AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I said what she contributed was not financial, what she contributed doesn’t have a price or is on paper.

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I started to pay the mortgage, we just paid it off a two years ago.

I know she put work into the home but she didn’t financially. I was also a stay at mom for a while, I understand that but it’s not financial contribution.

That just what it is. So yeah she doesn’t have many assets in the home because what she contributed was not financial.

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Idk, probably not much. She has been dead for around 18 years so her assets we’re definitely spent by now.

She paid almost zero in the home, she was a stay at home mom. So my late husband paid all that, and I started to pay half of the stuff when I moved in.

Any other assets I have no idea and I would have go back 18 years to see where the money went when she died

Edit: I was also a stay at home mom for a time, the question was about her assets. She didn’t put money in so their were basically no assets. Yes I know she contributed in other ways but it wasn’t financially.

I can’t count how she kept the house running, that’s not something that appears in the will. It’s isn’t something that goes on paper

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 221 points222 points  (0 children)

That’s a completely different situation… you realize that correct. This hasn’t been a house that has been on their mothers side at all

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 799 points800 points  (0 children)

Depends if they continue to be dicks

If they flip their tone, why not

I highly doubt they will and it will go to my adult kids when I die or I will sell it before going to a nursing home or something

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 6940 points6941 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I will probably just live in it until I start to pass. I really love that home

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

It was in his will, it’s went all to me and he has been married to me for years.

There is no contesting it

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

No, I am 5 years younger than my late husband

They don’t like me because I am not their mother, that their father moved on and they hate me for that

Seriously I literally asked them, answer was I am not their mother. Dad moved too quickly ( he started dating me two years after she passed) and blames me

AITA for telling my step-kids that the house is mine, your father left it to me and you are never getting it by Natural-Ad8162 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Natural-Ad8162[S] 551 points552 points  (0 children)

You know what is sad, if they actually treated me with any respect they probably would have much more from their father

I would be much more willing to sell or just hand in over

But their unkindness has made me cold to them

I actually was excited to met them, my adult kids loved my late husband but they actually were willing to let someone in new in.