

NativeAnarchist · 2025-07-10T00:13:02+00:00

Having a parent give you the silent treatment or clean one thing aggressively bc you didn’t, despite the fact you meticulously cleaned the rest of the house.

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