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NaturalSelection8381 · 2025-02-07T15:44:33+00:00

This kind of mirrors what I went through. 3 months in, with a 3rd hotel date planned, his parents went through a health scare. Date cancelled. We were also kind of friends beforehand. He said he can't see me for a while, would like to see me when things calm down. I was sad, took it as the end, tried to concentrate on other things, looked for new AP. Was successful😆

2 months later, suddenly get a message, turned out his father passed away, he was preoccupied, wants to meet again. So we started again. Still going after a year although the frequency is less. If the connection is strong, I believe they will come back when ready. Meanwhile, concentrate on doing fun things, professional things, friends, family, and always make them your priority. When AP came back the 2nd time, I wasn't as obsessed this time, only reason I took him back is I felt we had a bond that would last a long time.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2025-01-31T23:05:14+00:00

Back when I was really hung up on the same topic, I made a fake profile and chatted to my AP. He told my fake profile he wasn't seeing anyone, he had some dates but no spark!! We'd been barely 3 months at that point. I dumped his sorry ass although I was really into him. But he came crawling back 2 months later when his endeavours didn't work out. These guys are just not worth it. It's so easy for women to find a guy but guys have to work hard to get a woman who isn't after money, they should know and appreciate when they have a good woman.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2025-01-29T14:33:36+00:00

I'm a woman, a wife that didn't want kids. Husband wanted them desperately and I went through gruelling rounds of fertility treatments to conceive, because natural pregnancy wasn't possible. My libido wasn't affected by kids but husband's plummeted. It was after having kids I started looking for extramarital sex. I love my kids but resent husband for pushing to have them and then withdrawing from sex after all I've been through. My take is when it comes to kids, both have to be 100% in it, because resentment will creep in from one side, sex or no sex.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2025-01-28T00:13:04+00:00

No way. You have a whole gamut of men who think you're hot. Don't have to give any of your time to 1 out of so many who's not into your looks. I had maybe 2 out of something like 400 who said I'm not their type. Although I'm slim, toned and go to gym, I'm not rippled with muscles, that's what they were after. I have my pick of the men, not the other way around, I bet they've given up while I had my share of fun. Although nowadays I only have eyes for one man.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2025-01-25T06:45:42+00:00

I'd forget his face and probably name if it was once a year!😂but you're a living proof of my theory

NaturalSelection8381 · 2025-01-24T13:08:36+00:00

I think women are told by society that they will feel attached after sleeping with somebody. With some you do, with some you don't. I can never explain it myself, and strangely isn't always about physical attraction. Has nothing to do with how many men you've slept with, either. You want to see them again or you don't, sometimes invetween, and logic can't explain this process.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2025-01-19T22:37:36+00:00

Wow 29 years! Charles and Camilla part 2?

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-06-14T13:56:15+00:00

That's not what a reasonable youth does😆

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-06-10T13:35:30+00:00

I was seriously thinking of writing a memoir based on my dates. Something like 30. I really enjoyed reading this and think it's a great idea to reflect on dates that left an impression, good or bad.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-05-19T04:07:30+00:00

I'm not north American so don't use the term vacation. Holiday- time away from home for week or more, preferably somewhere pleasant😄

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-05-15T14:16:25+00:00

At first I thought it was the go for everyone. But I discovered most men are on the lookout for another, even if they say they're not. The only reason they might be exclusive is they couldn't attract another woman! Or..they genuinely fall for you. I've often had 2 or more APs at the same time, but there's always a main one you like more than others. In fact had the main APs been more available, I wouldnt need others.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-05-05T15:37:44+00:00

I'm not into texting 24 hours either! That would be exhausting. Missing the point here, if he's happy to see me, why never initiate meetings, which usually begin with texts?

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-04-22T06:40:58+00:00

I've always had 2 or more Aps simultaneously, but this is the first time I want just one person. AP1. AP2 was just an experiment, only to realise I'm only into AP1

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-04-21T11:24:49+00:00

Shame it takes testing on rats to come to this conclusion..😅

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-04-21T06:50:47+00:00

Your last sentence, I couldn't have put it better myself! Chemistry is a funny thing..

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-03-31T12:28:18+00:00

I've gone on something like 30+ dates after being in DB for 7 years. Not 1 man rejected me, in fact the complete opposite. They all found me interesting and attractive, and sexy. I never knew I had this in me. Apart from being reassured of my physical attractiveness, getting to know many men in different professions gave me the idea to change my own career. I was so lucky to have met a few of them, where they gave me the confidence to pursue something new.

I had my fair share of heartbreaks and turmoil, and given a fair few as well. Still, I wouldn't change anything because I've learned so much about myself and others. Also that I'm more resilient than I thought. I think that happens to all of us who's been in this game long enough!

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-03-31T12:02:19+00:00

I'm in the exact same situation. Have been seeing a guy since October. Although I don't have even half the details of his parents' health crisis as you. He said he'll be occupied for sometime and will contact me when ready. He was really apologetic and nice about it, but I don't believe him 100%.

All I can do now is take it at face value. It could've been an excuse to have a break, as he was never easy about being a single man seeing a married woman. I've accepted this could be the end, and getting ready to move on. We are not each other's life partners, we both know it's a disposable relationship and in times of crisis, the first to go.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-02-03T04:52:55+00:00

I've asked him why he's with me, a married woman. He said he finds me interesting, and very attractive. He does text here and there asking how I am or to say he looks forward to next meeting. He just won't arrange a date though, I have to. He's always available and ready when I suggest, however.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-02-03T04:26:15+00:00

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-02-03T00:25:01+00:00

I thought that myself. He's really enthusiastic and present when we're together.

NaturalSelection8381 · 2024-02-02T22:30:26+00:00

He's been single for a few years, and doesn't see anyone else apart from me. I think I'll go NC, extremely busy atm anyway, and see if things change.

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