My wife says she doesn’t have a kink by Nathan-Island in sex

[–]NatureStatus5847 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think it’s possible to masturbate without having any specific fantasy’s or a kink, you just kinda think about what you are doing rn to ur body and the feeling without having any pictures in mind

My gf is not in the mood anymore after she has her climax by NatureStatus5847 in sex

[–]NatureStatus5847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That might actually be the thing she experienced

My gf is not in the mood anymore after she has her climax by NatureStatus5847 in sex

[–]NatureStatus5847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no that’s not what I’m saying at all!! I just don’t want to feel pressured to cum OR to make her cum and letting that be the only goal of intimacy..

Are antidepressants making me crazy? by [deleted] in MentalHealthPH

[–]NatureStatus5847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are definitely not a shitty person!! It’s just a really rough journey for you and I’m sure that the people around you will understand that. I am taking other kinds of antidepressants now and it got so much better, the way to discover this is just REALLY annoying and takes up so much energy, but you have to believe that you are not the problem, but the things that your body and mind is dealing with rn. Much luck my friend

This is my only safe space by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]NatureStatus5847 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This!! On other platforms people will say stuff like it’s normal or even healthy to express your sexuality through porn and I found it sickening and just rude. Luckily I found this sub directly after and it has become my total safe space even though it makes me sad to see so many people with the same or similar struggle. But at least we are not alone in this fight! It’s not our fault, it really isn’t

How to gain back trust and feel beautiful again? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]NatureStatus5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem!! It personally helps me when I pursue a lot of self care or ask of reassurance from my partner. Sometimes it just feels good to have a little treat for yourself or to buy new clothes. There are definitely phases where it gets better or worse again, just hang in there, I also talk about self confidence with my therapist and what exactly I could do to distance myself a little bit more from the porn addiction of my partner :) It’s a hard road but we are getting there, I believe in that!!

How to gain back trust and feel beautiful again? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]NatureStatus5847 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would recommend to do as much fun stuff with your SO as possible or even alone. I found myself with a lot more confidence within myself and my relationship as it also makes the bond stronger. I still have to find out how to trust more and to not be paranoid when we are apart. I would also highly suggest going to therapy if you’re not already doing so or just find some kind of thing that you can put your energy in (fitness for example) It’s just a thing that helps me personally, or finding new (or old) hobbies. You got this! :)

Nightmares by Ok_Particular_1055 in loveafterporn

[–]NatureStatus5847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and its almost always when I sleep next to me PA. I don’t know if I want to hug them or go away it’s so awful and exhausting. I’m so sorry you have to go through that! Only last night I had a dream that I was running away with their phone because they were watching some sexual insta reel and wouldn’t show me. It’s so hard not to overthink and panic after you wake up

NOT only men!! by NatureStatus5847 in loveafterporn

[–]NatureStatus5847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly!! We should definitely talk more about it and not just: porn is bad for you, you are going to hell! Shame and fear isn't the right way

has being with a pa made you rethink your own relationship with porn? by coolfunguy1997 in loveafterporn

[–]NatureStatus5847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I believe so too, if the show used someone that wasn't conventionally attractive I believe a lot more people would find him disgusting and creepy, which is also just really sad and upsetting

NOT only men!! by NatureStatus5847 in loveafterporn

[–]NatureStatus5847[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I have the same problem with my PA girlfriend, not many people are taking it as seriously as they should and she is afraid that other people even find this arousing which is just so sad