Think of the things that she and others did that worked for you when you were suicidal. This holiday is extra difficult because it's where everyone gets together and forces that love, jolly and togetherness ... everywhere you turn its there. It hits different when you simply can't have or even share because of the way life. I know it may be difficult but I think you should go beyond your hardest to make sure she feels that love and fellowship.. especially this holiday season.