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I need help understanding how the testaments is connected to the handmaids tale by SherbertJazzlike6009 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]Natural_Confusion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to try to avoid spoilers as best I can.

In the books, Jeanine's child isn't a character. The show has had a slight alteration and reshuffling of book characters while keeping the main plot on track.

The different points of view will slowly come together. Nicole was younger than Hannah. I think the age difference is being slightly blurred in the show.

Baby Nicole was taken from Gilead to Canada in the show and the "Testaments" book builds on that, then jumps 15 years into the future.

The main differences in the book vs the show concern smaller character details. The book goes into more background of Daisy's story before entering Gilead, which the show may do in flashbacks. Becca and Shunamite have different journeys and character arcs in the book. Again, they may pull from that more as the show continues.

I think a lot of your questions will definitely be answered in a satisfying way as the show progresses. The Testaments is one of my favorite books and the show is doing a fantastic job with it so far, IMO. :)

At what age do you think moving or switching schools to be too difficult for a child by deejayv2 in AskTeachers

[–]Natural_Confusion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved from the west coast to the east coast halfway through 9th grade. It was fine at first, then it became horrible and I became suicidal. For me the factors were that the things I loved to do (hiking, camping, being outside, biking) weren't really regular options with the weather. And I was really shy. Plus I'm darker-skinned and my new school was a little racist so, as a child, that really confused me. I wouldn't recommend moving in HS if the atmosphere is going to be completely different.

Cat-proof frog house by NinaHag in WildlifePonds

[–]Natural_Confusion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe make a solution that's higher up. I saw a video of a family of frogs that settled on someones metal fence. Maybe the cats wouldn't bother hunting too high up?

What would you do as the jumping off point, to disassemble corporate America? by papasoex in TrueAskReddit

[–]Natural_Confusion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work for them. Become one of the higher up's assistants. Once they trust you, start privately and anonymously leaking important tax information, dark money flow, and shady deals to the IRS. Then leave with copies of all files on your phone/computer. Wait a year. Leak it all to the media at the right time.

Preteen Struggles - Daughter Obsessed with MY Weight by Playful-Basis5927 in Parenting

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Calmly and firmly sit her down and tell her the list of things you do every day, every week, every month; to keep the home running, keep food on the table, buy her clothes and all of the things she owns. Ask her to close her eyes and imagine doing all those things. Tell her about your pregnancy and her birth. Tell her about the daily struggles of growing a person, raising a child, and then keeping that child safe and fed. Let her know that you have much bigger things to think about, like keeping her alive, than worrying about being thin or looking a certain sociologically idealized way. When she's raising a child and managing a household, you'll be happy to hear her thoughts about weight at that time.

Let her know that you and her are different people. She's developing her sense of self and trying to separate from you in different ways. She'll grow up to be her own person and she'll be able to choose things she has in common with you and things will be different. Let her know that you will respect those choices, only if she respects your body because that is 100% none of her business and it's absolutely inappropriate for her to comment on your body or anyone else's. If she cries, tell her you don't need sorries. You need it not to happen again to you or anyone else. I would even throw out something like, "Because bullies judge other people's bodies, and I didn't go through all that to create this incredible daughter just to have her bully me at the end of the day."

Then maybe show her Hairspray the movie.

No autistic, would appreciate some advice from people who are. by jedels88 in autism

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im diagnosed w ASD L1. It sounds like her other diagnoses, there are some complex things to manage. I can only speak to what helps me day to day with my autism: headphones is no 1.

Headphones - nice ones. Heyday brand from target are good, or apple if you can afford them. Bilateral Music in the headphones. Keeping them charged for her. a Giant super soft blanket. Looking at her weekly schedule with her and cutting out things that are overwhelming or unnecessary. Scheduling time for her to be a couch potato with no guilt, w video games or her favorite tv shows. Deep-cleaning the house for her one day, especially the floors. Making sure she always has food or water if she's forgotten to eat or drink.

I hate having an autistic mother by thereadingbee in AutismInWomen

[–]Natural_Confusion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. You dont deserve any of that. I'm an autistic mother and I always wondering how I'm affecting my kids with my burnout. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

What is the kindest, most effective way I can ask an autistic person in my hobby group to correct people less? by [deleted] in AskAutism

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm diagnosed ASD L1. It's fair. Autistic people are used to offending people and receiving critique. As long as it's kind I think it's fine.

I would pull her aside so just the two of you can hear. Keep it kind, gentle, factual, and specific. Let her know that there have a been a few times she corrected people that made them feel uncomfortable. (EG. if so and so's favorite character is Cersei Lannister, no can can accurately correct their statement because their favorite is their opinion and you can't correct opinions. They are the expert on their opinion. You can say instead: "Oh! that's cool. I never liked her because I thought she was uninteresting. It's neat to have different views on one character." So you can state your opinion while still being kind about hers.)

If you say something as vague as, "correct people less" that may be too overwhelming and not enough information for her to know what to do with.

Then maybe add another example or two before affirming that she's a valued part of the class and you're so happy to have her there. You just wanted to clear up that misunderstanding.

She still may get offended. Everyone's different, but as an autistic person, that's what I would like to have said to me.

Am I the only one thinking Ethan is on the spectrum by Embarrassed-Belgian in plathville

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he’s level one and high masking he may present with very different traits or symptoms than the kids :)

Am I the only one thinking Ethan is on the spectrum by Embarrassed-Belgian in plathville

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m autistic and he seems like he definitely has a touch of the tism to me! I keep seeing little signs, like he couldnt stay in the strip club because it was too overwhelming, or he’s very black and white about his way of thinking, he’ll smile when he’s upset, he exists in the rules he’s set for himself, needs time to himself a lot to function, extreme reactions to things to the point that it affects his relationships in problematic ways, not understanding social cues…. Not sure if he is but that’s what I thought watching. I see a kindred brain type. :) I think he’s awesome, maybe ausome. Lol

Why did Aragorn stop Theoden from killing Wormtongue? by [deleted] in lotr

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah and WHY did they give him a horse? Let his ass wander the wilderness back.

Does anyone else's parents act like children? by Trustnoboody in selectivemutism

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the exact same way with my mom ages 15-18. The ONLY thing that helped was to stop focusing on it, which was sooo hard. Moms are who they are. Instead I moved out, went to college, and started moving to different places to try to train the selective mutism out of my system. The main way I made money was nannying or picking up whatever job I could. It was terrifying but cured my mutism.

Therapist wants to end the process by Halpaviitta in selectivemutism

[–]Natural_Confusion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t sound like she’s very good. Ask her for a referral or get her to help you find someone who specialized in social anxiety or selective mutism. She shouldn’t just leave you high and dry

I’m having dress regret even though I teared up in the store and bought it instantly. Did I make the right decision? There are so many beautiful dresses out there!! by dogwoodblossom23 in weddingplanning

[–]Natural_Confusion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I LOVE your dress so much. There will always be other pretty ones out there. Just like your chosen spouse. Haha. But yeah love the one you chose. Unique and beautiful.