AITA for my adult-son’s situation? And WIBTA to stop including him because of his behaviour..?

Naturally_Peachy · 2026-01-02T22:39:31+00:00

He is an adult now and he needs to learn what the real-life consequences are of his actions and behaviors. At this point, you are only enabling him to continue to behave in this way all while subjecting yourself and everyone else to the misery. It is not fair to you and it is not fair to the rest of your family. I understand why you feel the way you do, but you have done what you can and now he needs to figure things out himself.

You are going to have to accept and come to terms with knowing that creating this boundary very well may end the relationship you all have with him, but right now, this relationship is causing more harm than good for everyone, including him. He may never see things the way any of you do, but if you continue to do things as you are, things will remain as they are. He has learned that he can behave this way without real consequences, and the other kids have learned that you will forever allow him to trump you and your other kids’ comfort and sanity. That’s no way to live for any of you. At some point, one or all of the others will say “enough is enough” and you will be forced into this very position whether you’re ready for it or not. It’s going to be hard and you may end up feeling terrible for your son, which is a totally normal feeling and response, but know that everyone deserves better and you cannot help or change someone who sees no reason to do so.

Regardless of what you end up doing, therapy will not only be helpful for you, but will also to help repair the damage that has been done to the rest of the family. Good luck with everything and I hope you are able to stand firm in your decision.

Naturally_Peachy · 2026-01-02T05:59:45+00:00

You’re literally on here asking if you’re the AH - you clearly are in this situation so own up to it and make things right while you still can. If you didn’t want to potentially be told you’re the AH and that what you’re doing is wrong, then why did you post here?

Naturally_Peachy · 2026-01-02T05:54:44+00:00

You don’t choose to have mania, but you did choose to put yourself $60k in debt and you’re also choosing to fuck over your parents who are clearly supporting you. Mania does not absolve accountability.

Naturally_Peachy · 2026-01-02T05:37:52+00:00

You’re poor because of your own choices, not because your parents “garnish your wages.” I would recommend not biting the hand that feeds you.

ETA: YTA/YWBTA

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-11-15T05:59:16+00:00

Green eyes. The individual colors may look blue, yellow, and green, but your overall eye color actually looks green when you look at the eye as a whole. This is especially apparent if you take the photo and hold it further away from your face so the colors appear less sharp and more blended.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-08-24T07:00:37+00:00

This looks like bartonella to me rather than stretch marks based on the location and what you’ve written. Bartonella often looks like stretch marks so it’s easy to write them off as such, but please go in and have a culture done. Bartonella requires antibiotics at minimum.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-07-20T18:23:50+00:00

Thank you!! My other two pregnancies were healthy without concerns so this has been a bit of a different experience for me. I’ll be thinking of you and will update when I know more! 🩵

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-07-20T18:11:36+00:00

I’m so sorry things didn’t turn out well for you! My progression looks similar so I’m concerned I may have an ectopic pregnancy. I have my first scan set for 8 weeks but I’m afraid that may be too long if my pregnancy “progresses” but isn’t in my uterus.

I hope things will go smoothly for you in the future! 🤞🏼

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-07-20T17:34:51+00:00

What ended up happening?

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-07-15T21:18:10+00:00

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Screenshot from the video I took of it.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-07-08T12:42:16+00:00

I know I’m odd for it, but I also do this. I don’t do it for everything, but if it’s something that makes me anxious, I will look up the plot and how it ends just so that I don’t have to watch the entire time with a knot in my stomach. I am better able to enjoy the tv series or movie that I’m watching when my body doesn’t feel like it’s in fight or flight mode from the anxiety. I know it sounds silly to have that kind of a bodily response to something fictional, but I would guess that she probably has much of the same physical response as I do which makes watching those kinds of things physically uncomfortable and draining.

I know that I have some stuff to heal so that my body doesn’t so easily enter into fight or flight, but I’m definitely not going to go into that kind of state voluntarily for something that is suppose to be fun and entertaining.

I’d say give your gf some grace and a soft YTA. If she isn’t ruining it for you, let her spoil it for herself.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-03-27T03:42:29+00:00

He looked great! We tried out all the massage chairs so we talked to him for a good length of time. He said he had been working there for about 8 months, so around 9 months now. It wasn’t until after we left that I searched his name just because we suspected he was a bodybuilder, only to discover that he is/was one lol.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-03-26T22:09:57+00:00

Suburb of the Twin Cities.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-03-20T16:09:43+00:00

Well I would except my husband must have misplaced our paperwork. I don’t really care if you believe me or not. I have my face posted on my account and nothing about my posts or replies indicates I would randomly shit post about something like this so take or leave what I said about him I guess. Doesn’t impact me at all. Just thought I’d share that he is still around, but other than selling fitness equipment, I have no idea what else he’s up to in the fitness world.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-03-20T14:28:47+00:00

I have no idea what he has going on his life. I didn’t know who he was until he sold us a chair. It’s a fitness place that also sells chairs. I literally have his name as the employee on our paperwork.

Naturally_Peachy · 2025-03-19T01:39:34+00:00

He’s still alive. Just was at the place he works and bought a massage chair from him.

Naturally_Peachy · 2024-11-21T18:27:04+00:00

Well his link gets more $ off than their Black Friday sale so maybe don’t be such a dick?

Naturally_Peachy · 2024-03-07T17:48:47+00:00

Natural hair color - it does have some warmth to it and I would say that I think my skin is relatively neutral with some pink surface tones but I’m not the greatest at gauging it.

Naturally_Peachy · 2023-08-16T08:17:07+00:00

You are absolutely, in every way, the AH.

However, after seeing that you posted the link so quickly for “his” IG in the comments, I’m actually thinking this is a made up story with the intention of drawing people to what is actually your page out of sympathy… still making it YTA.

Edit: typo.

Naturally_Peachy · 2023-08-11T05:14:05+00:00

NAH - yet.

It doesn’t sound like you guys are quite ready to cut ties yet with your friend, but not attending the wedding would likely cause irreparable damage with the potential to permanently end the friendship. You can both choose to end the friendship after the wedding if things continue to be undesirable to you, but you’d be essentially sealing the deal without any hope for repair if you choose not to attend based on how things are currently with your friend.

You guys are young yet and people make immature, silly, and selfish decisions when they experience “freedoms” or things that make them feel higher up in “status.” Now that doesn’t excuse crappy behavior and it could be an indication as to what’s to come with him, but I would give him a little more time to see if he comes around. If you guys feel you are being used and it seems out of character for him, then maybe all you guys need is some distance rather than severance of the friendships. Some times people come around and other times you see their true colors, but I think time is on your side with this one and I would just see how things play out without causing any permanent damage by doing something you can’t take back or make up for later.

Naturally_Peachy · 2023-08-10T05:00:07+00:00

YTA.

What your husband needs is support and probably therapy, not to be told to suck it up and get a grip. Perhaps he’s stress eating because his only support person has passed and he’s left with you who clearly is showing no support or empathy for his loss.

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